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40 … and counting…

40 and counting

Ok so I just celebrated my 40th birthday on August 12th and now that I’m 40, here are a few things that I’ve learned about life and myself…

  1. Friends change. People change. I change. God doesn’t.
  2. People love you the best they know how
  3. I’m still evolving. I haven’t arrived just yet. 🙂
  4. I’m still learning who I am and who I’m becoming. I am loving who I am becoming.
  5. People suck sometimes. They don’t turn out to be who you thought
  6. Life sucks sometimes. It doesn’t turn out to be what you thought
  7. There’s nothing wrong with rest or naps. (if you know anything about me, you know I love naps)
  8. Asking for or receiving help doesn’t make any less of a person/woman
  9. I’m stronger than I give myself credit for
  10. I’m good (really good) at what I do and it’s ok to toot my own horn and know my worth.
  11. I’ve done good work in this world.
  12. I still have more work to do.
  13. God is faithful and His grace is sufficient.
  14. You get what you allow.
  15. Boundaries are everything.
  16. Quiet time is everything.
  17. I’m honored and blessed to be a wife and a mom. Some people may never experience that.
  18. People pleasing and seeking the approval of others is NO-NO.
  19. I no longer care what you think.
  20. What God thinks is more important.
  21. What you do isn’t who you are.
  22. Learn to learn who you are more than what you do.  I am learning this everyday.
  23. Sometimes the people closest to you won’t get it. Love them anyway. Find people who do get it.
  24. We all make mistakes. Some small. Some really, REALLY BIG!
  25. Grant people the same grace you’d want if you’re BIG mistakes were out on front street.
  26. I now know that I can forgive for me, but not tolerate you.
  27. Forgiveness doesn’t mean I have to allow you back into my space.
  28. I’m not perfect (just in case you didn’t know) and I don’t have to be.
  29. Being a mom is one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever had.
  30. Saying no is a complete sentence.  No explanation is needed.
  31. I mean what I say.
  32. Trust the process even when it sucks.
  33. I absolutely adore my husband.  He gets me. He listens and hears even when I think he doesn’t.
  34. I don’t always like my husband, but he gets me.
  35. He doesn’t always like me, but I get him.
  36. Take yourself serious, but don’t take yourself so serious.
  37. When God is in it, it always works out of your good.
  38. I don’t have to do it because you want me to. I do have a choice!
  39. I don’t think I’ve ever thought about what life would look like at 40.  But I’m already thinking about what I want it to look like at 50. 😉
  40. People mean well, but many of them are more talk than walk.


BONUSES Life Lessons (I couldn’t stop at 40):

  1. I prefer quiet time. Tea. Snuggles on the couch rather than being around a lot of people.
  2. I think I am what they call and Ambivert. I’m both introvert and extrovert.  I like people but I need to be alone. I’m a beast when I have to be (on stage, teaching, preaching, etc.) but then I need quiet time to recharge.
  3. I’ve learned to get out of my own way. I can be my own worst enemy sometimes.
  4. Stop overthinking everything.
  5. Progression not perfection. It will never be perfect. Done beats perfect everyday.
  6. I’ve wasted lots of time thinking about getting ready to get ready.
  7. Sometimes you just have to do and figure it out as you go.
  8. Marriage only works if you work it.
  9. Parenting only works if you work it and sometimes it doesn’t when you are raising a four-year old.
  10. Balance doesn’t exist.  It’s whatever you make it to be.
  11. Being a Mom, Wife, Adjunct Instructor, Entrepreneur, Ministry Leader (and any other role I have) is hard some days.  Some days I want to hide up under a rock.
  12. Never assume people know what you need. Tell them. Thats why it’s called communication. Still learning this… Honey should know exactly what I’m thinking all ALL TIMES… right? 😉 nope… lol


Ok.. ok… ok… I’m done. 🙂

I could most assuredly go on but I won’t.

So many life lessons learned that we could be here all day.  I hope you enjoy what I shared.  Let me know in the comments section or tweet me which lesson you connected with the most. You should know that on the eve of my 10th wedding anniversary (8.19.16), so some of these could go into a married life – life lessons post, but overall they are still life lessons.

Until Next Time…

Hug + Love + Prayers

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What 2015 taught me…

What 2015 taught me...

I know we are a few weeks into the new year… but I’ve still been reflecting on 2015 and the lessons I learned.  So I wanted to share them with you…

  • It’s great to be recognized.
  • Hard work does pay off.
  • Coasting in life will catch up to you.
  • It’s ok to take a break.
  • It’s not as big of a deal as you think (whatever your it is).
  • God really is in control.
  • Rest is essential.
  • Listen to your body.
  • Accolades feel good but they don’t pay bills nor do they determine your worth/value especially if you don’t believe it.
  • You are worth more than you could imagine.
  • Marriage is hard some days.
  • Being a parent is one of the hardest but most rewarding jobs out there.
  • Don’t let people determine or steal your worth.
  • You are awesome.
  • You do good work….NO… you do AWESOME work!
  • You’re not as good at being an entrepreneur as you thought… Building this empire is going to take more work than expected. But it will be worth it.
  • Focus… Distractions are everywhere and an annoyance to someone with the attention span of a gnat.
  • Stay the course. If you quit you’ve got to start over and some times starting over sucks when you realize how much further you could be.
  • Learn the lesson.
  • Everything isn’t for you.
  • It’s ok to reprioritize and re-evaluate.
  • Everyone who says they are for you, isn’t really for you. They just talk a good game. But the people who are really for you, are really for you. Be thankful for them.
  • Trust your gut. Listen to the Holy Spirit.
  • Own your call and gift. Be ok with being anointed an set apart. No need in hiding or putting it on a shelf.
  • Boundaries are important… Set them and keep them in tact.
  • You have to be more consistent. Remember that repetition plus consistency = success.
  • This is just the beginning…..

I’m sure there are other lessons I missed and will add as time goes on .

Take some time to really reflect on 2015.  Write down all the lessons 2015 taught you and then share a few with me.

Until next time…

Remember to Live Purposefully!

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Look for the Lessons


As I was looking over this past year and thinking about allllll that has happened, I was reminded to look at the lessons I’ve learned.  Sometimes we tend to only focus on what happened or what didn’t happened but sometimes we miss those opportune moments to look for the lessons in each experience we encounter.  This week’s post is an mp3 audio recording that I want to share with you on how look for the lessons in the varied experiences you had this year as well as as how to make this a habit for the new year…


Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts on the lessons you may have missed because you didn’t initially look for them.

Here’s to you living in and on purpose


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