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Do The Work

Do The Work

I know you’ve heard the saying “the grass is/isn’t greener on the other side.” You’ve probably also heard it said that the reason we think the grass is greener on the other side is because we pay more attention to ‘their’ grass instead of tending to our own.

Well, I want to take a moment to talk about doing the work.

About a year ago, hubby and I talked about taking better care of our grass. You see we have this neighbor who has impeccable grass. Check out the photo below… You’ll noticed the not-so-cared-for-grass is ours and the really nice grass is that of our neighbors across the street.

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Well one of the things that I’ve learned about watching our neighbor is that you’ve got to be in it for the long haul if you want your grass to be green just like the grass on the other side. And just so you know, while writing on my porch, my neighbor had already been out watering his grass and tending to his lawn.  Talk about consistency.

Over the years, I (we) noticed that every chance he got he’s be out two sometimes three times a day watering, cutting, trimming his grass. He was doing the work.

Hubby and I on the other hand… NOT! (lol)

We wanted the green grass like our neighbor but we’d just been offering lip service. You know, talking a good game.

Well since writing this post (it’s been about a week), guess what I’ve been doing?

Yep you guessed it!

DOING THE WORK!

found our sprinkler, hooked it up to the hose so that I could water my own grass instead of watching my neighbor water his. It’s actually been 2-3 times this week. I’m pretty proud of myself, if I do say so myself.

Now you might be wondering how this applies you, well like hubby and I, I imagine you’ve got really good, no great lip service. You even know what to do (or maybe you don’t). You watch other people get their lives in order. You watch other people go after their dreams. You talk about how great their ‘grass’ looks and how you wish you could get yours to look like ‘theirs.‘ You talk about wanting what they have or something similar.

BUT you just sit by in admiration, sometimes with envy wishing and wanting things to be different however you aren’t doing anything different.

Let me ask you this?

  • Are you willing to do the work needed to have the green grass (life, dreams, goals, etc.) you admire and desire?
  • Are you willing to learn what’s needed to accomplish what you desire?
  • Are you ready to start doing and stop talking or thinking about it?

You see, in addition to being willing to do the work, you may have to learn a new skill or get some training and you will most assuredly have to stop running your mouth and get to work.

I will say that there is still much to be done with my own grass, but I am proud to say that I am doing the work. My next step will be to buy some grass seed to make my lawn fuller, as well as get rid of some of the weeds, but I am committed to doing the work, what about you?

Your assignment:

  1. Identify your ‘green grass.’ What have you been talking and thinking about doing but have yet to do? 
  2. Stop talking and thinking about it.
  3. Identify what’s needed in order for you to get started?  Do you have what you need or will you have to acquire tools, supplies, training, etc. (Don’t spend money if you don’t need to.)
  4. Take some time to write in a journal why you haven’t gotten started today? What’s really holding you back. Sometimes it’s easier to admire what others are doing from a far than it is to put the work in.
  5. Start today. Do the work. Do one thing today that will inch you towards achieving your ‘green grass.’

I know that his/her grass seems greener on the other side, but you could have green grass if you would just do the work. @TrueheartSpeaks

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Until Next Time…

Hug + Love + Prayers

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Change: Are you running from it?

Happy Sunday!

Now sure where in the world you might be, I am praying this message is find you nice and warm.  Here up north it is starting to get chillllly.  Yes C.O.L.D.  We got some snow last week and this is just the beginning.  I don’t even want to think about it.  The way out winters work up here, we could have snow showing up as late as May.  Can say a quick prayer that winter ends in March when spring arrives. 🙂 I know it’s wishful thinking, but a girl can dream can’t she.

Ok so last week, I shared a video via Facebook Live on the subject of Change.  I wondered why it is so hard for us to embrace change.  There are things that we know we need to do but we run from them because it challenges us to come out of our comfort zones and it forces us to change some things about us or our surroundings.

Click the image below and check out this week’s Life Purpose Message. Then let me know what you think.

If you are already a part of the #iSpeakLife Society, you may have seen this but it doesn’t hurt to watch it again.  Ever watch a movie a second, third or fourth time and get a new perspective each time you watch it.  Yeah me too.  So click the image and check out the video (again). 🙂

Until next time…

Remember to Live Purposefully!

Hugs + Love + Prayers


P.S. If you haven’t heard, ladies, the #iSpeakLife Society has officially launched.  If you are a woman of faith looking to live purposefully and grow spiritually, then join me here: bit.ly/ispeaklifesociety.  This group will help you get out of your own way and get to the business of living! Join me and a host of fabulous ladies in the #iSpeakLife Society Facebook Group.

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What 2015 taught me…

What 2015 taught me...

I know we are a few weeks into the new year… but I’ve still been reflecting on 2015 and the lessons I learned.  So I wanted to share them with you…

  • It’s great to be recognized.
  • Hard work does pay off.
  • Coasting in life will catch up to you.
  • It’s ok to take a break.
  • It’s not as big of a deal as you think (whatever your it is).
  • God really is in control.
  • Rest is essential.
  • Listen to your body.
  • Accolades feel good but they don’t pay bills nor do they determine your worth/value especially if you don’t believe it.
  • You are worth more than you could imagine.
  • Marriage is hard some days.
  • Being a parent is one of the hardest but most rewarding jobs out there.
  • Don’t let people determine or steal your worth.
  • You are awesome.
  • You do good work….NO… you do AWESOME work!
  • You’re not as good at being an entrepreneur as you thought… Building this empire is going to take more work than expected. But it will be worth it.
  • Focus… Distractions are everywhere and an annoyance to someone with the attention span of a gnat.
  • Stay the course. If you quit you’ve got to start over and some times starting over sucks when you realize how much further you could be.
  • Learn the lesson.
  • Everything isn’t for you.
  • It’s ok to reprioritize and re-evaluate.
  • Everyone who says they are for you, isn’t really for you. They just talk a good game. But the people who are really for you, are really for you. Be thankful for them.
  • Trust your gut. Listen to the Holy Spirit.
  • Own your call and gift. Be ok with being anointed an set apart. No need in hiding or putting it on a shelf.
  • Boundaries are important… Set them and keep them in tact.
  • You have to be more consistent. Remember that repetition plus consistency = success.
  • This is just the beginning…..

I’m sure there are other lessons I missed and will add as time goes on .

Take some time to really reflect on 2015.  Write down all the lessons 2015 taught you and then share a few with me.

Until next time…

Remember to Live Purposefully!

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Have Your Moment

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All in the same week, there have been deaths that have affected people close to me.  My mom lost two of her best friends in the same week one was out of the blue and the other we knew it was just a matter of time. Then one of my best friends lost her mother suddenly.  Last week I had a few students in my Success Life Skills class who were having really bad days and they just couldn’t seem to get themselves together.  They were in class but they weren’t.  The class discussion was about working, grinding and hustling.  Doing what you need to do to make things happen in your life and being consistent at it. Well it got to a point where a few of my students kept bringing up things that were getting in the way or traumatic incidents that they never really dealt with and ended up having a break down and breakthrough in class, which happens often.  When my students get aha moments in my class or come to the realization that some things need to change in their lives, tears of release start streaming down their faces.

As I was preparing for this week’s post, a statement that I had been saying all week was ‘have your moment.’  Sometimes in the midst of everything we have going on, life gets so crazy and overwhelming that we sometimes miss the opportunity to have a moment. You might be asking, “What exactly does that mean?”

Well it means cry if you need to cry, laugh if you need to laugh, scream if you need to scream, but HAVE YOUR MOMENT.  Additionally, I teach my students and coaching clients the importance of not staying in the moment.  It’s okay to be angry, sad, confused, overwhelmed, etc, but you can’t stay there.  You can have bad moments but not bad days or weeks or months.  Don’t let a moment steal the joy and love, and peace and happiness life is waiting to give you.

My girlfriend, I imagine, is going to have many moments once the overwhelm of preparing for her mom’s funeral subsides.  I imagine that my mom will think of her friends at different times and have many moments remembering all of the good times they had together.  I am sure you have had things happen in your life that when you think about them, make you smile while tears well up in your eyes.  It’s okay.  Have your moment.  Feel the emotion you are having.  Don’t ignore it, don’t just push through it as it if it didn’t happen.  Don’t repress it and act like it didn’t happen.  Sometimes it’s easier to move on when you take time to actually acknowledge what you are feeling.  As I watched my one student try to hold back the tears, once I gave her permission to have her moment, she let out what I believe she had been holding in for who knows how long.  She just let out this HUGE sigh with her cry.

So let me ask you…

  • What are you holding in?
  • What are you holding back?
  • Who told you that it wasn’t okay to have and live in your moment?

Well, I now give you permission to have your moment.  Now remember, the key is to feel the emotion, let the emotion do what it’s supposed to do and then keep moving.  Take as much time as you need, just don’t let it stop you from living.  Have your moment, just don’t let your moment consume you.  The bible is clear that “those that live Godly in Christ shall suffer persecution.”  The bible also says “many are the afflictions of the righteous but the Lord will deliver them from them all.”  If you have difficulty making it through hard and difficult times, cast your cares on God because He cares for you. Know that this too shall pass.  As hard as it may seem and as bad as it may feel. If He brought you to it, He WILL bring you through it.

Until Next Time…

Here’s to you living life IN & ON Purpose…
Detra
Speaker | Life Coach
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Detra M. Trueheart is a Speaker and Life Coach. Her company, TrueheartSpeaks Enterprises, is dedicated to helping women of faith break barriers in beliefs and behaviors to create a life lived IN and ON Purpose. Learn how Detra can help you create a life with more faith, focus, freedom, & fulfillmenthttp://www.trueheartspeaks.com

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