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Quitting is NOT an Option

Quitting is NOT an option

Now before you jump on this and refute the topic of this week’s message. Stay with me for a moment.

Last week I was faced with a decision. Some things weren’t panning out the way I had anticipated and I had the thought of just postponing my plans. Before making the final decision, as with most decisions, (yes as a type A personality, I don’t always consult with God on his plan for my life, but that’s another message) I went to the Lord in prayer. I asked what I should do. I sat quietly and the Lord immediately spoke to me saying, “you will keep going. Quitting, pausing, or postponing is not an option and would be too easy. You will stay the course and you will do the work.”

I sat there for a few seconds and internally said “ok.”

This story is still evolving so I can’t tell you how it ends just yet, but just know that since that conversation, things have started falling into place. But more importantly, I am doing the work.

This was never supposed to be about perfection but progression. I wanted things to happen a certain way and because, I felt like I had made a mistake or the timing was off.

So let me ask you something…

  • What are you supposed to be doing that just doesn’t seem to be coming together? 
  • What has God given you to do and because it’s seems harder than you thought, you’ve decided to push back the timetable?
  • Or you’ve decided to just quit thinking it wasn’t meant to be?

I will tell you like I was told last week during my prayer time …
“You will keep going. Quitting, pausing, or postponing is not an option and would be too easy. You will stay the course and you will do the work.”
Get back in position. Get back on track. And as Beyoncé says, get into formation.

You see quitting, postponing, and pushing things back would be too easy. You’d be let off the hook. You start again and then it got hard, you do what you are doing now.

Not happening.

You’re going to do the work.
You’re going to stay the course.
You’re to follow the plan.

It’s just as simple as that.

It was never promised that life would be easy. It was never promised that we wouldn’t have to put some sweat equity into this thing called life.

Maybe you’ve gotten discouraged because you’re working to fix your finances and things just don’t seem to turning around as quickly as you’d like. Are you putting the work or are you expecting things to work out on their own. You haven’t changed what you do or how you do it. 

Listen, nothing changes if nothing changes.

DO THE WORK! 

Maybe you want your marriage to turn around for the better but you’re waiting on him/her to do something before you put in any work. Well then you don’t want it bad enough. What are you doing to create the marriage you desire? What changes have YOU made?

I could offer tons of examples but the premise of this message is this….

Stop thinking that because things aren’t going as expected, that you’re supposed to quit, post pone or push things back.

I know I know I know… there are times when quitting, letting go, pushing things back, is just what the doctor ordered.

This is not one of them.

Not when faith is involved and God has positioned you for greater and to do something you know you can’t do on your own. This is one of those times where you have to do what you can, so God can do what you can’t.

Do your part. Get back in the game. Get your mind and your heart back on track. Focus. Hone in. Get moving.

Even in the midst of the valleys and the dark alleys…

Stay the course. Keep your eyes on the prize. Push until you can’t push anymore.

Fight for your life.
Fight for your dreams.
Fight for your marriage.
Fight for your family.
Fight for your sanity.
Fight for your health.

No matter what it is…

QUITTING IS NOT AN OPTION. 


Stop thinking that because things aren’t going as expected, that you’re supposed to quit, post pone, or push things back.
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Your assignment:

This week, I want you to identify whatever you contemplated quitting, postponing or pushing back. Then, I want you to the get quiet, refocus, reframe, listen for instructions, then do what you’ve been putting off.  It’s just that simple. Reposition if you need to. Cut some things off if need be. Be get back in the game. Get your mind and your heart in sync, so your words and actions can follow.

Trust that He who began a good work in you, shall complete it until the day of Christ Jesus.  God didn’t bring you this far to leave you.  Could it be that he’s holding out to see if you want it bad enough.  He hasn’t moved, because you haven’t moved.  He will move on your behalf, when you do.

Until Next Time…

Hug + Love + Prayers

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How to hear from God more clearly during your quiet time.

Hear from God during Quiet Time

In preparation for 2016, I shared a survey asking a series of questions. One of which was “Which of the following areas do you struggle with the most?” There were about 5-7 topics that rose to the top of the list. I then asked my blog readers, my vip email list & the women in my private fb page which of those topics you’d like me start with and can you guess which one had the highest number?

Yep you guessed it, it was quiet time with God to clearly hear from Him. Now if you are reading this and thinking, that wasn’t on my list, no worries, I’ll be addressing all of the top topics you selected at some point throughout this year.

I got you! 😉

Ok so with that said, I wanted to share what works for me when I need to hear from God more clearly during my quiet time. Now let me say that it’s been almost 20 years since I committed my life to Christ, so don’t be so hard on yourself. This is a skill that takes time, patience, diligence and consistency.

You may not automatically recognize the voice of God because you aren’t sure if it’s him or you. I get it. I’ve been there and to be honest if I’m not careful to set time aside to commune and spend time with God, even some 19 years later, I question if what I heard was Him.  If I happen to busy myself with the world’s cares and my own cares without giving them to him and letting him guide me through them, I get caught up in the busyness and chaotic noise of the world around me.

Can you relate?

  • You want to spend time with God but you don’t know where to start. 
  • You want to hear from him more clearly but aren’t sure if what you hear is him.
  • Your life is so crazy that trying to find quiet time is like trying to find a needle in a haystack.
  • You hear people say they hear from God but you have no clue what that’s like.
If any of these hit home, well let me tell you this… YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Spending time with God is just like spending time
with any other person you want to get close to.
#QuietTimeChallenge

Can you remember a time when you were dating someone and you wanted to be with them all the time? Even with a busy schedule, you made time for them.

Why?

Well because you wanted to see your boo. I don’t care how long of a day you had, you weren’t going to let that day go by without talking to or seeing him/her.

Take a second and really think about it.

This is what God wants from us. He wants to spend time with us. He wants to talk to us. He wants to love on is. He wants to be the first and last thing on our minds and in our hearts.

Now I know what you’re saying, “yeah Detra that’s sounds good and all and yes that’s what I want, but how do I get to that point.”

I get it and I’m going to help you out.

Below are some of the things I do to hear from God more clearly during my quiet time.

Yes I use them!

Check them out and figure out what you can immediately implement.

  • Schedule it in. Put it in your calendar.
  • Start small. Set aside at least 10-15 minutes. If you’ve never done this, don’t schedule 30 minutes to an hour. You will overwhelm yourself. 
  • Eliminate all distractions.
  • Set the tone with worship music.
  • Be Open.
  • Read God’s word and let it speak to you.
  • Get Quiet.
  • Reflect on what you read and how it will affect you today.
  • Get a journal/notebook to write down what you hear.
  • Be consistent. It will feel uncomfortable at first, but keep at it.

Now keep in mind there are other things you can do to hear from God more clearly but here are just a few to help you get started. Also remember that prayer and quiet time are different. You’re idea of prayer may be giving God your laundry list of to dos, saying amen, then getting up and going about your day without letting Him respond.

Stop it!

That’s not prayer, that’s a monologue. This is why you may not be able to hear clearly from him. You haven’t sat still long enough to allow him to respond. Once you pray, sit tight, get quiet and let God speak.


Give God the same kind of love and attention you want from Him.

#QuietTimeChallenge

Listen, there are days that I don’t say a word other than “God I want to hear from you. Speak to me today. I need you.”

Especially if what I’m going through has me on my last leg and there really isn’t anything else for me to say.

If you’ve been there you know what I mean.

Hopefully this post and the strategies I shared will help you on your journey to hearing from God more clearly.

Want to have these suggestions at your disposal to print and hang up to refer to?

Awesome!

I figured you would, so I created a Quiet Time Checklist for you to refer to when having your quiet time with God.

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Next time you prepare to get quiet and have some alone time with God, use my FREE QUIET TIME CHECKLIST to help position you to hear everything God wants to say to you.

Until Next Time…

Hug + Love + Prayers

Detra

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Handle burnout before burnout handles you

Handle burnout before burnout handles you.

Now a days we are so busy that we are walking around here like the energizer bunny. We just keep going and going and going.

Between you and me … That’s not how it’s supposed to be.

Some of you my dear sisters are running yourselves ragged. You are tired, irritable, agitated, stressed, anxious, and just darn overwhelmed.

Well let me let you in on a little secret… If you don’t slow down and go sit down somewhere (some of you need to go lie down), you are going to go down.

Yes I said it.

I know you want to support everyone and you want to be super woman but if haven’t noticed, it isn’t working, is it? No I didn’t think so.

You see I’ve been there. Trying to be all things to all people with no one being anything to me. Or least partly because I wouldn’t let them help me. I didn’t want people to think I was weak or that I couldn’t handle everything I had going on. On the other hand, I also just thought running myself ragged (not intentionally) was what you were supposed to do, right?

WRONG!

Somewhere along this journey no one told me it was ok to say no. No one told me it was okay to put me first. No one said that if I kept going at the pace I was going, I’d finally crash. And guess what I crashed. I was exhausted, I was moody and I didn’t understand why no one stopped this train wreck before it had happened.

I will tell you why …

Because most of us women are all doing the same thing and we all think it’s what we are supposed to be doing. Most of us saw our mothers, aunts, grandmothers and other women in our immediate circle do it. Not knowing that they so wanted the rest, therefore I am giving you permission to take a break before you burnout.

So how exactly do you handle burnout before it handles you…

  • Say no
  • Set boundaries  
  • Know your stress triggers
  • Re-teach people how to treat you
  • Let yourself off the hook
  • Stop worrying about what people think so much
  • Unplug
  • Rest

There are so many more suggestions that I could share but I’ll leave you with these eight for now…  I think they are pretty self explanatory.

Get settled in and comfortable saying no and setting boundaries. Know those stress triggers that set you off and be aware when other people, places, and things set those triggers off.  If you have had a habit of letting people just treat you any kind of way, you need to re-teach them how to treat you according to your new normal. It is your responsibility to help them unlearn some of the habits they have been used to using.

Learn to let yourself off the hook.  It’s ok that you aren’t perfect.  It’s okay that you don’t have it all together.  It’s okay that you don’t have all the answers.  IT IS OKAY.  Let yourself off the hook.  God still smiles when you cross His mind.  Once you learn to let yourself off of the hook, understand that the freedom you desire comes when you stop worrying about what people think.  Who cares what they think.  I mean really…. who cares?  Why is their opinion so important? I want you to be more worried about what God thinks than what ‘people‘ think.

In order to stop worrying about what people think, you may need to unplug.  Cut the phone off, get off of social media, pray, journal, meditate.  Take a break from the tv and all of the ripping and running.  So whatever you need to do so long as you unplug and get quiet so that you can recharge.  Lastly, unplugging allows you to rest.

Your turn…

  • Pick one or two of the suggestions I gave you on how to handle burnout before it handles you and begin implementing them immediately.  Start small and then work you way up to integrating them all into your life.

If this resonated with you, share your comments below and feel free to share so that other women who read this can glean from your wisdom too.

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Until next time….

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Are you ready for the reveal?

Ok so … you may nor may not know but tomorrow I will be hosting a FREE Training on how to Manifest More in our life and purpose.  It’s tomorrow, Wednesday, October 22 at 7pm EST.

If you knew about… You are registered for it, right?  

NO!  — Well let me tell you why you need to register.

Because it is going to be goooooddd!!

lolol… Just kidding but no really it is going to be good.

As I was preparing, I looked up the word manifest and among the many meanings and definitions, these words popped out at me:

To declare
To make known
To reveal
To show

Now let me ask you this question:

Are you ready to declare more, make known more, reveal more and show more of who God created you to be?

I sure hope your answer is YES!

You see we are in a time and place where playing games and hiding behind facades is out and being authentic, real and unapologetic are in.  Too many people, maybe you included, have sat on the sidelines of their own lives and just let life pass them by.  Maybe, you’ve let fear tell you what wasn’t possible and or you let fear drive when it should have been faith in the driver’s seat.  Maybe something happened in your life where your confidence and self-esteem has been shaken and you know it’s time to declare, make known, reveal and show more of your gifts, talents, call and purpose but you just aren’t sure how.

Well my dear trueheart, I am going to show you how on my FREE call on Wednesday.  If you have yet to register, do it now at bit.ly/manifestmorenow.   I want to show you how to manifest more in your life and your purpose.  I want to give you some foundational tools and tips to jumpstart you to manifesting what you desire as opposed to what others desire for you.

In addition to my FREE call, you get my 3-part free video series on the three steps you need to take before you start your journey to manifesting more.

I hope to ‘see’ you on the call on Wednesday.  Don’t wait to register because if you are anything like me, you might forget.
Do it now! –> bit.ly/manifestmorenow

Join the #ManifestMore Movement and hop on Facebook or Twitter and let me know you will be joining me.

Live.Love.Lead & Manifest MORE!
Hugs…
Detra

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God has not forgotten about you

God has not

Not sure who this post is for but know that God has not forgotten about you.  I know you may be going through a rough patch in your life, your marriage, your job, your finances, your health or anything else.

Know this, God’s word is true when He says He will never leave you nor forsake you.  You might feel alone, but you are not alone.  You might feel isolated and that may have nothing to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with God.  Sometimes God has to strip us and separate us not to break us but to make us.  There is purpose even in the breaking.  When God is involved there is only one reason for the breaking and that is the making.

You have purpose.  You have value. You have a specific reason for being here.  Never doubt it and never let what you are going through or what you’ve been through to make you second guess that.

You are being pressed.  You are being crushed.  You are being stripped.  You are feeling like you don’t have anything else to give.  Just hold on.  God is not through with you just yet.  He is doing a work in you.  He is preparing you.

Don’t fight the feeling.  Don’t fight the test.  Don’t give in to the temptations and distractions of the enemy.  Pay attention to the tactics, schemes, and patterns of the enemy.  He is keen but he isn’t that smart.  You will come out of this.  You will overcome this.  For you are an overcomer.  I know you are feeling overwhelmed but God asks that we cast out cares on Him for He cares for us.  I dare you to cast all of your cares on Him and look to hills from which comes your help because your help come from the Lord.

I want you to speak God’s word over yourself, your life and your situation.   Speak life into yourself and that situation that you feel like is trying to over take you.  Take it over with the power of life in your words.

I believe in you and in the God that resides in you.  Trust Him bring you out of this season better, stronger and wiser.

Until next time…

Live.Love.Lead in & on purpose

…Hugs Detra

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Spirit-Filled Sunday – Motivational Minute 398

 

It’s Spirit-Filled Sunday!

Today’s Motivational Minute is …

Praise God in the midst of whatever you are going through!  Don’t get caught up in it, get caught up in HIM! 

On this Spirit-Filed Sunday take some time to give all praise and worship to God.

YOUR TURN… on this Spirit-Filled Sunday, tell me … have there been times that you were so caught up in what you were going through, good, bad or ugly that you forgot how awesome the God you serve is?  How did you get back on track?  How do you maintain consistency in worshiping God when things are good as well as when they are bad?

Share your thoughts in the comments section. I would love to hear from you. There may be someone who just might be blessed by what you share!

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Life Empowerment Coach

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Spirit-Filled Sunday – Motivational Minute 379

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It’s Spirit-Filled Sunday!

Today’s Motivational Minute is …

Take your worries to The Lord!

The Lord said ‘come unto me all you who are weary.’ Stop carrying a load you were never meant to bear. Give it to God and let him comfort you. THERE IS NOTHING TOO BIG OR TOO SMALL! .

Put your pride aside and lay in the arms of a God who waiting for you to rest in Him.

YOUR TURN… on this Spirit-Filled Sunday, rest in the peaceful and secure arms of our Almighty and All-Powerful Creator.

Share your thoughts in the comments section. I would love to hear from you. There may be someone who just might be blessed by what you share!

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Spirit-Filled Sunday – Motivational Minute 372

It’s Spirit-Filled Sunday!

Today’s Motivational Minute is… 

BELIEVE!! — Simple yet POWERFUL if you do it.  Belief only works when you work it! 

 

 

YOUR TURN… on this Spirit-Filled Sunday, is there an area of your life you need to believe God for?  What it is?  Do you REALLY believe that you can receive it? If not, what’s holding your belief back?

Share your thoughts in the comments section. I would love to hear from you. There may be someone who just might be blessed by what you share!

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Spirit-Filled Sunday – Motivational Minute 365

It’s Spirit-Filled Sunday!

Today’s Motivational Minute is …

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily as to the Lord, and not unto men… (Colossians 3:23)

YOUR TURN… on this Spirit-Filled Sunday, take some time to think about how you can do what you do unto the Lord and not unto man.  What would you do differently if what you did want to glorify only God and NOT MAN?

Share your thoughts in the comments section. I would love to hear from you. There may be someone who just might be blessed by what you share!

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Spirit-Filled Sunday – A Minute for the Spirit (Motivational Minute 358)

It’s Spirit-Filled Sunday!

Today’s Minute for the Spirit comes from Psalms 91…

To dwell means to ‘live in a place as a resident’, or ‘keep your attention directed toward something’… To find rest and abide under the shadow and protection of the Almighty, you must live in this place as a resident, and keep your attention directed toward HIM to DWELL within the shelter of the Most High.  There is protection when you dwell within the love and protection of the Most High God.  Keep your focus and attention directed at and toward HIM and NOTHING ELSE!

 

YOUR TURN…  on this Spirit-Filled Sunday, tell me how your life could be different if you directed your attention toward God instead of your situation and made a conscious decision to live as a resident in HIS presence.

Share below in the comments section.

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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