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How to hear from God more clearly during your quiet time.

Hear from God during Quiet Time

In preparation for 2016, I shared a survey asking a series of questions. One of which was “Which of the following areas do you struggle with the most?” There were about 5-7 topics that rose to the top of the list. I then asked my blog readers, my vip email list & the women in my private fb page which of those topics you’d like me start with and can you guess which one had the highest number?

Yep you guessed it, it was quiet time with God to clearly hear from Him. Now if you are reading this and thinking, that wasn’t on my list, no worries, I’ll be addressing all of the top topics you selected at some point throughout this year.

I got you! 😉

Ok so with that said, I wanted to share what works for me when I need to hear from God more clearly during my quiet time. Now let me say that it’s been almost 20 years since I committed my life to Christ, so don’t be so hard on yourself. This is a skill that takes time, patience, diligence and consistency.

You may not automatically recognize the voice of God because you aren’t sure if it’s him or you. I get it. I’ve been there and to be honest if I’m not careful to set time aside to commune and spend time with God, even some 19 years later, I question if what I heard was Him.  If I happen to busy myself with the world’s cares and my own cares without giving them to him and letting him guide me through them, I get caught up in the busyness and chaotic noise of the world around me.

Can you relate?

  • You want to spend time with God but you don’t know where to start. 
  • You want to hear from him more clearly but aren’t sure if what you hear is him.
  • Your life is so crazy that trying to find quiet time is like trying to find a needle in a haystack.
  • You hear people say they hear from God but you have no clue what that’s like.
If any of these hit home, well let me tell you this… YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Spending time with God is just like spending time
with any other person you want to get close to.
#QuietTimeChallenge

Can you remember a time when you were dating someone and you wanted to be with them all the time? Even with a busy schedule, you made time for them.

Why?

Well because you wanted to see your boo. I don’t care how long of a day you had, you weren’t going to let that day go by without talking to or seeing him/her.

Take a second and really think about it.

This is what God wants from us. He wants to spend time with us. He wants to talk to us. He wants to love on is. He wants to be the first and last thing on our minds and in our hearts.

Now I know what you’re saying, “yeah Detra that’s sounds good and all and yes that’s what I want, but how do I get to that point.”

I get it and I’m going to help you out.

Below are some of the things I do to hear from God more clearly during my quiet time.

Yes I use them!

Check them out and figure out what you can immediately implement.

  • Schedule it in. Put it in your calendar.
  • Start small. Set aside at least 10-15 minutes. If you’ve never done this, don’t schedule 30 minutes to an hour. You will overwhelm yourself. 
  • Eliminate all distractions.
  • Set the tone with worship music.
  • Be Open.
  • Read God’s word and let it speak to you.
  • Get Quiet.
  • Reflect on what you read and how it will affect you today.
  • Get a journal/notebook to write down what you hear.
  • Be consistent. It will feel uncomfortable at first, but keep at it.

Now keep in mind there are other things you can do to hear from God more clearly but here are just a few to help you get started. Also remember that prayer and quiet time are different. You’re idea of prayer may be giving God your laundry list of to dos, saying amen, then getting up and going about your day without letting Him respond.

Stop it!

That’s not prayer, that’s a monologue. This is why you may not be able to hear clearly from him. You haven’t sat still long enough to allow him to respond. Once you pray, sit tight, get quiet and let God speak.


Give God the same kind of love and attention you want from Him.

#QuietTimeChallenge

Listen, there are days that I don’t say a word other than “God I want to hear from you. Speak to me today. I need you.”

Especially if what I’m going through has me on my last leg and there really isn’t anything else for me to say.

If you’ve been there you know what I mean.

Hopefully this post and the strategies I shared will help you on your journey to hearing from God more clearly.

Want to have these suggestions at your disposal to print and hang up to refer to?

Awesome!

I figured you would, so I created a Quiet Time Checklist for you to refer to when having your quiet time with God.

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Next time you prepare to get quiet and have some alone time with God, use my FREE QUIET TIME CHECKLIST to help position you to hear everything God wants to say to you.

Until Next Time…

Hug + Love + Prayers

Detra

P.S. Make sure you comment below or in the #iSpeakLife Society Private FB Group to let me know if this post and the checklist were helpful to you.
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P.S.S. Join me this week for my 5 Day Quiet Time Challenge, Monday-Friday from 7am-7:15am on Periscope.
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Change: Are you running from it?

Happy Sunday!

Now sure where in the world you might be, I am praying this message is find you nice and warm.  Here up north it is starting to get chillllly.  Yes C.O.L.D.  We got some snow last week and this is just the beginning.  I don’t even want to think about it.  The way out winters work up here, we could have snow showing up as late as May.  Can say a quick prayer that winter ends in March when spring arrives. 🙂 I know it’s wishful thinking, but a girl can dream can’t she.

Ok so last week, I shared a video via Facebook Live on the subject of Change.  I wondered why it is so hard for us to embrace change.  There are things that we know we need to do but we run from them because it challenges us to come out of our comfort zones and it forces us to change some things about us or our surroundings.

Click the image below and check out this week’s Life Purpose Message. Then let me know what you think.

If you are already a part of the #iSpeakLife Society, you may have seen this but it doesn’t hurt to watch it again.  Ever watch a movie a second, third or fourth time and get a new perspective each time you watch it.  Yeah me too.  So click the image and check out the video (again). 🙂

Until next time…

Remember to Live Purposefully!

Hugs + Love + Prayers


P.S. If you haven’t heard, ladies, the #iSpeakLife Society has officially launched.  If you are a woman of faith looking to live purposefully and grow spiritually, then join me here: bit.ly/ispeaklifesociety.  This group will help you get out of your own way and get to the business of living! Join me and a host of fabulous ladies in the #iSpeakLife Society Facebook Group.

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Move in spite of how you feel

Move in spite of how you feel

I had a friend call me one day and she was feeling some kinda way. She was working in a project and she just couldn’t get past how she was feeling. She was feeling blah, out of it, not motivated and just in a funk.

Have you ever felt that way…

I know I have…

Ever have a big project or task to tackle but you just did not ‘feel’ like it? Well me too. There have been tons of days where I didn’t feel like it but I did it anyway.

This conversation I was having with my friend is similar to many conversations I have had with clients on moving past how you feel so you can get to where you desire to be.

When you have a goal in front of you, you can let feelings get the best of you. And as women, we tend to rest in our feelings when making decisions.

STOP IT!

Now I’m not telling you to ignore your gut feelings or your intuition but I am saying that those feelings of ‘doubt, insecurity, I’m not enough, I don’t feel it, etc‘. — suck it up and get moving. Same thing I had to say to my girlfriend. Heck it’s the same thing I have to say to myself sometimes.  Depending on where you are in this journey, you don’t have time to be whining about how you feel.

Some days it’s do or don’t.

Either you make it happen or it doesn’t happen.

Sometimes you have to make the sacrifice now and sow the seeds now so you can reap a harvest later. Many of us want a good life, good health, good wealth, a good marriage or a great job, career or business but we don’t want to put the work in.

As a believer of Christ, the bible is clear that we walk by faith and not by sight. Walking by what you see is essentially walking by what you feel. This race we are called to run was never promised to be easy. Trust that whatever God has ordained and put you here to do, you have the strength, power and ability to do in Him.

Moving in spite of how you feel (& what you see) is all about trusting a power that is greater than you. When it gets hard, holdfast to the vision, dream, goal or aspiration. If you don’t have any, then that may be why you are tossed ‘to and fro.’ You have nothing to stand on. When your feelings are trying to overtake you, you have to also remember all of the ‘other’ stuff you’ve come through.  You also have to remember WHY you are doing what you are doing.

As you go higher, your faith will be tested and you have to make the decision that you will move in spite of how you feel. You move in what you know. You move not in what you see with your sight but in what you see with your vision.

  • Feeling like giving up…
  • Feeling like you can’t go any further…
  • Feeling like this situation is about to over take you…

Well keep going… Put one step in front of the other and don’t let how you feel abort what’s ahead of you.

Until next time…

P.S. Are you need of an extra push in this particular area of your life. Are you feeling stuck, stalled or stagnant? Book your 90-Minute Push Me Strategy Session so we can get you take immediate action and instead of staying stuck in your feelings. Click here bit.ly/pushmedetra to secure your spot.

P.S.S. Don’t forget to share this message with your peeps via email or social media.

P.S.S. My #iSpeakLife Empowerment Experience for Women is back!  The Fall Edition is happening Friday, September, 25 in Buffalo, NY.  Register and get more information at www.iSpeakLifeLive.com.

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Now is YOUR time!

Have you thought about working with me?

$97 PushMe SPECIAL

Well in an effort to support you, I wanted to make working with me a bit more accessible for those of you who believe that now is your time AND you are READY NOW to take action.

I know that many of you are feeling overwhelmed, stuck, stagnant and extremely stressed in certain areas of your life and as God began speaking to me about you during my prayer time, I decided that I wanted to meet you right where you are to be sure I was doing everything I know to do to support you.

So, FOR 24 HOURS ONLY, I am opening up my calendar for my 90 Minute One on One Push Me Strategy Session to more than just 4 people this month and I am offering it for a special reduced investment of $97 (regularly $397) to 10 (YES 10!!) people!

BOOK YOUR PUSH ME STRATEGY SESSION TODAY for $97!

If you have ever wanted to pick my brain and get my support, suggestions and strategy in the following areas of lifestyle management, spiritual guidance/development, getting out of your own way, showing up authentically in your life, putting yourself first, overcoming overwhelm, moving in spite of your fears, or just taking the first step to getting started, this offer is for you. –> bit.ly/pushme97

Working with me at this level is usually a personal investment of $397, and just so you know, you will not find this link on my website. If you make the investment on my website, you will be charged $397. Unfortunately, I can not hold spots because it is first come first serve and there are only a limited number of spaces (10 to be exact).

If you have ever been in my space and you know like I know, you will find a way to jump on this NOW!

BOOK YOUR PUSH ME STRATEGY SESSION TODAY for $97!

Once payment is received to secure your spot, you will receive an email from me to schedule the date and time of your session. All coaching sessions take place via Skype or Google Hangout. –> bit.ly/pushme97

Let me help you get clarity on the next best step to take in your life.

I look forward to hearing from you…

Detra

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Don’t believe me, Just watch

don't believe me, Just watch

#‎TrueheartSpeaksChronicles‬: Don’t be one of those people who have something to say about what everyone else is doing, but YOU aren’t doing anything but running your mouth. While you are talking. WE are doing. At least we are trying and putting forth some type of effort, while you judge, criticize and critique.

Stop it!

You aren’t a even benchwarmer, you don’t even sit on the sidelines. You speak from the bleachers. You aren’t even on the team yet. Why, because you do more talking that doing. Why because it’s more comfortable to sit and talk about what others are doing and how it probably won’t work, rather than stretch and be more than a mere exister (yeah I made that word up). But yet you have yet to even try.

Stop it! — Close your mouth and DO something.

Stop being the crab in the barrel. Stop being negative Nancy.

Stop it!

Even the benchwarmer is on the team. He may not get any play but he shows up for practice ready and awaiting his turn. What about you? Can we say the same about you. NOPE… If you aren’t going to get in the game the least you could do is cheer us on… encourage us or just be quiet and stay out of the way. It’s just that simple. Please don’t sit around waiting for our demise because you will be more than disappointed. Like, the donkey who’s master tried to bury him, we will rise and step over every ounce of dirt/shade you throw our way.

For those of you getting discouraged by the constant negative talk from those around you , find new people to share your dreams with or just don’t share them at all until God introduces you to a new row. Be intentional about surrounding yourself with people who challenge you to rise up and be better. Remember iron sharpens irons. Get round iron sharpeners. Stay away from plastic and glass… they bend, cut and break too easily.

Trust that what God has for you is for YOU. Also use wisdom, everyone who loves you won’t get it you. Leave them in their proper category. Let them love you but never trust them with your dreams if they’ve shown they can’t help you carry, give birth and grow your dreams. I’ve had to learn the hard way a few times, but after those few times, I learned my lesson. Pay attention to the patterns of people and guard your vision.

As Maya Angelou said, when people show you who they are, believe them. As you launch out and pursue living a life in and on purpose, be intentional in your pursuit…

and operate by these two phrases…

“I can show you better than I can tell you.”

“Don’t believe me, just watch!”

Show them… stop telling them!

‪#‎TrueheartSpeaks‬ ‪#‎justsayin‬ ‪#‎iSpeaksLife‬

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iSpeakLife Declaration: I choose Me.

‪#iSpeakLifeDeclaration‬:

Today, I Choose Me. I Put Me First.

On this day, I give you permission to put you first.  I give you permission to say NO to them and it, so that for once you can say YES to YOU!  Take some time identifying what you need to start saying NO to.  Then take some time to identify what you need to start saying YES to. Then I want you to start doing it.

Make sure you say this declaration at least seven (7) times today (#7X).

Joining you in this journey to generate a live of purpose we crave.

Detra

I put me first.

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I AM God’s Masterpiece

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This week’s SpeakLife Declaration is:

For I am his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that I should walk in them. (‭Ephesians‬ ‭2‬:‭10‬ ESV).

I was reading my bible last night before heading to bed and The Lord took me to Ephesians chapter 2. As I was reading the chapter, verse 10 popped out at me. It says that we are his workmanship… In other translations it says we are his masterpiece.

Now I don’t know about you but I don’t always feel like a masterpiece. I don’t always feel like the Mona Lisa. I don’t always feel like something special and unique. Something that some might call priceless.

But guess what?

Who cares what I feel, God word is clear that in spite of how I feel about myself, His word declares how HE feels about me. This passage declares the we were created for GOOD WORKS which God prepared beforehand (before we got here) and not only that, but that we should walk in those good works that were created before we got here.

So let me let you in on a little secret…. You have purpose, you have a reason for being here, you are special and unique and set apart. I know that your life and your circumstances may not agree but I serve a God that can take whatever you are going through and turn it around if you let him.

So not only for today but for the next 7 days meditate on this passage of scripture and become one with it. Meditate on it until you really start to believe it. I also want you to speak it. Say it everyday throughout the day. Constantly remind yourself that you in fact are indeed a masterpiece. You were created with something specific in mind that God purposed for you to do and to be before you got here.

Until next time…

Always remember, to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS.

LIVE, LOVE, LEAD in & on purpose

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