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Move in spite of how you feel

Move in spite of how you feel

I had a friend call me one day and she was feeling some kinda way. She was working in a project and she just couldn’t get past how she was feeling. She was feeling blah, out of it, not motivated and just in a funk.

Have you ever felt that way…

I know I have…

Ever have a big project or task to tackle but you just did not ‘feel’ like it? Well me too. There have been tons of days where I didn’t feel like it but I did it anyway.

This conversation I was having with my friend is similar to many conversations I have had with clients on moving past how you feel so you can get to where you desire to be.

When you have a goal in front of you, you can let feelings get the best of you. And as women, we tend to rest in our feelings when making decisions.

STOP IT!

Now I’m not telling you to ignore your gut feelings or your intuition but I am saying that those feelings of ‘doubt, insecurity, I’m not enough, I don’t feel it, etc‘. — suck it up and get moving. Same thing I had to say to my girlfriend. Heck it’s the same thing I have to say to myself sometimes.  Depending on where you are in this journey, you don’t have time to be whining about how you feel.

Some days it’s do or don’t.

Either you make it happen or it doesn’t happen.

Sometimes you have to make the sacrifice now and sow the seeds now so you can reap a harvest later. Many of us want a good life, good health, good wealth, a good marriage or a great job, career or business but we don’t want to put the work in.

As a believer of Christ, the bible is clear that we walk by faith and not by sight. Walking by what you see is essentially walking by what you feel. This race we are called to run was never promised to be easy. Trust that whatever God has ordained and put you here to do, you have the strength, power and ability to do in Him.

Moving in spite of how you feel (& what you see) is all about trusting a power that is greater than you. When it gets hard, holdfast to the vision, dream, goal or aspiration. If you don’t have any, then that may be why you are tossed ‘to and fro.’ You have nothing to stand on. When your feelings are trying to overtake you, you have to also remember all of the ‘other’ stuff you’ve come through.  You also have to remember WHY you are doing what you are doing.

As you go higher, your faith will be tested and you have to make the decision that you will move in spite of how you feel. You move in what you know. You move not in what you see with your sight but in what you see with your vision.

  • Feeling like giving up…
  • Feeling like you can’t go any further…
  • Feeling like this situation is about to over take you…

Well keep going… Put one step in front of the other and don’t let how you feel abort what’s ahead of you.

Until next time…

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Are you ready for the reveal?

Ok so … you may nor may not know but tomorrow I will be hosting a FREE Training on how to Manifest More in our life and purpose.  It’s tomorrow, Wednesday, October 22 at 7pm EST.

If you knew about… You are registered for it, right?  

NO!  — Well let me tell you why you need to register.

Because it is going to be goooooddd!!

lolol… Just kidding but no really it is going to be good.

As I was preparing, I looked up the word manifest and among the many meanings and definitions, these words popped out at me:

To declare
To make known
To reveal
To show

Now let me ask you this question:

Are you ready to declare more, make known more, reveal more and show more of who God created you to be?

I sure hope your answer is YES!

You see we are in a time and place where playing games and hiding behind facades is out and being authentic, real and unapologetic are in.  Too many people, maybe you included, have sat on the sidelines of their own lives and just let life pass them by.  Maybe, you’ve let fear tell you what wasn’t possible and or you let fear drive when it should have been faith in the driver’s seat.  Maybe something happened in your life where your confidence and self-esteem has been shaken and you know it’s time to declare, make known, reveal and show more of your gifts, talents, call and purpose but you just aren’t sure how.

Well my dear trueheart, I am going to show you how on my FREE call on Wednesday.  If you have yet to register, do it now at bit.ly/manifestmorenow.   I want to show you how to manifest more in your life and your purpose.  I want to give you some foundational tools and tips to jumpstart you to manifesting what you desire as opposed to what others desire for you.

In addition to my FREE call, you get my 3-part free video series on the three steps you need to take before you start your journey to manifesting more.

I hope to ‘see’ you on the call on Wednesday.  Don’t wait to register because if you are anything like me, you might forget.
Do it now! –> bit.ly/manifestmorenow

Join the #ManifestMore Movement and hop on Facebook or Twitter and let me know you will be joining me.

Live.Love.Lead & Manifest MORE!
Hugs…
Detra

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Mind Over Matter. Master Your Mind. Master Your Life.

I am finding that more and more people are struggling with negative, pessimistic, hindering thoughts that keep them from living God’s best life for themselves.  In this month’s article, I will share some of the points I mentioned during my May Motivational Coaching Call. I believe that if you are struggling with self-defeating thoughts or have more negative than positive thoughts, then this message is for you.

The first thing you must know is… EVERYTHING starts in the mind.  Where you are today is a direct result of the thoughts you have been thinking.  The very thoughts you had one, two, or three years ago have brought you to this very place.  If you want to change the direction of your life, you MUST change the direction of your thoughts.

Now if everything starts in the mind with a thought or idea, the next question is …

  • What type of thoughts do you have?
  • What do you think about in a daily basis?

Take a minute to ponder on that…. Keep in mind that on a daily basis we have some 70,000 thoughts that go in and out of our minds.  YES you heard right… 70,000!!!  With that many how are we to know which ones to pay attention and which ones to let go of… I know many days I feel the same way.

Now let me ask you this…

  • Do you think about what you think about?

Let that settle for a few seconds.

  • Do you really think about your thoughts? 

Or do you just let whatever comes into your head stay, pay rent and take residence? If you answered YES to the latter, that’s part of true problem. You don’t believe you can control and dictate your thoughts. You think that because it shows up you have to let it in and take residence.

NOT SO!!

Today start being intentional and on purpose about your thoughts.

Proverbs 4:23 in two different translations says…

  • Carefully guard your thoughts because they are the source of true life. (CEVDCUS06)
  • More than anything you guard, protect your mind, for life flows from it. (CEB)

Where you desire to be in a year will be because of the thoughts you think today. When you make the commitment to think about what you think about, you then have to start renewing your mind daily with the kind of thoughts that propel you into purpose and destiny. Self affirming and catapulting thoughts. What do you say to yourself when no one is looking? If you don’t know then you need to start being more proactive about that. What you think is what you will say. Start saying and meditating day and night on those things that are positive; that are life generating and life affirming; that are purpose propelling and catalytic in your life. You don’t want to keep thinking thoughts that only hold you back or keep you stagnant because of stinking thinkin.

If you aren’t sure if you suffer from stinkin thinkin, here are some examples:

  • This is just the way I am
  • This is who God made me
  • If I was supposed to change I would have changed by now
  • I’m too old for this I’m too set in my ways
  • This is the way things are supposed to be
  • I’ve tried everything and nothing has worked (even though you really didn’t. You tried the first week and when it didn’t turn out the way you thought you quit.)
  • I’m tired of trying
  • What if it doesn’t work… what if I fail
  • It’s sound too good to be true and if it sounds too good to be true then it probably is.
  • That’s not me that takes too much energy
  • What will people, my husband/wife, friends think
  • You have been thinking and planning for years but have yet to get started
  • It’s never your fault, it’s always someone else
  • Maybe they are right… maybe I should have just…

Is this you??? 

If so, it’s time to change how you thinkchange what you think about, and make positive self affirming deposits within yourself (affirmations, reading, change your environment of people places and things, have rebuttals).

John Maxwell says, “If you don’t like the crop you are reaping, you need to change the seed you are sowing! You need to start sowing the seed of good thinking?

You may not think so, but IT IS possible to start changing the way you think.

In order to master your thoughts you must…

  • Identify negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts
  • Be more intentional about your thoughts
  • Actively and intentionally attain resources available to help you master your thinking and other areas in your life.

You have to start making daily deposits in yourself to really make the changes you need. If you don’t have anything to draw from you get NSF (Non-Sufficient Funds) like in a bank account.

Start investing in yourself.  Start investing in books, reading materials, seminars, conferences, a Life Coach, etc. that challenge you to go to the next level in your thinking.  Where you are is not where you are supposed to be.  You can go so much further! Surround yourself with people who build you up and who challenge you. Iron sharpens iron.  Don’t stay complacent with where you are. Always have a desire and yearning to cultivate, nurture and grow personally. Stretch yourself.

Make a firm decision that who you are now is not who you want to be and where you are is not where you desire to be next year.  Many times we say, ‘by this time next year, I will be‘ … and when next year arrives you are in the exact same place.  You never do anything to make your future dreams and goals manifest.  In order to change your thinking, you must identify what has contributed to your current way of thinking.  If any of those ‘stinkin thinkin’ examples I gave you sound familiar, it is time for a change.

Let me ask you a few questions…

  • Was there something that happened when you were a child that caused you to lock yourself in a box and swear to never come out?
  • Who changed your self esteem and intimidated you into thinking that the greatness that resides inside of you doesn’t exist?
  • What other people, places and things have you encountered in your life that caused you to give up so quickly without every trying?
  • Were you abused, bullied, sheltered, made to feel less than, talked down to or even exposed to people who had drive no passion or zeal.

Do you even know what it is to just take a risk and go for it and try the impossible?

Joyce Meyers states in her book, “Battlefield of the Mind,” “Our past may explain why we’re suffering, but we must not use it as an excuse to stay in bondage.”  

If you are asking if there is a way to get past this… YES, there is a way out if you so desire it!  Most of our outward behavior is only a result of our inner life. If that inner critic can control your thoughts, he can control your actions… and from the looks of your actions, he may still be controlling your thoughts.

BUT NOT AFTER TODAY!

Whatever it may be, it’s time to put mind over matter and begin the journey to mastering your thoughts, so you can master your life.

Because if … 

…you are what you think … what are you?

and

…if  we become what we think… what will become of you?

Yes… think about that…based on your thoughts what are you and what will become of you?

To become more of what you think instead of what just pops into your mind you have to start thinking about what you think about.  You must be more intentional about your thinking.  You have to start thinking IN purpose and ON purpose.

Here are some ways to think purposefully from Rick Warren, Pastor and Author of the Purpose-Driven Life:

  • Satan can’t get your attention when your mind is preoccupied with something else. That’s why the Bible teaches us to fix our thoughts on Jesus (Hebrews 3:1) and to fill our minds with those things that are good and that deserve praise: things that are “true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and honorable.” (Philippians 4:8 TEV)
  • When we’re serious about defeating temptation, we will manage our thoughts and monitor our media intake. Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived warned: “Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.” (Proverbs 4:23 TEV)
  • Don’t allow thoughts to run indiscriminately in your mind. Be selective. Choose carefully what you think about. Follow Paul’s model: “We capture every thought and make it give up and obey Christ.” (2 Corinthians 10:5 NCV)

If you aren’t an avid reader, here a few books I’ve read and am reading that deal with the mind to help get you off to a good start:

  • Rich Dad Poor Dad – Robert Kiyosaki
  • Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill
  • Thinking for A Change – John Maxwell
  • Battlefield of the Mind – Joyce Meyer
  • Secrets of the Millionaire Mind – T. Harv Eker
  • As a Man Thinketh- James Allen
  • The Holy Bible

Lastly, here is a quote that I closed the call out with:

“Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. If you continue to act as you have always acted, you will continue to get what you have always gotten. If you want different results in your life or your work, all you have to do is change your mind.”  ~Unknown

I hope you enjoyed the plethora of content I shared with you from our May Motivational Coaching Call.  There are so many people missing out on their best life because they don’t believe they can have it.  Remember it starts in the MIND.  My prayer is that you will start to master your mind so you can master you life.  Now, if you know this isn’t something you can so on your own, head over to my website and check out how we can work together.  I’d love to be the catalyst you need to start living life in and on purpose.

—  make sure you c’mon over to my facebook page.  I’d love to hear your take on this one!  ==>“See you” on facebook!

Also, don’t forget to share your thoughts in the comments section. I would love to hear from you. There may be someone who just might be blessed by what you share!

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Life Empowerment Coach

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Mind Over Matter Monday – Motivational Minute 392

Great Morning True Hearts… you may have noticed that I have made a small change to the Monday Motivational Minute.  Your Monday Morning Motivational Minute will be designed to help you get your mind right for the week.  I will still be motivational but more focused on Mindset.

So with that said…

It’s Mind Over Matter Monday!

Today’s Motivational Minute is …

Do you think about what you think about?

As you begin your week, know that everything starts in your mind.  If you want this week to be better than last week you must first conquer the battle in your mind.  You must start thinking about what you think about.  Don’t just let thoughts of distraction, negativity and fear drift into your mind and stay.  Replace them with thoughts of focus, affirmation and faith.

YOUR TURN… on this Mind Over Matter Monday, tell me in what ways you will begin to think about what you think about?  Have you been intentional in the past with your thinking or have you just let any ole thing come in and take residence?  Have has this affected you in the past?

Share your thoughts in the comments section. I would love to hear from you. There may be someone who just might be blessed by what you share!

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Life Empowerment Coach

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Free Coaching Call – Thurs May 2 at 8PM

Have you registered for this Thursday’s FREE Motivational Coaching Call???

If not, I would love for you to be on the call.

THERE’S STILL TIME TO REGISTER!!

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May is all about getting your mind right. Whether you run a business, are launching a business or are just trying to be the best person you can be at work and in life, your mind is where it starts! You are what you think and if you aren’t where you desire to be, you might want to check your thoughts!

As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.

It’s time for you to start renewing your mind daily with positive self-affirming thoughts that push you into God’s best life for you. Negative thoughts and inner critics keep you right where the enemy wants you… Stagnant and in the same place you were last year.  It’s time to make some changes.  In order to get different results you need to do something different…. so start THINKING differently so you can start SPEAKING different and then DOING things differently!

You can’t LIVE in & on purpose if you don’t THINK in & on purpose.

What you think about, you bring about!

Where you desire to be next year starts with what you think today!

Isn’t it time you started living the life of your dreams??? Well it starts in your mind.

Join me tomorrow at 8PM for my FREE Monthly Motivational Coaching Call.

“Mind Over Matter: Master Your Mind. Master Your Life.”

Register TODAY: http://bit.ly/10wqVAx ==> It’s a 30 minutes dose of motivation, inspiration and transformation.

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Motivational Minute 274

Today’s Motivational Minute…

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When it rains it may pour, but the thing that makes all the difference is having an umbrella, a rain coat, and/or rain boots to shield you from getting wet. Sometimes when problems arise, it’s not what happens that makes the difference but how you respond to and how prepared you are for a rainy day. You can’t always predict when troubles will come but if you put the right mindset, skills, resources and tools in place, when troubles come, you are well able to handle, go through and withstand the storm.

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 182

Today’s Motivational Minute…

Poverty and Wealth are not a position but a condition. They are mindsets that can be changed. Staying in poverty/debt or building wealth are learned behaviors and mindsets. What you were taught (via words and/or actions) as a child determines what you teach your child(ren). Make an effort to learn about building wealth rather than staying in poverty/debt and then be intentional with teaching your family and children.

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 181

Today’s Motivational Minute…

You are and you have what you say and what you think.  Keep in mind that what you say and what you think about yourself (and your future) may not change who you are today, but they can definitely change and determine who you become tomorrow.  “Watch your thoughts, they become your words; Watch your words, they become your actions; Watch your actions, they become your habits; Watch your habits, they become your character; Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.  YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK!”

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 108

Today’s Motivational Minute…

First ask yourself: What is the worst that can happen? Then prepare to accept it. Then proceed to improve on the worst.

~Dale Carnegie

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Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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