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God Knows What You Need

God Knows What You Need

So I’m in the process of taking better care of my grass. If you saw my last post on doing the work, you saw the comparison between my dry-thirsty grass vs my neighbor’s well-nourished grass across the street. Well as I was pulling out the sprinkler and testing it out to make sure it was going the right way. I noticed a few birds fly right to where the water was and began drinking and bathing in the water.

I smiled for a moment realizing that God knows what we need and when we need it.

Matthew 5: 26-27 says …

Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are?

These birds didn’t know if I would be watering my grass. But it was just what they needed. And I imagine that the birds weren’t having a back and forth convo with God about not having anywhere to take a bath or get something to drink.

You know how we do. 🙂

What’s interesting is that once they were done, they flew off.  They got what they needed and then were off to fly about.

If you’re like me, you like to have everything in order. You like to know all of the details. But isn’t God funny. He doesn’t give us all of the details but He always gives us what we need. It may not be what we want (sometimes it is), but it’s always what we need.

This week I want you to stop charging God up for things not happening they way you want them to. Trust Him. Trust His plan for your life. Trust that He has everything under control and that He has everything you need and will provide it at the right time.


This week I want you to stop charging God up for things not happening they way you want them to. @TrueheartSpeaks 

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Your Assignment:

  • What have you been worrying yourself about these last few days?
  • Release it and turn it over to God.
  • Stop putting expectations and restrictions on God telling him how and when and where.
  • Trust God this week to provide everything you need.

Until Next Time…

Hug + Love + Prayers

P.S. If any of the messages I share are hitting home, make sure you tweet meshare a post on facebook or comment here on my blog.  Let me know you are reading and hit me up to give a girl some love.

If this message resonated with you and you are ready to take action but need help, schedule a 45-minute Pick My Brain Strategy Session to brainstorm and create strategies to help get you moving. Click here to get more information and to schedule your session.

Ready to get out of your own way and get to the business of living but need to support of your sister-friends?  Join me and a host of other fabulous women in the #iSpeakLife Society Private FB Group for Women of Faith desiring to Live Purposefully and Grow Spiritually. bit.ly/ispeaklifesociety

Join me every Monday – Thursday at 7:15am EST for the Morning #LifeScope. Each morning I am sharing tools, tips & strategies to help you live purposefully and grow spiritually. I also share inspirational messages to help get out of your own way and get you through the day.  For the month of July, we are studying and discussing the Book of Proverbs.

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Do The Work

Do The Work

I know you’ve heard the saying “the grass is/isn’t greener on the other side.” You’ve probably also heard it said that the reason we think the grass is greener on the other side is because we pay more attention to ‘their’ grass instead of tending to our own.

Well, I want to take a moment to talk about doing the work.

About a year ago, hubby and I talked about taking better care of our grass. You see we have this neighbor who has impeccable grass. Check out the photo below… You’ll noticed the not-so-cared-for-grass is ours and the really nice grass is that of our neighbors across the street.

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Well one of the things that I’ve learned about watching our neighbor is that you’ve got to be in it for the long haul if you want your grass to be green just like the grass on the other side. And just so you know, while writing on my porch, my neighbor had already been out watering his grass and tending to his lawn.  Talk about consistency.

Over the years, I (we) noticed that every chance he got he’s be out two sometimes three times a day watering, cutting, trimming his grass. He was doing the work.

Hubby and I on the other hand… NOT! (lol)

We wanted the green grass like our neighbor but we’d just been offering lip service. You know, talking a good game.

Well since writing this post (it’s been about a week), guess what I’ve been doing?

Yep you guessed it!

DOING THE WORK!

found our sprinkler, hooked it up to the hose so that I could water my own grass instead of watching my neighbor water his. It’s actually been 2-3 times this week. I’m pretty proud of myself, if I do say so myself.

Now you might be wondering how this applies you, well like hubby and I, I imagine you’ve got really good, no great lip service. You even know what to do (or maybe you don’t). You watch other people get their lives in order. You watch other people go after their dreams. You talk about how great their ‘grass’ looks and how you wish you could get yours to look like ‘theirs.‘ You talk about wanting what they have or something similar.

BUT you just sit by in admiration, sometimes with envy wishing and wanting things to be different however you aren’t doing anything different.

Let me ask you this?

  • Are you willing to do the work needed to have the green grass (life, dreams, goals, etc.) you admire and desire?
  • Are you willing to learn what’s needed to accomplish what you desire?
  • Are you ready to start doing and stop talking or thinking about it?

You see, in addition to being willing to do the work, you may have to learn a new skill or get some training and you will most assuredly have to stop running your mouth and get to work.

I will say that there is still much to be done with my own grass, but I am proud to say that I am doing the work. My next step will be to buy some grass seed to make my lawn fuller, as well as get rid of some of the weeds, but I am committed to doing the work, what about you?

Your assignment:

  1. Identify your ‘green grass.’ What have you been talking and thinking about doing but have yet to do? 
  2. Stop talking and thinking about it.
  3. Identify what’s needed in order for you to get started?  Do you have what you need or will you have to acquire tools, supplies, training, etc. (Don’t spend money if you don’t need to.)
  4. Take some time to write in a journal why you haven’t gotten started today? What’s really holding you back. Sometimes it’s easier to admire what others are doing from a far than it is to put the work in.
  5. Start today. Do the work. Do one thing today that will inch you towards achieving your ‘green grass.’

I know that his/her grass seems greener on the other side, but you could have green grass if you would just do the work. @TrueheartSpeaks

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Until Next Time…

Hug + Love + Prayers

P.S. If any of the messages I share are hitting home, make sure you tweet meshare a post on facebook or comment on my blog.  Let me know you are reading and hit me up to give a girl some love.

If this message resonated with you and you are ready to take action but need help, schedule a 45-minute Pick My Brain Strategy Session to brainstorm and create strategies to help get you moving. Click here to get more information and to schedule your session.

Ready to get out of your own way and get to the business of living but need to support of your sister-friends?  Join me and a host of other fabulous women in the #iSpeakLife Society Private FB Group for Women of Faith desiring to Live Purposefully and Grow Spiritually. bit.ly/ispeaklifesociety

Join me every Monday – Thursday at 7:15am EST for the Morning #LifeScope. Each morning I am sharing tools, tips & strategies to help you live purposefully and grow spiritually. I also share inspirational messages to help get out of your own way and get you through the day.  For the month of July, we will be talking about the Book of Proverbs.

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Boundaries…Do you have any?

Boundaries

For the past month or so I’ve been reading Dr. Brene Brown’s book Rising Strong. To put it simply, the book is about rising after you fall. Even though it’s a little more intricate than that, I’ll leave it at that.

Part of rising when you fall is learning to set boundaries, knowing what you want and being real with yourself. As I’m reading this book I’m learning that I’m not as good at setting boundaries as I thought. I found that my expectations of people aren’t always as clear as I think. So as the work in progress that I am, I’m working on it.

I also found that setting boundaries isn’t easy yet it’s very necessary if you’re going to live purposefully. In her book and in this video, Brene says…

Boundaries are simply our lists of what’s okay and what’s not okay.

I know it seems so simple. But let me ask you a few questions, do you have any boundaries? Have you identified what’s okay and what’s not okay in your life? Are they clear to those you interact with in life, love and work?

So even though we are no longer chatting about focus this month on periscope, I believe that boundaries come with focus. I believe that you can be more focused when you’ve created boundaries for what’s okay and what’s not okay. It makes saying yes and no that much easier. It makes knowing what to focus on easier when you already know what you want or what you expect.

Dr. Brene asks this question,

What boundaries do I need to put in place so I can work from a place of integrity and extend the most generous interpretations of the intentions, words, and actions of others?

She goes in to say,

When we combine the courage to make clear what works for us and what doesn’t with compassion to assume people are doing their best, our lives change.

Dr. Brene further asks this question about boundaries as it relates to self worth and self-value. She asks,

How can we expect people to put value in our work when we don’t value ourselves enough to set and hold uncomfortable boundaries?

Listen, there is so much more where that came from therefore I think the topic of boundaries is huge when we talk about focus and fear (our new topic this month). I think boundaries help us focus, keep us clear on our expectations and allow us to live in a place & space void of unwanted feelings because we are clear on what’s acceptable and what’s not. We are clear on what we will allow and what we won’t.

Do you have clear expectations of what’s acceptable and what’s not in your life?

Maybe things have gotten out of hand because there were no clear-cut expectations expressed.

Maybe things didn’t turn out the way you desired because you didn’t really know what you wanted or maybe you did but you went against that ‘gut’ feeling by accepting what you knew you should have said NO to.

I know reading Brene’s book has allowed me to see that there have been some cloudy spaces in my life that I believe have lead to frustration because I wasn’t clear on what I wanted. Or I knew what I wanted but didn’t ask because I didn’t want to seem complicated, overbearing, etc. But life has taught me that the only way real peace is created is when boundaries are created at the jump. I have to be clear on what I want and not afraid to ask for it, whether it’s money, love, time, etc.

Brene says

compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They’re compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment.”

She goes in to say,

as miserable as resentment, disappointment, and frustration make us feel, we fool ourselves into believing that they’re easier than the vulnerability of a difficult conversation. The truth is that judgment and anger take up way more emotional bandwidth for us.

Ooooohhh that’s good…

  • Are you carrying resentment due to unclear expectations and boundaries?
  • Are you angry and resentful simply because you don’t want to have ‘that’ difficult conversation?

I’m still working through the book, so expect me to come back and share more of my ahas, but I want you to think about some of the questions Dr. Brene poses as well as those that I’ve asked. If you aren’t content with setting clear yet uncomfortable boundaries, then that may be why things aren’t going as smoothly as you’d like them to.

Part of focus is being clear on what’s acceptable and what’s not. Part of living purposefully in every area of your life, is setting boundaries that allow you to operate in your most loving and best self. It’s not about being who and what others want you be and denying yourself at the expense of others, which is what many angry, resentful and frustrated people are doing.

Are you one of them?


 

Part of living purposefully in every area of your life, is setting boundaries that allow you to operate in your most loving and best self.

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Your assignment:

Go back through these questions and get really open and honest with yourself on whether you’ve created clear and concise boundaries. If you have, great! But if you haven’t, take some time to get clear on your list of what’s okay and what’s not okay and then be willing to be vulnerable enough to have those hard, uncomfortable yet needed conversations with yourself and others.

Until Next Time…
Hug + Love + Prayers

P.S. If any of the messages I share are hitting home, make sure you tweet me, share a post on facebook or comment on my blog.  Let me know you are reading and hit me up to give a girl some love.

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Stop worrying about ‘them.’ DO YOU!

So we’ve been talking about quiet time this month.  Have you implemented any of the strategies I have been sharing with you?  I sure hope so because when you get serious about spending quiet time not only with yourself but also with God, things start to change.  YOU start to change and that’s a great thing!

Well not so great if you don’t do what God is instructing you to do because it takes you out of your comfort zone and into your courageous faith zone.  Sometimes we don’t do what we need to do because we are worried or concerned about what ‘they’ will think.  We get caught up in doing what works for them to appease them at the expense of doing what works for us.

NOT GOOD!

You see, getting quiet and spending time with God may inconvenience a few people and it may even inconvenience you a little bit but you have to do what God is tugging at you to do.  You have to do what works for you instead of what other people may think or say and in spite of how you feel.

I happened to get a notification this morning that someone had commented on a blog I wrote about two years ago and as I was preparing for this week’s message, I realized that this oldie but goodie was just what you and I needed. It’s all about doing what works for you, instead of them.

Click here to read more about how you can start (if you haven’t already) doing what works for you.  And if it looks familiar, no worries, read it again because it’s good and because it’s updated with a few more juicy nuggets. 🙂

After reading it, make sure you let me know how you liked it.  Click the like button, share a comment in the comment section, and then hop over to the #iSpeakLife Society so we can chat about how you can do more of what works for you and less of what works for ‘them.’

If you aren’t sure how to get started doing what works for you, let’s schedule a Pick My Brain Strategy Session to get you moving and out of our own way. Click here or click the image below to get more information and to schedule your session.

Until Next Time…
Hug + Love + Prayers

P.S. Did you get the FREE Quiet Time Checklist that I gave away?  If not, click here to get yours.
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Why Quiet Time is crucial and critical

Why quiet time is crucial
Per your request, this month I will be focusing on quiet time with God. If you were on my 5 day challenge on periscope, you received some short, simple but powerful strategies to get started if you’ve been struggling with this topic. If not, you missed a really good time.  We had a blast!
In today’s busy world, people say they are busy. But let’s be honest, we make and create time for what we want to do or have. If it’s important, we make and create time for it. If it’s not, we don’t. So it’s safe to say we really aren’t that busy, we’ve just decided that quiet time with God isn’t as important as some of the other things we ‘have’ to do.
I think we assume that when we don’t create time to spend with God, it’s not that big of a deal. Well guess what, it is. Quiet time is essential to your walk with God. Quiet time is essential to not only hearing from God, but hearing CLEARLY.
If the only time we go to God is when we need something, what type of message does that give him?
Let me explain…
What if the only time someone in your life spoke to you or spent time with you, was when they wanted or needed something?
They never called or texted, just to talk and see how you were doing. They ONLY called when they wanted or needed something.
I bet you can think of a few people that come to mind.
Well we don’t want to be that person with God. We want to intentionally spend time with him on a regular basis, whether we need something or not. And let’s be honest, we always need God. There’s never a time when we don’t need Him in our lives. But by spending time with Him, we show Him we appreciate him.
I go in depth on this topic in the recording from day three of the 5 day quiet time challenge.  Click here to check out day three of my quiet time challenge on why quiet time is crucial and critical.
Once you check out the video, let me know if you’ve been guilty of putting everything and everyone above your quiet time with God.
Until Next Time…
Hug + Love+ Prayers
Detra
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Do you really know what you want?

Do you really know what you want-

As we are closing out the first month of 2016 and heading into month two, I want to ask you a question, do you know what you want?

Yes it’s a simple but loaded question.

Do you REALLY know what you want?

Better yet let me ask you this, what does God want from you?

These two questions are huge because I’d like to know what your goals were for 2016 and how are you coming along in making those goals happen.

I know tons of people who went out and got planners, journals, highlighters, colored pens, post its, made these audacious goals and then went and took a nap. 🙂

Nothing happened.

Or something small happened, but nothing major.

Why, because it was overwhelming.

Now I will say this, maybe you were one of the many who got off to a good start. You created your goals and you started making things happen.

But I would go a little further to say that those who didn’t, weren’t really clear on what they wanted and didn’t really have a plan in place to make it happen.

I’m apart of an online women’s professional group and each Friday we host a weekly prayer call with a monthly theme. This month’s theme was “No More Excuses.” It was powerful! As I’m thinking about the excuses that get in the way of our goals, I started thinking about how we plan and decide what we want to accomplish.

In addition to being a speaker and coach/strategist for women, I teach a Student Success Strategies Class in an Adult Education Program and the first module is Goal Management. I teach the students to identify goals they’d like to accomplish and then we go through a series of lessons in the module. One of which is mapping our goals out long and short term.

So real quick… let me ask you a question.

Are you pursuing something that sounds good or are you working towards something that really moves you to action?

Many of us create goals that sound good. But that’s the problem. Once we create the goal, we aren’t really sure why we are doing it and we have no solid plan or strategy for making it happen.

As we launch into February, the second month of 2016, I want you to spend some time thinking about what you really want. I mean really want. This year I’ve purposed to get my finances in order. Not just my money, but my overall financial health i.e. creating a will, confirming another life insurance policy, creating an emergency fund & 6 months of savings… you get the gist.

There are a few other things I’m working toward like my physical health and growing even closer the God. You see, 2016 is all about loving me and loving me enough to do what’s best for me this year and no one else. It’s about filling my cup in overflow. Doing the work God has called me to do and being whole.

If you didn’t know, 16 in biblical numbers represents love.

So my question to you is what areas of your life do you need to love on?

As a somewhat recovering workaholic in training who works hard not to work when I want to work all the time, I’m working to create more balance in my life which means not just having work that I enjoy but also a life that enjoy. It’s means making time for honey and me as well as creating family time for my husband & my son and in order to spend together and create memories. My son is four and growing so fast that I don’t want to look up and it’s a blur.

So in focusing on all areas of my life, this encompasses what I call the 7 Facets of You™ (Spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, relational, professional/educational, & financial). 2016 is the year that I love on every area. I’ve written out how I want to grow in these areas this year and I’m committed to doing the work.

So as for you, again, my question is… What do you really want?

When you think about your life and what you desire over the long run, what do you want from your life and in your life and for your life? My next question is are you willing to do the work that’s necessary to get what you want? Lastly, is what you want in alignment with what God wants from you?

One thing I’m sure of is that if what you want isn’t in alignment with what God wants for you, you can be sure it isn’t going to work out or at least not to the magnitude that it could if His hand was on it.

Since January is done and February is basically here, I want you to take some time to realistically think about what you want.

  • What do you want for yourself spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, relationally, professionally/educationally, & financially?

Then create 1-2 things you know you can work on this year. Don’t make them too big, but big enough to where they stretch you. Think about your why.

  • Why do want what you want? What drives you?  What or who are your motivators?
  • How does that enhance your life and the lives of those connected to you?

I also want you to put it somewhere visible as a constant reminder and then be open to God changing it if He sees fit.

Lastly I want you to break your goals down into quarterly (90 days), monthly (30 days) weekly (7 days), & daily goals.

  • What will be accomplished every quarter to accomplish your goal?
  • What needs to be done every month to accomplish the quarterly goal?
  • What needs to happen every week to accomplish the monthly goal?
  • What needs to happen every day to accomplish the weekly goal?

Now depending on your focus, you may not have to do something everyday. For example, hubby and I are doing the 52 week money challenge. But since we can never remember to do it chronologically, we are just saving $26 every week and putting it in an account. You see we aren’t doing anything daily, this is more of a weekly goal. The important thing is to get clear on what you want, why you want it, what making it happen actually looks like. Then do the work to make it happen.

I hope this helps you off to a better start for your year and if you’ve been hiding under the covers in overwhelm, you can come out now. 🙂

*|FNAME|*, these are the very questions I ask my clients and students. So you have a head start on getting clear on what you really want.

You’ve got your marching orders, now get to work!

Tell me in the comment section below what you want and why you want it? Or hope over to the #iSpeakLife Society to share your comments.

Need help … No worries!

Schedule a 45-Minute Pick My Brain Strategy Session to flush out all of your thoughts and ask me as many questions as needed to get clear and get started. Learn more here –> bit.ly/pickmybrain45

Until next time…

Hugs + Love + Prayers

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New Year Same Person

This Life Purpose VIDEO Message is a snippet from a message I shared at a speaking engagement a few weeks ago while in Syracuse, NY.


The message was entitled “New Year Same Person.”  The premise of the message was all about how we go into the New Year with the same thoughts, emotions, words, and actions that we had in the previous year.  However in order to take hold of what’s yours in the New Year, you can’t be the same person. Maybe it’s not a new year but maybe it’s a new season, or a new level, or a new dimension, but you are trying to possess your new new with an oldnew.  You can’t.  You must shift your mind, your mood, your message, and your method in order to manifest the plan that God has for you in 2015 and in your life.

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After you’ve watched this week’s Life Purpose VIDEO Message, make sure you let me know what you think. I’d love to know what you took from the video and what areas of your life (mindset, mood, message, method) you need to assess and improve.  Share your thoughts with me on the TrueheartSpeaks Facebook Page.
Until next time…to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of theHEART, the mouth SPEAKS.

Continue to Live Life IN & ON Purpose.

 

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What Are You Going To Do About It?

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this is the question God posed to me a few weeks ago when I was complaining

(yes even I have those moments)…

Yes God posed this question when I was complaining about a few things that just didn’t seem to be going the way I wanted them to. Have you ever been there *|FNAME|*?  You know where you have these high expectations about something and it just doesn’t go exactly as planned.  Well this was me a few weeks ago.

I was actually walking around the house talking out loud.  You know, not really talking to God but talking so He could hear me. 🙂  Well right in the midst of my complaining, He said you’ve been saying this for some time now.  What are you going to do about it?

Huh? Did I hear what I thought I heard.

Yep… I sure did.

You see I had gotten so used to everything falling into place that when it seemed to be taking longer than I wanted or didn’t go as planned, I was frustrated. The problem was, I wasn’t really doing anything about it except run my mouth.  Can you relate? You want things to change but you aren’t really doing anything about it to change the situation. The voice I heard was very clear. If you want something different, what are you going to do about it to bring about a different result?

So of course as you know, when I learn, I teach… or coach… so I want to post the same question to you… WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?

Whether it is your job, your marriage, your weight, your friends, your aspirations, your money, WHATEVER IT IS…. how long will you keep talking about it before you actually do something about it?

No, maybe it didn’t’ work out the way you wanted but that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world.  It just means you have to go back to the drawing board and figure out a different way to approach your problem or situation.  Sometimes you need to be challenged to come out of your comfort zone.  You need to be pushed out of average and mediocre into exceptional, fabulous and phenomenal.  I believe you have everything in you to be who God created you to be, but sometimes situations and circumstances cause our creativity to lie dormant.  Not anymore.  You have to take personal responsibility for this next move you are getting ready to take.  Enough talking about how it didn’t work or how it wasn’t what you thought.  Sometimes, God is waiting for the right time to blow your mind with His awesomeness.  He just needs you to close your mouth and get moving.  He won’t move until you do.

Your assignment:
Do something about it! Take some time to really identify what you are struggling with.  What have you been complaining, murmuring, or just talking about for way too long?  Now Think about one thing you can DO instead of running your mouth, then do it.  Close your lips and get moving.  Put together a plan of action. Map out your strategy and then get moving.

Want to take it step further, book a 90 Minute Heart-Storming Session, so we can you doing instead of talking.

Not sure if my 90 Minute Heart-Storming Session is right for you? Then schedule a 30 Minute Get Acquainted Session with me.  This gives me the chance to get to know you, learn more about what challenges you and see if I am able to help.

Until next time…
Live.Love.Lead In & On Purpose
Detra

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Repetition + Consistency = Success

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The question is what exactly are you doing over and over again…

Over these last few months I have been watching my son learn and grow day by day as a result of attending pre-school.  He is learning songs, letters, numbers, colors and tons of other things.  For some reason over the weekend, it dawned on me that repetition plus consistency equals success.  There is a quote by Aristotle that says “we are what we repeatedly do, excellence then is not an act, but a habit.

What if I changed this statement around and said that we are what we repeatedly do, ‘mediocrity, settling, being average,’ then is not an act, but a habit.  How does that change your perspective in how you view what you do on a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly basis?

Is what you are repeatedly doing bringing you closer to the life and purpose you desire?

My son comes home singing songs that he has learned and listened to repeatedly on a daily basis.  He is learning his letters and colors.  Why?  Because everyday, they review colors and a letter of the week.  This week is H or I.  When we are out, he is recognizing colors and certain letters in words.

Why because repetition + consistency = success.

<< Test First Name >>, just think about how you first learned the ABC song… by repetition and consistency, right?.  If it worked then... don’t you think it would work now.

My coaching question for you is …

What are you repeatedly doing that is leading to the success you desire?
Or
Is what you are repeatedly doing leading to a life of mediocrity and average living?

Just yesterday, a General in the Faith was killed in a plane crash.  Although he wasn’t someone I studied from and I didn’t know much about him, I have numerous friends who loved Dr. Munroe’s teachings.  He was known for teaching about purpose and living intentionally.  His life is an example that you can be here today and gone tomorrow.  He was on a private plane headed to host his annual Global Leadership Forum, set to take place today.

From what I did know about Dr. Munroe, he lived an intentional and full life.  He was intentional about living in and on purpose and teaching others how to do the same.  He was clear about why he was hear and he did things on a daily basis to achieve the success he desired.

Can you say the same? 

Can you say that the things you repeatedly and consistently do lead to the life, love and work you desire?

If the answer is yes, then keep on keeping on. But if deep down inside you know that what you are doing isn’t giving you the results you desire, then it’s time to make a change. Only you have the power to change what isn’t working in your life.  No need to keep doing something over and over again and expecting different results.  That is what we call insanity, right?  If you want different, do different.

Your assignment: 
Identify what you do repeatedly and consistently and then figure out if it’s working for you or not.  If so, continue on… If not, it’s time for a change.

If you want to take it step further, book a 90 Minute Heart-Storming Session, so we can get you repeatedly doing what breeds success instead of mediocrity.

Until next time…
Live.Love.Lead In & On Purpose
Detra

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Keep It Simple

Keep It Simple

 

 

Keep It Simple — Just because you have it doesn’t mean you have to use it.

As someone who wears many hats, one of them is the ‘professor’ hat. I am an adjunct instructor and I teach a myriad of classes. This fall I had been asked to teach one class two ways, live and online. The live class is a no brainer but the online class isn’t. It’s new to me because I’ve never taught an online class and I have to create it from scratch.

This summer has been crazy busy … In a good way. But with that said,  I didn’t give myself enough time to look for books for my class. I submitted my order to my supervisor at the end of the summer session but the books weren’t ordered until last Thursday. I didn’t get them until last Friday. Classes started Monday. YIKES!!

So I was driving myself crazy trying to figure out how I was going to make this work with the short amount of work time that I had. My plan was to review my books on Friday when I got them and work all day in the office on Saturday. However the office wasn’t going to be open on Saturday. I found this out by popping into my director’s office to ask a question last fir day while picking my books up. Good thing I did.

Allllll day Saturday I spend working on my syllabi (I’m teaching four classes) and after going through the material I was overwhelmed. The class is 6 weeks and held three times a week. Not a lot of time for what I wanted to share. So I finally come up with a schedule and I start looking at my books and to decide which material to use, I realize it’s too much. In my heart of hearts I know there is no way for me to teach all of this material.

Tired. Overwhelmed. Hungry. (yes…. when I stay up late, I get hungry)

I finally decide to go to bed.

Ever been there. Yeah well this was me this weekend.

Well both Friday night and Saturday, I prayed before starting my work because I knew I had a limited amount f time to work. Both times God said KEEP IT SIMPLE. Well I didn’t listen on Saturday. I was cramming wayyyy too much information into my course schedule which was the reason for my overwhelm.

Sidebar Coaching Moment: Have you experienced that? Overwhelm because you are trying to do too much?  And because you are overwhelmed… you just shut down by either going to sleep or eating? Not good!

Well here’s the answer.

KEEP IT SIMPLE. During my morning prayer on Sunday, here is what God spoke to me…

Keep it simple. Just because you have three books to use doesn’t mean you have to. Use the one that you can get the most out of and add to it and tweak the class material as you have time to teach it. Keep it simple. Don’t overcomplicate it. 

Is this YOU?

Are you an analyzer and an over thinker like I am?

Do you think yourself into a doing absolutely nothing? 

Well this week’s message is for you? When things gets crazy and out of control, don’t get so caught up in the moment that you forget that you have a superior God who loves you enough and knows enough about you and your situation that He can guide you along the way. Don’t be so stressed and caught up in the moment that you forget to ‘have a little talk with Jesus and tell him all about your problems.’

One of the best decisions I made this weekend was consulting with HIM before starting. I already had the answer I just got caught up in the midst of the situation and lost track of what He told me to do which was KEEP IT SIMPLE. I choose the book I could get the most out of. I started classes on Monday so I keep you all posted on how this pans out. So far so good.

Your turn: Is there something you need to simplify in your life, career or business? Identify it and then ask God to show you how to simplify it to make it less stressful for you and those around you. Be open if He changes what you had planned. Sometimes you can’t receive new because you still holding on to what you have or what you created. Let God do a new thing in you. Let Him help you keep it simple. Remember, just because you have it doesn’t mean you have to use it this time. There will be other situations and circumstances where you will be able to put it to good use.

Until next time,

Always remember, to thine own self be TRUE for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS.

Live, Love, Lead
LIVE, LOVE, & LEAD in and on purpose.
Detra
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