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Ok so I know I have been MIA for a minute…

I have been in transition and things have been a bit crazy (but in a good way).  I will fill you in at a later date.  However, I have been working to create more video blogs in addition to writing to make sure I am reaching my Trueheart family in a myriad of ways.  So with that said a few weeks ago, I started recording Life Purpose videos with short but powerful messages to help push, propel and provoke you into your life’s purpose.

I’m really tired of people walking around unhappy and unfulfilled when of the power to change your situation and circumstances lies in your hands.  My first video was about getting started and as you will see I am still trying to master posting videos online.  But in spite of the challenges, I’m committed to sharing and doing what God tells me to do.  What about you?  Will you get out of your own way and just do it.  No matter what the outcome, just take the first step.  Sometimes it’s not about the outcome but more about if you have the courage to just launch out into the deep (or even the shallow) end of purpose and do what you know in your heart of heart you should be doing.

Remember you don’t have to be great to get started but you do need to get started to be great.  So check out the video and be sure to leave me a comment to let me know what you think as well as share it with those you think would be blessed by watching the video.

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Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

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Detra
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Iron Sharpens Iron

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This past week I had the opportunity to attend the Speak for Pay Conference hosted by Marshawn Evans.  Can I tell you I had time of my life!!!  As I look back, I realize that I was on assignment.  In addition to attending as a participant, my assignment included attending as someone who will be hosting her own live events and getting a clear vision of what life and business could be like for me one day.  I was expanding my vision and up leveling my current life and business.

You see the way God reveals visions and dreams to me is through experiences most times.  Some people see visions via dreams, I get mine through actual experiences.  I might show up at someone’s house and see something and the Lord will speak to me and say this is it… this is what I was referring to the other day.  Crazy right… I know …. but at any rate, from beginning to end of the event, God was showing me what is possible when I allow myself to be shifted and pushed out of my comfort zone and when I am in a space where I am with like-minded individuals.

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When we are with those who understand our struggle, our desires, and our passions, it somewhat takes the stress off of trying to explain greatness to people who just don’t ‘get’ it.  Well that’s how I felt.  I don’t know about you but when I can feel myself transitioning to the next level, I sometimes feel isolated or out of place.  However, that was not the case in Atlanta, where the event was held.  I was with a group of like-minded individuals being poured into by a mentor/coach who understood us.  Have you felt that way?  Where others didn’t really ‘get you’ or ‘get’ something you were going through or ‘get’ that dream you were pursuing?

Well sometimes you have to take the initiative the PUT yourself in environments where iron sharpens iron and birds of feather can flock together.  And not just any bird, but EAGLES.  You need someone who has been where you are going or who has experienced similar feelings and emotions in order for you to have the breakthrough you desire.  There were so many things that were confirmed while on this trip, so I knew I was in the right place.  When shifting and transitioning to that ‘next level,’ you need people in your circle, on your row and leading you who ‘get’ you.  You need iron to sharpen your iron.  Not plastic or glass, but iron.  You need people around you who are ‘like’ you.

If you are feeling a little isolated or estranged.  If you are feeling like no one ‘gets’ you. If you are in need of a coach or mentor who can really meet you where you are, you need an ‘iron sharpens iron’ experience like I had this past weekend.  If you don’t already have this in your life, you need to change it up.  Ask God to show you what changes you need to make.  Whether it’s changing your inner circle and the people on your row, do it.  Start aligning yourself with like-minded, purpose-driven, go-getters who are willing to do whatever it takes to pursue and live God’s best life.  If you need to invest in yourself by getting a coach or mentor or attending an event that will expose you to iron sharpeners, then DO IT.

  • You can’t keep waiting for them to get it; they won’t.  
  • You can’t keep waiting for the right time; it’s NOW.  
  • You can’t keep waiting for things to be perfect… NOT gonna happen.

It’s time for you to invest in yourself by surrounding yourself with WHATEVER is necessary to help provoke you into your life’s purpose.  I challenge you to make a list of things you know you need to do to start making that shift and DO one this week.  Go to an event where go getters are hanging out.  Sign up for a new training.  Be the iron that you are seeking and start sharpening those around you. If you are stuck and need help strategizing how to make the first move or take the first step, schedule a Strategy Coaching Session with me.

P.S … This month’s monthly coaching call takes place TOMORROW at 6pm.  If you are on my mailing list, no worries you are covered, but if not, then REGISTER NOW to get access to the call in details.  Tomorrow’s topic is all about getting rid of excuses.

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

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Detra
Life Purpose Generator – Speaker | Coach | Consultant | Mentor
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Stop living for ‘them’ & START living for YOU.

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So this is the second of a three-part series on how to live in and on purpose.  In my last post, I shared with you how to Do It Afraid as one of the first steps I shared on the New Year New You 2014 Tele-event at the beginning of the year.  This post I will be sharing how to start living for you instead of them and how to be true to you.  So many people make decisions based on the response or feedback of other people.  They do something because others are doing it or they don’t do it because others are not doing it.  Others base their decisions and life’s purpose on the fear of rejection from others.

If this is you, then it’s time for you to start living for you instead of for them: let go of those people, place and things that have hindered you from living in and on purpose.  You have to get to a place where you do things not for the approval of others but because you know it is what God has instructed you to do.  Every thing God gives you won’t be popular, like-able or received by those in your circle but you have to move forward anyway.

My question for you is —

  • Are you living or just existing?  
  • Are you living for them or for you?
  • Are you being true to you?

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“It is easy to live for others, everybody does. I call on you to live for yourself.”

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Listen, you will never be who God purposed for you to be until you let go of whom others expect you to be.  Much of my life was based on what my parents wanted me to do.  Now don’t get me wrong. I loved dancing and performing as well as competing in pageants, but there came a time when I felt as if it more for them instead of for me.  I will share more later in this post, but when we talk about living for you instead of living for them, make sure you are clear that it isn’t you who is holding you up instead of them.  Be sure you aren’t using ‘them‘ as the reason why you haven’t taken action, when in fact it’s not because of them, but because of YOU… your fear, your doubts, your insecurities.

February is Black History Month but it is also the month of love. This month as African Americans, Black Americans, Americans of African Descent, or whomever you consider yourself to be, I encourage you to take a really good look in the mirror and make sure that you are being true to who you were created to be. So many times we try to be who other people want us to be or who we ‘think’ others want us to be so we hide who we really are. In 2014, it is time to stop trying to keep up with the jones’, it is time to stop trying to impress people we don’t like or live with things we can’t afford or don’t want.  I am challenging you this year to live according to mantra: ‘to thine own self be true.’

For years I competed in pageants and did very well. Always winning a title or placing in the top 3, 5 or 10; however there was always one struggle. I never felt allowed to be who I really was. At that time (over 10 years ago), there was always a ‘pageant’ answer or a ‘pageant’ look I was supposed to adhere to (according to my mom and my pageant coach) and at times it became very frustrating internally because it conflicted with who I knew God created me to be. So after 8+ years of competing, I left that world to venture out to be, do & have what was true to me. I started living for me instead of ‘them.’ The journey hasn’t been easy but today as a life coach and professional speaker who operates in my areas of strength, I can say I am on my own ‘to thine own self be true’ journey.

What about you? Can you say the same? Are you living someone else’s dreams? Are you working a job you aren’t happy with? Are you in a relationship that doesn’t allow you to be you? Are you doing things just to keep up or just because it is the popular thing to do? Are you living more for them instead of living for you?

Well I am here to tell you to STOP IT!

It is time for you to take a good look in the mirror, get naked and unapologetic with yourself.  It is time for you to venture out on your own ‘to thine own self be true’ journey.

Not only just for Black History Month, but I implore you my beautiful black brothers and sisters to embrace your beautiful black skin, hair and features everyday.  The same goes for my beautiful non-black brothers and sisters. Never settle for less than what is due to you? Don’t get into a relationship or go out on a date for ‘Valentine’s Day‘ just because you are ‘lonely’ or don’t want to be the only one ‘without’ someone. Love you for you. Live for you. This is what being true to thine own self is all about — living in & on purpose and living for you instead of them. Doing what’s not popular but what’s good for you. Being intentional about your success (however you define it), your happiness, your health, your faith, your career, your relationships and your life.

YOUR TURN… I encourage you to take some time to journal and write down whether you have really been true to you or just living for others and their approval. Trust me the only approval you need is from the one who created you, God. Here are some questions to think about:

  • Am I really being true to myself?
  • If no, what changes do I need to make?
  • If yes, how can I continue to be true to myself and not be influenced by the varied changes in life and the world around me?
  • Am I allowing people, places and things to influence and change me?
  • If so, what people, places, & things do I need to get rid of or remove myself from to be in a place where I can start being true to me and living for me instead of them?
  • What does ‘to thine own self be true’ really mean to me?

Choose to live in and on purpose…

Hugs…

Detra
Life Purpose Generator – Speaker | Coach | Consultant | Mentor
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Do it Afraid

Do It Afraid

At the beginning of the year, I had the opportunity to share as one of four guest speakers for a Tele-Event entitled “New Year New You 2014.” My topic was about how to live in and on purpose.  As I prepared for the call, I asked God what He would have me to share with the women on the call and He gave me three points, the first of which was DO IT AFRAID.  I will share the other two in the weeks to come.

I received such awesome feedback that I figured I would share with you in more detail what I shared on the call to help you jumpstart 2014 so you can start living in and on purpose.

When we talk about doing it afraid, it means feel the fear and do it anyway.  So many times we let fear be the very thing that keeps us from the greatness that is waiting for us.  I am here to tell you to STOP IT!  It is time for you to start doing it afraid.

DO NOT let fear be the only factor that determines your decisions.  Do not let fear be the deciding factor for how you pursue purpose.  Remember that What You Feed Expands.  So my question to you is what are you feeding?  Your faith? Or your fear?

If you are feeding your fear, it will continue to expand, but if you are feeding your faith, then that is what will expand.  I believe that we have to get to a place where we intentionally minimize those things that would cause our fear to grow even if that means doing it afraid.  The more you press through fear in to faith and action, the less of an impact it has on you.

There is an infographic I’ve seen numerous times that says “the phrase ‘DO NOT BE AFRAID’ is written in the bible 365 times. That’s a daily reminder from God to live everyday being fearless.”

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If Do Not Be Afraid is listed in the bible 365 times, then that is a hint that maybe, just maybe, you need to start focusing less on your fears and more on what God instructs you to do and that is to NOT BE AFRAID.  Now let’s be realistic here, even I get afraid.  Shoot we all get afraid.  I get nervous.  I over think things.  I even sometimes try to talk myself out of doing certain things until I hear that still small voice tell me DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT… JUST DO IT. That’s when in spite of my fears, my insecurities, my doubts or whatever else I may be feeling or thinking, I do what I’ve been instructed to do.

Is it always easy to do it afraid? NO.  Will you second guess yourself, while doing it afraid?  YES. But will it be worth it? ABSOLUTELY!  Doing what you know in your heart of hearts to do isn’t always easy.  It’s takes guts, it takes passion and it takes drive.  If you spend time feeding your faith, it makes the journey just a little bit easier.  In addition to feeding your faith, you also need to get moving.  Taking massive action minimizes the level of fear you feel as you continue to keep moving.  This is why I say you have to do it afraid.  To DO is a verb, which means you need to be in action, doing something.  

The reason your fear has been so rampant in your mind and your life is because you aren’t doing anything or the things you are doing are feeding your fears instead of your faith.  Just in case you didn’t know FAITH is also a verb and it only works when you work it.  Are you willing to work your faith?  Are you willing to put your faith into action?  Are you willing to take massive action in the direction of your dreams, goals, aspirations and purpose?

I sure hope so.

Isn’t it time you starting doing it afraid?

I say YES…

So get moving!

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Choose to live in and on purpose…

Hugs…

Detra
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