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Boundaries…Do you have any?

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For the past month or so I’ve been reading Dr. Brene Brown’s book Rising Strong. To put it simply, the book is about rising after you fall. Even though it’s a little more intricate than that, I’ll leave it at that.

Part of rising when you fall is learning to set boundaries, knowing what you want and being real with yourself. As I’m reading this book I’m learning that I’m not as good at setting boundaries as I thought. I found that my expectations of people aren’t always as clear as I think. So as the work in progress that I am, I’m working on it.

I also found that setting boundaries isn’t easy yet it’s very necessary if you’re going to live purposefully. In her book and in this video, Brene says…

Boundaries are simply our lists of what’s okay and what’s not okay.

I know it seems so simple. But let me ask you a few questions, do you have any boundaries? Have you identified what’s okay and what’s not okay in your life? Are they clear to those you interact with in life, love and work?

So even though we are no longer chatting about focus this month on periscope, I believe that boundaries come with focus. I believe that you can be more focused when you’ve created boundaries for what’s okay and what’s not okay. It makes saying yes and no that much easier. It makes knowing what to focus on easier when you already know what you want or what you expect.

Dr. Brene asks this question,

What boundaries do I need to put in place so I can work from a place of integrity and extend the most generous interpretations of the intentions, words, and actions of others?

She goes in to say,

When we combine the courage to make clear what works for us and what doesn’t with compassion to assume people are doing their best, our lives change.

Dr. Brene further asks this question about boundaries as it relates to self worth and self-value. She asks,

How can we expect people to put value in our work when we don’t value ourselves enough to set and hold uncomfortable boundaries?

Listen, there is so much more where that came from therefore I think the topic of boundaries is huge when we talk about focus and fear (our new topic this month). I think boundaries help us focus, keep us clear on our expectations and allow us to live in a place & space void of unwanted feelings because we are clear on what’s acceptable and what’s not. We are clear on what we will allow and what we won’t.

Do you have clear expectations of what’s acceptable and what’s not in your life?

Maybe things have gotten out of hand because there were no clear-cut expectations expressed.

Maybe things didn’t turn out the way you desired because you didn’t really know what you wanted or maybe you did but you went against that ‘gut’ feeling by accepting what you knew you should have said NO to.

I know reading Brene’s book has allowed me to see that there have been some cloudy spaces in my life that I believe have lead to frustration because I wasn’t clear on what I wanted. Or I knew what I wanted but didn’t ask because I didn’t want to seem complicated, overbearing, etc. But life has taught me that the only way real peace is created is when boundaries are created at the jump. I have to be clear on what I want and not afraid to ask for it, whether it’s money, love, time, etc.

Brene says

compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They’re compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment.”

She goes in to say,

as miserable as resentment, disappointment, and frustration make us feel, we fool ourselves into believing that they’re easier than the vulnerability of a difficult conversation. The truth is that judgment and anger take up way more emotional bandwidth for us.

Ooooohhh that’s good…

  • Are you carrying resentment due to unclear expectations and boundaries?
  • Are you angry and resentful simply because you don’t want to have ‘that’ difficult conversation?

I’m still working through the book, so expect me to come back and share more of my ahas, but I want you to think about some of the questions Dr. Brene poses as well as those that I’ve asked. If you aren’t content with setting clear yet uncomfortable boundaries, then that may be why things aren’t going as smoothly as you’d like them to.

Part of focus is being clear on what’s acceptable and what’s not. Part of living purposefully in every area of your life, is setting boundaries that allow you to operate in your most loving and best self. It’s not about being who and what others want you be and denying yourself at the expense of others, which is what many angry, resentful and frustrated people are doing.

Are you one of them?


 

Part of living purposefully in every area of your life, is setting boundaries that allow you to operate in your most loving and best self.

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Your assignment:

Go back through these questions and get really open and honest with yourself on whether you’ve created clear and concise boundaries. If you have, great! But if you haven’t, take some time to get clear on your list of what’s okay and what’s not okay and then be willing to be vulnerable enough to have those hard, uncomfortable yet needed conversations with yourself and others.

Until Next Time…
Hug + Love + Prayers

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Repetition + Consistency = Success

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The question is what exactly are you doing over and over again…

Over these last few months I have been watching my son learn and grow day by day as a result of attending pre-school.  He is learning songs, letters, numbers, colors and tons of other things.  For some reason over the weekend, it dawned on me that repetition plus consistency equals success.  There is a quote by Aristotle that says “we are what we repeatedly do, excellence then is not an act, but a habit.

What if I changed this statement around and said that we are what we repeatedly do, ‘mediocrity, settling, being average,’ then is not an act, but a habit.  How does that change your perspective in how you view what you do on a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly basis?

Is what you are repeatedly doing bringing you closer to the life and purpose you desire?

My son comes home singing songs that he has learned and listened to repeatedly on a daily basis.  He is learning his letters and colors.  Why?  Because everyday, they review colors and a letter of the week.  This week is H or I.  When we are out, he is recognizing colors and certain letters in words.

Why because repetition + consistency = success.

<< Test First Name >>, just think about how you first learned the ABC song… by repetition and consistency, right?.  If it worked then... don’t you think it would work now.

My coaching question for you is …

What are you repeatedly doing that is leading to the success you desire?
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Is what you are repeatedly doing leading to a life of mediocrity and average living?

Just yesterday, a General in the Faith was killed in a plane crash.  Although he wasn’t someone I studied from and I didn’t know much about him, I have numerous friends who loved Dr. Munroe’s teachings.  He was known for teaching about purpose and living intentionally.  His life is an example that you can be here today and gone tomorrow.  He was on a private plane headed to host his annual Global Leadership Forum, set to take place today.

From what I did know about Dr. Munroe, he lived an intentional and full life.  He was intentional about living in and on purpose and teaching others how to do the same.  He was clear about why he was hear and he did things on a daily basis to achieve the success he desired.

Can you say the same? 

Can you say that the things you repeatedly and consistently do lead to the life, love and work you desire?

If the answer is yes, then keep on keeping on. But if deep down inside you know that what you are doing isn’t giving you the results you desire, then it’s time to make a change. Only you have the power to change what isn’t working in your life.  No need to keep doing something over and over again and expecting different results.  That is what we call insanity, right?  If you want different, do different.

Your assignment: 
Identify what you do repeatedly and consistently and then figure out if it’s working for you or not.  If so, continue on… If not, it’s time for a change.

If you want to take it step further, book a 90 Minute Heart-Storming Session, so we can get you repeatedly doing what breeds success instead of mediocrity.

Until next time…
Live.Love.Lead In & On Purpose
Detra

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61 days away…

Happy November!!!

We have two months left in this year.

What are you going to do with those 61 days? A year from now you will wish you had started today!  No need in having another set of regrets.  No need in thinking back one year from now thinking… I should have just started.

Pick one thing you said you would do this time last year and do it today.

Then let me know what you did below in the comments.

Have the faith to take the first step.

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God has not forgotten about you

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Not sure who this post is for but know that God has not forgotten about you.  I know you may be going through a rough patch in your life, your marriage, your job, your finances, your health or anything else.

Know this, God’s word is true when He says He will never leave you nor forsake you.  You might feel alone, but you are not alone.  You might feel isolated and that may have nothing to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with God.  Sometimes God has to strip us and separate us not to break us but to make us.  There is purpose even in the breaking.  When God is involved there is only one reason for the breaking and that is the making.

You have purpose.  You have value. You have a specific reason for being here.  Never doubt it and never let what you are going through or what you’ve been through to make you second guess that.

You are being pressed.  You are being crushed.  You are being stripped.  You are feeling like you don’t have anything else to give.  Just hold on.  God is not through with you just yet.  He is doing a work in you.  He is preparing you.

Don’t fight the feeling.  Don’t fight the test.  Don’t give in to the temptations and distractions of the enemy.  Pay attention to the tactics, schemes, and patterns of the enemy.  He is keen but he isn’t that smart.  You will come out of this.  You will overcome this.  For you are an overcomer.  I know you are feeling overwhelmed but God asks that we cast out cares on Him for He cares for us.  I dare you to cast all of your cares on Him and look to hills from which comes your help because your help come from the Lord.

I want you to speak God’s word over yourself, your life and your situation.   Speak life into yourself and that situation that you feel like is trying to over take you.  Take it over with the power of life in your words.

I believe in you and in the God that resides in you.  Trust Him bring you out of this season better, stronger and wiser.

Until next time…

Live.Love.Lead in & on purpose

…Hugs Detra

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Keep It Simple

Keep It Simple

 

 

Keep It Simple — Just because you have it doesn’t mean you have to use it.

As someone who wears many hats, one of them is the ‘professor’ hat. I am an adjunct instructor and I teach a myriad of classes. This fall I had been asked to teach one class two ways, live and online. The live class is a no brainer but the online class isn’t. It’s new to me because I’ve never taught an online class and I have to create it from scratch.

This summer has been crazy busy … In a good way. But with that said,  I didn’t give myself enough time to look for books for my class. I submitted my order to my supervisor at the end of the summer session but the books weren’t ordered until last Thursday. I didn’t get them until last Friday. Classes started Monday. YIKES!!

So I was driving myself crazy trying to figure out how I was going to make this work with the short amount of work time that I had. My plan was to review my books on Friday when I got them and work all day in the office on Saturday. However the office wasn’t going to be open on Saturday. I found this out by popping into my director’s office to ask a question last fir day while picking my books up. Good thing I did.

Allllll day Saturday I spend working on my syllabi (I’m teaching four classes) and after going through the material I was overwhelmed. The class is 6 weeks and held three times a week. Not a lot of time for what I wanted to share. So I finally come up with a schedule and I start looking at my books and to decide which material to use, I realize it’s too much. In my heart of hearts I know there is no way for me to teach all of this material.

Tired. Overwhelmed. Hungry. (yes…. when I stay up late, I get hungry)

I finally decide to go to bed.

Ever been there. Yeah well this was me this weekend.

Well both Friday night and Saturday, I prayed before starting my work because I knew I had a limited amount f time to work. Both times God said KEEP IT SIMPLE. Well I didn’t listen on Saturday. I was cramming wayyyy too much information into my course schedule which was the reason for my overwhelm.

Sidebar Coaching Moment: Have you experienced that? Overwhelm because you are trying to do too much?  And because you are overwhelmed… you just shut down by either going to sleep or eating? Not good!

Well here’s the answer.

KEEP IT SIMPLE. During my morning prayer on Sunday, here is what God spoke to me…

Keep it simple. Just because you have three books to use doesn’t mean you have to. Use the one that you can get the most out of and add to it and tweak the class material as you have time to teach it. Keep it simple. Don’t overcomplicate it. 

Is this YOU?

Are you an analyzer and an over thinker like I am?

Do you think yourself into a doing absolutely nothing? 

Well this week’s message is for you? When things gets crazy and out of control, don’t get so caught up in the moment that you forget that you have a superior God who loves you enough and knows enough about you and your situation that He can guide you along the way. Don’t be so stressed and caught up in the moment that you forget to ‘have a little talk with Jesus and tell him all about your problems.’

One of the best decisions I made this weekend was consulting with HIM before starting. I already had the answer I just got caught up in the midst of the situation and lost track of what He told me to do which was KEEP IT SIMPLE. I choose the book I could get the most out of. I started classes on Monday so I keep you all posted on how this pans out. So far so good.

Your turn: Is there something you need to simplify in your life, career or business? Identify it and then ask God to show you how to simplify it to make it less stressful for you and those around you. Be open if He changes what you had planned. Sometimes you can’t receive new because you still holding on to what you have or what you created. Let God do a new thing in you. Let Him help you keep it simple. Remember, just because you have it doesn’t mean you have to use it this time. There will be other situations and circumstances where you will be able to put it to good use.

Until next time,

Always remember, to thine own self be TRUE for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS.

Live, Love, Lead
LIVE, LOVE, & LEAD in and on purpose.
Detra
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I AM God’s Masterpiece

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This week’s SpeakLife Declaration is:

For I am his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that I should walk in them. (‭Ephesians‬ ‭2‬:‭10‬ ESV).

I was reading my bible last night before heading to bed and The Lord took me to Ephesians chapter 2. As I was reading the chapter, verse 10 popped out at me. It says that we are his workmanship… In other translations it says we are his masterpiece.

Now I don’t know about you but I don’t always feel like a masterpiece. I don’t always feel like the Mona Lisa. I don’t always feel like something special and unique. Something that some might call priceless.

But guess what?

Who cares what I feel, God word is clear that in spite of how I feel about myself, His word declares how HE feels about me. This passage declares the we were created for GOOD WORKS which God prepared beforehand (before we got here) and not only that, but that we should walk in those good works that were created before we got here.

So let me let you in on a little secret…. You have purpose, you have a reason for being here, you are special and unique and set apart. I know that your life and your circumstances may not agree but I serve a God that can take whatever you are going through and turn it around if you let him.

So not only for today but for the next 7 days meditate on this passage of scripture and become one with it. Meditate on it until you really start to believe it. I also want you to speak it. Say it everyday throughout the day. Constantly remind yourself that you in fact are indeed a masterpiece. You were created with something specific in mind that God purposed for you to do and to be before you got here.

Until next time…

Always remember, to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS.

LIVE, LOVE, LEAD in & on purpose

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What will your LEGACY be?

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LEGACY is defined as something (such as property or money) that is received from someone who has died; or something that happened in the past or that comes from someone in the past; or anything handed down from the past, as from an ancestor or predecessor.

As I write this post on today, I am celebrating my birthday and will be posting just about all day on my Facebook page.  With so much craziness happening in our world people need to know that it’s okay to celebrate yourself when others don’t. We need to know that we can have our own party and enjoy ourselves and love ourselves as God loves us. It’s imperative that we learn to live in and on purpose and that starts withIN.

New starts with YOU. Start taking time out to celebrate and love on you. Take the mask off and embrace the REAL you. Yes it is great to have people who love you and care for you but what good does that do when you don’t love and care for yourself. There is so much violence and hate and not enough love in our world and our communities. Take some time to shake your glitter, to dance like no one is watching, to live like there’s no tomorrow and love like you’ve never been hurt. Let me tell you it’s scary but it’s the best feeling when you do. There are so many people who have yet to really LIVE. I dare you to try it!

As I think about the death of Robin Williams, Mike Brown, Erik Garner, Earl Hawkins (my grandfather who passed away a few weeks ago) and a few others who in our eyes were gone too soon or suddenly, I am reminded of the headlines on CBS News this morning referring to Robin Williams — Legacy of Laughter.  I started to think about the legacy I would like to leave behind as well as the legacy of others who gone before me and it prompted me to write today’s post.

WHAT LEGACY WILL YOU LEAVE BEHIND OR PASS ON?

WHAT WILL BE YOUR LEGACY?

People are leaving this earth left and right and sometimes we think we have more time than is allowed.  If you were to leave this earth tomorrow, what would your legacy be?  What would people remember you for?  Time waits for no one and no matter how young or old you are, you have purpose and have something that this world needs.

What memories will you leave behind?  

Are you living in and on purpose?  

Are you living an intentional life that is motivated by your life’s purpose?  

Robin Williams’ left a legacy of laughter, what will your legacy be?  

Now let me just change gears for a moment.  There are many ‘evils’ happening in our world, people are suffering severely with mental illness, substance abuse, we are experiencing violence against unarmed african american youth, sexual trafficking and abuse of girls, and so much more.  With so much going it is so important for you to be clear and intentional on making everyday count.

Not only on this day, MY BIRTHDAY, but everyday…

I AM COMMITTED TO …

Celebrating Life Celebrating TriumphCelebrating Breakthrough … Celebrating the fact that the enemy really thought he had me … Celebrating the fact that fear thought it would paralyze me but Faith released me.

We are in the 8th month of the 2014 and I am still in GREAT expectation of faster, double and NEW.  I am thanking God for the NEW that’s coming and for all that’s already happened. When others will never see this day… I am thankful for LIFE. It’s new dawn. It’s a new day… It’s a new year for me… and I’m feeling good!

CHECK OUT NINA SIMONE’S SONG – FEELING GOOD!

Take some time to ponder on the legacy YOU DECIDE you want to leave behind.  When people think of you, what do you want them to remember… Then get to MAKING IT HAPPEN.

Until Next time…

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Do something different…

Do something different to have something different

Have you ever gotten to the point where things have gotten a little mundane in your life?

It’s not bad but it’s not juicy.

It’s just a little stale. You know?

Well this morning I started thinking that I wanted do something different for my honey.  He works crazy hours a few days a week so he doesn’t get to have dinner with us on those days.  I normally work in the morning while my son and hubby are sleeping, but I decided I would make dinner this morning so he would have dinner before going to work.  Now listen, I know for some of you out there, this is the norm for you but it’s not for me.  Plus my hubby isn’t too picky and he normally eats lunch or dinner at work on his long days.  But I wanted to do something different.  Not because he said anything but because I just decided that some times we need to do things different if we want to see something different in our lives.

My hubby knows I love him and he knows I would do anything for him, but doing this one gesture changed his mannerism this morning… he thought I was cooking dinner so that I could take lunch to work with me.  So when I said no I cooked dinner early so he could have something to take when he leaves, he was surprised somewhat taken aback.  You see I’m normally not home when he leaves during the day.  So after hearing me say I cooked for hime, at first he said… “what’d you do”  then he said “what do you want”  WE both laughed.  But seriously, I didn’t want anything and I didn’t do anything.  I just decided to do something different and I believe it make difference in how special I made him feel.

Now I don’t share this because I want congrats or kudos on what I did.  I share this to ask you … what small yet significant changes can you make in your life that could enhance or make your life better?  It made me feel good knowing that I did a little something ‘extra’ for my boo.  Some times it’s the little things that make a big difference.  I challenge you to think about what small yet significant things you can do in for yourself or for someone special in your life to make it a little bit juicier?

Remember if nothing changes, nothing changes.  In order for things to change in your life and those around you, you need to make some changes, first within yourself and for others.  Take some time to write down what those changes could be and don’t think about it too much, just TAKE ACTION.  Then come back and let me know how it worked out for you.  You know never, it could be the one thing you need to get that jolt or get your mojo back.

OH… don’t forget to join me next Tuesday for my free Monthly Motivational Coaching Call at 6pm.  It’s going to be juicy (that’s my new word-lol). It’s called “March Madness… 7 ways to minimize the madness in your life.” Check out the details below.

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

Hugs…

Detra
Life Purpose Generator – Speaker | Coach | Consultant | Mentor
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Look for the Lessons

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As I was looking over this past year and thinking about allllll that has happened, I was reminded to look at the lessons I’ve learned.  Sometimes we tend to only focus on what happened or what didn’t happened but sometimes we miss those opportune moments to look for the lessons in each experience we encounter.  This week’s post is an mp3 audio recording that I want to share with you on how look for the lessons in the varied experiences you had this year as well as as how to make this a habit for the new year…

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Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts on the lessons you may have missed because you didn’t initially look for them.

Here’s to you living in and on purpose

Hugs…

Detra
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Help… I’m Overwhelmed!!!

Are you feeling Overwhelmed?

Are you ready to just throw in the towel?

Is life becoming a bit much lately?

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Over the last week or two, I’ve had conversations with a number of individuals who are feeling overwhelmed, anxious and just downright stressed to the point of no return.

Can you relate?  

Have you ever felt so overwhelmed that you just wanted to throw in the towel on your dreams, your business, your job, your marriage and maybe even life? 

You just felt like it was TOO MUCH for you to deal with.

While one individual was feeling overwhelmed about her new responsibilities as an entrepreneur in addition to working on her PhD, another was feeling overwhelmed about her responsibilities as a new wife and mother and how to adjust and balance it with a demanding work schedule.  Then there was another who was overwhelmed with EVERYTHING, her business, her marriage, and her overall life.  I imagine that those of you reading this have felt overwhelmed at some point in your life.  Maybe you are feeling overwhelmed right this minute.

Well I’ve been there and those are the days (I must admit) that I just shut down.  When I felt myself getting to that point, I would just go to bed, lay on the couch or just watch shows of nothingness on TV.  Other times, I would recharge, re-assess, and rejuvenate myself to get back on track.  Over the years, as I learned to better cope with my stress and anxiety, I learned that sometimes I just had too much going on and at other times I wasn’t prioritizing well enough.

Can you relate?

What I am going to share with you are things that I shared with my clients listed above.  It is my hope that these strategies you can immediately put to use to deal with your overwhelm as well as to help keep you from getting overwhelmed.  I’ve also used most if not all of them at some point or another.

Keep in mind that this list isn’t exhaustive… feel free to add to it in the comments section.

  1. First you must know that this is not God’s intention for you or for your life.  You are not supposed to be overwhelmed.  His word says for those who are heavy laden, He will give you rest if you come unto Him (Matt 11:28).  His word also says, that he will be give you praise for a spirit of heaviness (Isaiah 61:3).  It also says to cast your cares on Him for He cares for you (I Peter 5:7).
  2. Next take a deep breath.  Breathe through it.  Sometimes taking a few minutes to take some really deep breaths in and out help to ease your level of anxiety and give you a moment to get yourself together.
  3. Take a Mental Health day.  Take a break from everything and just tend to you and your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health.  Rest your mind, rest your body, and rest your spirit.  If you have sick days at work that you NEVER use…. it might be TIME you put them to use.
  4. Keep going and don’t freeze.  Don’t let your overwhelm keep you in a constant state of paralysis… where you think about your particular issue so much that you do nothing about it. (been there done that)
  5. Go back to what worked the last time.  If you’ve been here before, what worked that last time?  What strategies did you use and implement the last time it worked.  Do it again!  If it’s doing a brain dump and writing everything out in your journal, screaming and having a good cry, writing a letter, praying, taking a day off to get yourself together. Whatever it is, take some time to do what has worked for you in the past. Remember, if you were able to get through it before you can get through it again.
  6. Pray & Meditate. Although this should be first, this list is in no particular order.  When you feel yourself getting full of anxiety, fear, worry, and doubt… PRAY.  Philippians 4:67 says: Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life. As I stated in #1, it is NOT God’s intention for you to be stressed and overwhelmed.
  7. After you’ve prayed and had your meditation.  Read God’s word and other positive self affirming sayings or readings that affirm the awesomeness that you are.
  8. Quiet all of the noise in your head.  Try to get to a quiet place to get clear from the clutter.
  9. Take a walk.  Sometimes a walk to clear your mind will give you answers to everything you need as it relates to your anxiety, stress and overwhelm.  It helps you to put things into perspective, clear your mind and it also removes you from the environment that may be causing you to be overwhelmed.
  10. Exercise. It is said that exercise can actually calm anxiety.  By exercising you are clearing your mind and body from toxins that may be cluttering them. It also gets your body and juices running.  By exercising, you may actually get clarity on what’s causing you to be overwhelmed.
  11. As suggested in #4 as something you may have already done, do a brain dump or journal.  A brain dump is when you just empty everything you have in your head out on paper.  There’s no rhyme, reason or rhythm to how it comes out.  You just write it as it you are thinking it.  As for journaling, it’s the same although most times your thoughts are little more concise and clear.
  12. Take some things off of your plate.  Are you doing too much?  Are you saying YES to everyone and everything?  STOP IT!  You can’t be all things to all people.  Start learning to say NO.
  13. Here are a few extra bonuses:  Have your moment, have a good ole cry, or have a really good laugh. One of the individuals I spoke to had intentionally called me to get her a good cry in but I ended up making her laugh so hard that she decided that a cry wasn’t what she needed but it was a good laugh.

Before I go, here is a post I found when preparing for this week’s post:  Ten Bible verses for when you feel overwhelmed.  I hope you enjoy them.

If this post has been helpful, please be sure to share your thoughts in the comment section and on my facebook page.  Also, feel free to share what has worked for you when you are overwhelmed.

Until Next Time…

Here’s to you living life IN & ON Purpose…
Detra
Life Purpose Generator
TrueheartSpeaks.com
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