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What are you waiting for?

What are you waiting for-

So a few weeks ago, I challenged you to get out of your own way and start living with intention. My message stressing the fact that tomorrow is not promised was a clarion call to you to stop waiting on tomorrow.

With that being said, my message today is a continuation of the previous message. This past Friday, my hubby and I celebrated the life of friend that passed away who was 42 leaving behind his wife and ten year old son. Yes, crazy right!  It is very hard for me to think about raising my four-year-old son without his daddy but this will not be the reality for a set of four year old twins and now a 10 year old boy.

Some of you may have seen my facebook posts or you’ve heard me talk about it on facebook live or periscope but another husband and father left this world sooner than we would have like him to.  I won’t get into all of the specifics but I want to ask if you are living at your fullest capacity and if not, why?

What are you waiting for?  

I was at a Vision Book Party last weekend and a question was posed by one of the ladies and she asked about timing regarding the manifestation of dreams/goals. She basically wanted to know if there was a deadline on dreams and if she has missed her time.  As the conversation concluded, I simply asked her, “What are you waiting for?” and I will again ask you the same question.

What are you waiting for?  

After the sudden deaths of two really good people, there is an urgency for me to operate at my fullest capacity and do what really makes my heart smile.  I feel a sense of imperativeness to go full steam ahead to do what I know God has called me to do.  I will be 40 in a few months and although I know that God knows what He’s doing, I would hate to leave this world not having lived this life with a fullness and vibrancy that only I know can live it.

What about you

I mean really, time is of the essence and tomorrow is most assuredly not promised, so what will you do about it?

  • Will you start writing the book?
  • Will you work to clear up your credit?
  • Will you start taking better care of yourself?
  • Will you start the blog?
  • Will you schedule the doctor’s appointment.
  • Will you start the business or the ministry or the not for profit?
  • Will you clear the clutter?
  • Will you apply for the job?
  • Will you update your resume?
  • Will you fill out the application for school?
  • Will you go on that vacation that you keep dreaming about?
  • Will start saving for the vacation so you can actually make it a reality?

Will you just get started already or will you continue to let whatever is holding you back, keep you stuck, stalled and stagnant for another day, week, month, year or two years, like the woman who asked the question at the Vision Book Party?

Let me say this, if you are saying “Detra, I just don’t have time. I have too many other things going on in my life,” then you are focused on the wrong things and you need to reassess your priorities. You should only be giving those things that are highest priority to you, your time and energy. The problem is many of us are giving our time and energy to those things that drain and distract us from the essentials. Stop it!  If you struggle with this, get my Time Hacks for Busy Women training and workbook to help you start planning your day and your life around those things that matter most to you. (It’s 20% off until 5/25. Use the code: PMD16)

Listen, I trust God and believe that when our time is up, it’s in God’s timing. But what I won’t do is waste time while on this earth, letting my fear, my past, my present, people, or anything else keep me from living my best life. I read a book (I can’t remember which one) that said accumulate experiences not things and that’s what I plan to do. Hubby and I went on our first filed trip together with our son over the weekend and we had a blast. I don’t just want to work well, I want to live well and love big.

I am not sure what you are waiting on, but I challenge you to get out of your own way and get to the business of living. There is a group of people who are assigned to you who are waiting on you while you wait on … {you fill in the blank}.

Will you keep them (and yourself) waiting?


Don’t just work well. Live well and love big.
@TrueheartSpeaks

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Your assignment:

If you didn’t do what I asked you to do from a few weeks ago, I want you to stop thinking about those things you’ve wanted to do but kept putting off and DO THEM! Start making time for the things that matter most to you. Stop waiting until ‘tomorrow.’ Take action today. I am not sure what you are waiting on but you have everything you need right now at this very moment to take your next best step. DO IT!
Until Next Time…
Hug + Love + Prayers

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Move in spite of how you feel

Move in spite of how you feel

I had a friend call me one day and she was feeling some kinda way. She was working in a project and she just couldn’t get past how she was feeling. She was feeling blah, out of it, not motivated and just in a funk.

Have you ever felt that way…

I know I have…

Ever have a big project or task to tackle but you just did not ‘feel’ like it? Well me too. There have been tons of days where I didn’t feel like it but I did it anyway.

This conversation I was having with my friend is similar to many conversations I have had with clients on moving past how you feel so you can get to where you desire to be.

When you have a goal in front of you, you can let feelings get the best of you. And as women, we tend to rest in our feelings when making decisions.

STOP IT!

Now I’m not telling you to ignore your gut feelings or your intuition but I am saying that those feelings of ‘doubt, insecurity, I’m not enough, I don’t feel it, etc‘. — suck it up and get moving. Same thing I had to say to my girlfriend. Heck it’s the same thing I have to say to myself sometimes.  Depending on where you are in this journey, you don’t have time to be whining about how you feel.

Some days it’s do or don’t.

Either you make it happen or it doesn’t happen.

Sometimes you have to make the sacrifice now and sow the seeds now so you can reap a harvest later. Many of us want a good life, good health, good wealth, a good marriage or a great job, career or business but we don’t want to put the work in.

As a believer of Christ, the bible is clear that we walk by faith and not by sight. Walking by what you see is essentially walking by what you feel. This race we are called to run was never promised to be easy. Trust that whatever God has ordained and put you here to do, you have the strength, power and ability to do in Him.

Moving in spite of how you feel (& what you see) is all about trusting a power that is greater than you. When it gets hard, holdfast to the vision, dream, goal or aspiration. If you don’t have any, then that may be why you are tossed ‘to and fro.’ You have nothing to stand on. When your feelings are trying to overtake you, you have to also remember all of the ‘other’ stuff you’ve come through.  You also have to remember WHY you are doing what you are doing.

As you go higher, your faith will be tested and you have to make the decision that you will move in spite of how you feel. You move in what you know. You move not in what you see with your sight but in what you see with your vision.

  • Feeling like giving up…
  • Feeling like you can’t go any further…
  • Feeling like this situation is about to over take you…

Well keep going… Put one step in front of the other and don’t let how you feel abort what’s ahead of you.

Until next time…

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Know Your Season

Know your season-2

 

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Not only know your season but be okay with the season you are in. Now stay with me, I get it but sometimes it can be frustrating when you feel like you aren’t where you want to be. But being frustrated only causes stress and anxiety.

I remember when I got pregnant with my son back in 2011, I had anticipated launching my speaking business and traveling across the country speaking to audiences about living in and on purpose. But God had other plans for me. In addition to knowing your season it’s important to be flexible about the current season your in. When God shows up and cancels YOUR plans, know that He has much much much bigger plans in store for you.

Now getting back to the subject at hand… You might ask why is knowing your season important. Well for one, it’s important because if you understand where you are in your life, things don’t seem to be as stressful when they don’t work out as planned. As a parent of a toddler there are just some things I am unable to do right know. For example, there are just some shows on TV that I don’t watch simply because I’m aware of its effects on my son. When my son was first born consistent sleep (SLEEP what’s that!) was no longer part of my life. I didn’t like it but I grew to understand that season that I was going through. The best part about it is that I had friends who had been through it so because of them I was already somewhat aware.

Now keep in mind that living in and on purpose isn’t always about going after your dreams, it’s also about how you intentionally live your everyday life.

  • Are you present in the lives of those who matter most to you?
  • Are you present in and enjoying the work you do?
  • Are you intentionally taking care of your mind, body & spirit?

Knowing what season you are in is a part of living in and on purpose is all about being present. You intentionally live out every area of your life. Knowing what season of life you are in can be tricky so sometimes being aware of your season and season changes is also important. Most places that experience the change from summer to fall or winter to spring start to notice the weather changes. The trees and flowers start to change and even the clothes you where start to change.

If things seem to be frustrating, stressful, or overwhelming in your life, before you start spazzing out because things aren’t the way you want them to be, check your surroundings to see if the season you are in is changing or to see if it has already changed yet you are still holding on to what was. If you notice a change, then know that it’s time to go with the flow and adapt to the season at hand.

As we transition from 2014 to 2015, take some time to examine and identify which season you are in and ask God to help you rest in that season until it’s time to transition out of that season. Be in the moment of the season, enjoy that time, and learn whatever life lessons you are supposed to learn. Don’t be so rushed to go to the next seasons and phase of you life that you miss opportunities to enjoy where you are. Really get clear on your current season.

  • Are you in a sowing season (Spring)?
  • Are you in a budding season(Summer)?
  • Are in a reaping season (Fall)?
  • Are you in a hibernating season (Winter)?

Take some time this week to identify your current seasons of your life… now keep in mind that you may be in different seasons at different times… you could be a sowing season of your business but a reaping season in your marriage. All areas of your life will not be in the same season as the same time.

Until next time… to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS.

Continue to Live Life IN & ON Purpose.

Detra
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Motivational Monday – Motivational Minute 366

It’s Motivational Monday!

Today’s Motivational Minute is …

…taken  from one of my favorite songs. Go Get It by Mary Mary. <== Click here

take a moment to listen to this song, let it marinate and then GO GET IT!!!  

YOUR TURN… on this Motivational Monday, tell me how you plan to go after your dreams! What one thing will you do today to go get it!

Share your thoughts in the comments section. I would love to hear from you. There may be someone who just might be blessed by what you share!

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Fearless Friday Motivational Minute 356

It’s Fearless Friday…

Today’s Motivational Minute is …

Feel the Fear and Do it anyway!  –> Sometimes you have to take each step while feeling the very essence of fear within.  But don’t let it stop you.  Your breakthrough gets closer with each step you take.  Just focus on the where you are going not the fear that is trying to keep you from getting there!

Your turn…  tell me the next step you need to take in the midst of fear? When do you plan on taking that first step?

Share below in the comments section.

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Are you taking it all in???

Take It All In

 

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On September 1st, we celebrated my son’s first Birthday. I am still in sheer amazement that this year has flown by so quickly. Some days I feel like it was just yesterday that I was bringing him home from the hospital. During my pregnancy, lots of people would tell me to ‘take it all in because it goes by so fast.’ To be honest, I still have family, friends and even strangers share the same sentiments as Dallas grows and gets older each day. So as I sat and watched Dallas sleeping the night before his birthday, I thought to myself, am I really taking it all in and have I done a good job of enjoying ‘the moment‘ in spite of still rushing through many of my days.

Well it depends on the day, and what is happening. There are some days that I am on point with spending quality time with my son, taking lots of pictures and just being in the moment with him. However there are other days that the day flies by and I wonder where it went, why am I so tired, and how did bed time arrive so abruptly.

You probably have those moments too where you are…

  • …living life so nonchalant that you wake up some days wondering where the time and days have gone.
  • …thinking how did I get here and why haven’t I stopped to smell the roses.
  • …wondering how do I get back on track to taking it all in and paying attention to the things that really matter in my life.

Well just in case this is you and you are wondering how to get back on track or how to stay on track, here are a few suggestions that I’ve learned to implement.

  1. pause… take some time to just pause and really take in where you are, what’s going on, how it makes you feel, etc. Many times we are so engrossed with where we are trying to ‘be’ instead of focusing on where we are right now. STOP IT… tomorrow will take care of itself. Enjoy TODAY.
  2. document… journal, take pictures, talk about it and celebrate it with others (family, friends, etc.). Some times the best way to enjoy the moment is to create memories of that moment so that you have it beyond that day.
  3. celebrate… no matter how small a goal is or how small the moment, take it all in and CELEBRATE yourself and how far you’ve come. Think back to where you were a year ago and get excited about the fact that you made into another year and that you are in a better place.

BE INTENTIONAL about your life, your goals and your future and THIS MOMENT of time in your life. Be in the moment, Be present, and Be attentive. This moment may never come again and when it passes you will not be able to get it back, so do everything you can, even as tired and warn out as you may be feeling, to ENJOY EVERY MOMENT of your life.

WHY… because YOU are worth it.

As a matter of fact, say this….

Today I will take in every moment of my life because I AM WORTH IT! I may never get another chance to embrace all that life is giving me at this very moment, therefore I AM TAKING IT ALL IN!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 351

Today’s Motivational Minute …

“A year from now you may wish you had started today.”

– Karen Lamb

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 347

Today’s Motivational Minute …

Be open to all the good that is coming your way today!

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 345

Today’s Motivational Minute…

Everyone won’t be happy about your success.  Some people will try to tell  you that your dream is too big but don’t let that stop you from pursuing your big dreams and goals.  Don’t let their insecurities become yours.

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 337

Today’s Motivational Minute …

No Discipline — No Destiny!  

No Sacrifice — NO Success!  

If you haven’t counted the cost for your purpose, destiny and dream, when sacrifice and discipline are required to get you to the next level, you will quit.  Count up the cost.  Be ready to discipline yourself and make some HUGE sacrifices for the success of your destiny.

success key

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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