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40 … and counting…

40 and counting

Ok so I just celebrated my 40th birthday on August 12th and now that I’m 40, here are a few things that I’ve learned about life and myself…

  1. Friends change. People change. I change. God doesn’t.
  2. People love you the best they know how
  3. I’m still evolving. I haven’t arrived just yet. 🙂
  4. I’m still learning who I am and who I’m becoming. I am loving who I am becoming.
  5. People suck sometimes. They don’t turn out to be who you thought
  6. Life sucks sometimes. It doesn’t turn out to be what you thought
  7. There’s nothing wrong with rest or naps. (if you know anything about me, you know I love naps)
  8. Asking for or receiving help doesn’t make any less of a person/woman
  9. I’m stronger than I give myself credit for
  10. I’m good (really good) at what I do and it’s ok to toot my own horn and know my worth.
  11. I’ve done good work in this world.
  12. I still have more work to do.
  13. God is faithful and His grace is sufficient.
  14. You get what you allow.
  15. Boundaries are everything.
  16. Quiet time is everything.
  17. I’m honored and blessed to be a wife and a mom. Some people may never experience that.
  18. People pleasing and seeking the approval of others is NO-NO.
  19. I no longer care what you think.
  20. What God thinks is more important.
  21. What you do isn’t who you are.
  22. Learn to learn who you are more than what you do.  I am learning this everyday.
  23. Sometimes the people closest to you won’t get it. Love them anyway. Find people who do get it.
  24. We all make mistakes. Some small. Some really, REALLY BIG!
  25. Grant people the same grace you’d want if you’re BIG mistakes were out on front street.
  26. I now know that I can forgive for me, but not tolerate you.
  27. Forgiveness doesn’t mean I have to allow you back into my space.
  28. I’m not perfect (just in case you didn’t know) and I don’t have to be.
  29. Being a mom is one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever had.
  30. Saying no is a complete sentence.  No explanation is needed.
  31. I mean what I say.
  32. Trust the process even when it sucks.
  33. I absolutely adore my husband.  He gets me. He listens and hears even when I think he doesn’t.
  34. I don’t always like my husband, but he gets me.
  35. He doesn’t always like me, but I get him.
  36. Take yourself serious, but don’t take yourself so serious.
  37. When God is in it, it always works out of your good.
  38. I don’t have to do it because you want me to. I do have a choice!
  39. I don’t think I’ve ever thought about what life would look like at 40.  But I’m already thinking about what I want it to look like at 50. 😉
  40. People mean well, but many of them are more talk than walk.

 

BONUSES Life Lessons (I couldn’t stop at 40):

  1. I prefer quiet time. Tea. Snuggles on the couch rather than being around a lot of people.
  2. I think I am what they call and Ambivert. I’m both introvert and extrovert.  I like people but I need to be alone. I’m a beast when I have to be (on stage, teaching, preaching, etc.) but then I need quiet time to recharge.
  3. I’ve learned to get out of my own way. I can be my own worst enemy sometimes.
  4. Stop overthinking everything.
  5. Progression not perfection. It will never be perfect. Done beats perfect everyday.
  6. I’ve wasted lots of time thinking about getting ready to get ready.
  7. Sometimes you just have to do and figure it out as you go.
  8. Marriage only works if you work it.
  9. Parenting only works if you work it and sometimes it doesn’t when you are raising a four-year old.
  10. Balance doesn’t exist.  It’s whatever you make it to be.
  11. Being a Mom, Wife, Adjunct Instructor, Entrepreneur, Ministry Leader (and any other role I have) is hard some days.  Some days I want to hide up under a rock.
  12. Never assume people know what you need. Tell them. Thats why it’s called communication. Still learning this… Honey should know exactly what I’m thinking all ALL TIMES… right? 😉 nope… lol

 

Ok.. ok… ok… I’m done. 🙂

I could most assuredly go on but I won’t.

So many life lessons learned that we could be here all day.  I hope you enjoy what I shared.  Let me know in the comments section or tweet me which lesson you connected with the most. You should know that on the eve of my 10th wedding anniversary (8.19.16), so some of these could go into a married life – life lessons post, but overall they are still life lessons.

Until Next Time…

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61 days away…

Happy November!!!

We have two months left in this year.

What are you going to do with those 61 days? A year from now you will wish you had started today!  No need in having another set of regrets.  No need in thinking back one year from now thinking… I should have just started.

Pick one thing you said you would do this time last year and do it today.

Then let me know what you did below in the comments.

Have the faith to take the first step.

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Do it Afraid

Do It Afraid

At the beginning of the year, I had the opportunity to share as one of four guest speakers for a Tele-Event entitled “New Year New You 2014.” My topic was about how to live in and on purpose.  As I prepared for the call, I asked God what He would have me to share with the women on the call and He gave me three points, the first of which was DO IT AFRAID.  I will share the other two in the weeks to come.

I received such awesome feedback that I figured I would share with you in more detail what I shared on the call to help you jumpstart 2014 so you can start living in and on purpose.

When we talk about doing it afraid, it means feel the fear and do it anyway.  So many times we let fear be the very thing that keeps us from the greatness that is waiting for us.  I am here to tell you to STOP IT!  It is time for you to start doing it afraid.

DO NOT let fear be the only factor that determines your decisions.  Do not let fear be the deciding factor for how you pursue purpose.  Remember that What You Feed Expands.  So my question to you is what are you feeding?  Your faith? Or your fear?

If you are feeding your fear, it will continue to expand, but if you are feeding your faith, then that is what will expand.  I believe that we have to get to a place where we intentionally minimize those things that would cause our fear to grow even if that means doing it afraid.  The more you press through fear in to faith and action, the less of an impact it has on you.

There is an infographic I’ve seen numerous times that says “the phrase ‘DO NOT BE AFRAID’ is written in the bible 365 times. That’s a daily reminder from God to live everyday being fearless.”

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If Do Not Be Afraid is listed in the bible 365 times, then that is a hint that maybe, just maybe, you need to start focusing less on your fears and more on what God instructs you to do and that is to NOT BE AFRAID.  Now let’s be realistic here, even I get afraid.  Shoot we all get afraid.  I get nervous.  I over think things.  I even sometimes try to talk myself out of doing certain things until I hear that still small voice tell me DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT… JUST DO IT. That’s when in spite of my fears, my insecurities, my doubts or whatever else I may be feeling or thinking, I do what I’ve been instructed to do.

Is it always easy to do it afraid? NO.  Will you second guess yourself, while doing it afraid?  YES. But will it be worth it? ABSOLUTELY!  Doing what you know in your heart of hearts to do isn’t always easy.  It’s takes guts, it takes passion and it takes drive.  If you spend time feeding your faith, it makes the journey just a little bit easier.  In addition to feeding your faith, you also need to get moving.  Taking massive action minimizes the level of fear you feel as you continue to keep moving.  This is why I say you have to do it afraid.  To DO is a verb, which means you need to be in action, doing something.  

The reason your fear has been so rampant in your mind and your life is because you aren’t doing anything or the things you are doing are feeding your fears instead of your faith.  Just in case you didn’t know FAITH is also a verb and it only works when you work it.  Are you willing to work your faith?  Are you willing to put your faith into action?  Are you willing to take massive action in the direction of your dreams, goals, aspirations and purpose?

I sure hope so.

Isn’t it time you starting doing it afraid?

I say YES…

So get moving!

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Choose to live in and on purpose…

Hugs…

Detra
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In ALL things give THANKS…

Happy November!!

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It’s that time of year when we are getting ready for the holidays, switching out our warm weather clothing for our cold & freezing (for some us) weather clothing.  We have fully transitioned from summer to fall and we are now getting ready for a time of giving thanks this month.  Although it should be celebrated on a daily basis, we tend to focus more on giving thanks and being appreciative during the month of November due to Thanksgiving.  Last Year I did something called 30 Days of Thanks where each day I posted something for us to be thankful for with a journal assignment and prayer at that end.

A few days ago, there happened to be someone who found my blog post on the 30 Days of Thanks and subscribed to receive my 30 Days of Thanks that I created last year.  How awesome is that!  Well in light of that, I decided to dedicate this month’s weekly posts to excerpts from the the 30 Days of Thanks.

I hope you enjoy them and while doing so remember: In ALL things give thanks, for this is the WILL of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

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Today’s post is from Day 5:

30 Days of Thanks…

Day Five:

Today’s day of thanks is focused on our Basic Necessities: FOOD, CLOTHING, SHELTER.We are five days into the 30 Days of Thanks and today we want to take this day to focus on food, clothing and shelter.  Oftentimes, we tend to focus only on what we don’t have but most times we are referring to not having enough to meet our ‘wants‘ not our ‘needs.‘  In preparing for today’s post and in light of Hurricane Sandy, I started thinking about the hundreds of thousands of people who lost EVERYTHING!  For them, their homes and everything in it was destroyed.  After Hurricane Sandy, the basics of food, clothing, and shelter, something we take for granted on a daily basis, vanished in a moment.
  • Can you imagine leaving your home to escape a storm and coming back to realize your home and everything in it is no longer there?
  • Can you imagine working one day, lose your job another day, lose your home the following month leaving you the only option but to move into a shelter just to have somewhere to lay your head?
  • Can you imagine making enough money to just barely pay the bills but not have enough for food? or vice versa?
  • Can you imagine going to the food pantry for food just to feed yourself and your family when there used to be a time you ate out every other weekend?
This is the reality of many people.  You see, the face of homelessness is no longer what we think.  It is YOU, it is I, it is who we least expect; people who work hard, love God and want the best for themselves and their families.  They may even have their own businesses, they may have gotten laid off or maybe there just isn’t enough money to cover the month.  Either way, as you will see below, the face of homeless has changed and if we aren’t careful, it could be any one of us.  (If you want you can say THANK YOU lord for food, clothing, and shelter RIGHT NOW, be my guest).Before we move into being thankful for our wants in another post (which for some people food, clothing, and shelter are wants), which goes beyond the basics, we want to focus on our needs.  So as you focus on giving thanks for having somewhere to lay your head, eating a nice hot meal, and having clean clothes to put on your body, think about these statistics (http://www.grabstats.com/statcategorymain.aspx?StatCatID=7):
  • National Homeless Estimates: 700,000 per night; 2 million/year. (On any given night in America / US, anywhere from 700,000 to 2 million people are homeless)
  • The homeless population is made up of: Single men 44 percent of the homeless,single women 13 percentfamilies with children 36 percent, andunaccompanied minors seven percent (7%).
  • The homeless population is about 50 percent African-American35 percent white12 percent Hispanic2 percent Native American and 1 percent Asian.
  • 28% of adults said they sometimes or often do not get enough to eat, compared with 12% of poor American adults.
  • 44 percent did paid work during the past month.
  • 66 percent of the homeless have problems with alcohol, drug abuse, or mental illness.
  • 30 percent have been homeless for more than two years.
  • 3.5 million people (1.35 million of which are children) will experience homelessness in a given year ** THIS Is HUGE!!!
  • Families with children comprise 33% of the homeless population.
  • 25%of the homeless nationwide are employed — WORKING BUT HOMELESS
  • 31 million Americans now live in hunger or on the edge of hunger.
  • Families are the largest and fastest growing segment of the homeless population.
After reading these stats, my heart was very heavy because I remember a time where that could have been me.  When I got laid off from my job back in 2009, I wasn’t sure where I’d be or if I’d be able to find a job immediately.  When a two-income home now becomes a one-income home, you wonder how you are going to make it through.  BUT GOD!  He helped us make it through.  Every bill was paid, and we were able to live comfortably, but tight, on my husband’s income and speaking engagements I was getting at the time.  I was attending graduate school to get my second masters, that I had imagined my prior employer would pay for. But when I got laid off, that was another bill I had to think about paying.  Again, BUT GOD.  I completed my second masters in Mental Health Counseling in May 2011 while pregnant with my first child.  In the midst of all of that, I began to appreciate the little things: having the lights and gas on.  $1 Movie nights from Redbox, just being able to spend quality time with my husband even though we may not have had enough money for a date outside the home.  I started thanking God for the basics and I also started getting creative on how we could still have a great time on a budget.There were a couple passages in the Bible that the Lord took me to as I was meditating on what to write for today’s post.  The first is in Deuteronomy 8:2-4.  At this point, the children of Israel had been reminded of how God provided manna for them while in the wilderness and how during those 40 years of wandering (that’s another post), the clothes they wore NEVER wore out nor did their feet swell.  The passage states that God led them in the wilderness to humble them and test them in order to know what was in their heart.Let me stop here for a minute.There may be someone who has been in a dry place for an extended time and you aren’t sure why.  You feel like it has been forever and you keep wondering when you are going to transition to a place of abundance.  Well I am here to tell you to start giving thanks NOW for where you are.  Start giving thanks for how far you have already come.  Lastly, start giving him thanks for providing for you while in this dry season. As the advertisement says on TV, THIS IS ONLY A TEST.  Yes you are being tested.  Although your ‘milk and honey’ are already prepared for you, there is a season of the basics (hopefully not for 40 years) that you have to go through in order for God to see if He can trust you to keep his commands and obey him NO MATTER WHAT.

  • Can you be thankful for your beans and franks when you hear people talking about filet Mignon?
  • Can you be thankful and trust God for your WIC and food stamps while others eat out every weekend or better yet every day?  
  • Can you be thankful for your current wardrobe, knowing that someone is wishing they had what you currently have?  
  • Can you be thankful for being faithful over few so that God can one day place you over many?  
  • Can you be trusted to bless God in the small places?  
  • Can you be trusted to know that man does not live by bread, steak, salmon, steak hoagies, or any other food alone, but by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God?
“2 Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands. 3 He humbled you, causing you to hunger and then feeding you with manna, which neither you nor your ancestors had known, to teach you that man does not live on bread alone but on every word that comes from the mouth of the Lord. 4 Your clothes did not wear out and your feet did not swell during these forty years.” (Deuteronomy 8:2-4)
The other passage that the Lord took me to was Philippians 4:11-13 where Paul states that he had learned to be content in whatever circumstances he encountered.Can you say the same?  I mean can you REALLY?For those of you that God has REALLY blessed.  I mean spiritually and financially.  Can you be trusted to give thanks in everything if it is all taken away?  

THINK ABOUT IT….  Have you learned to be content in every area of your life?  Have you learned to be grateful and appreciative even when you are piping mad that God has decided to use you as the poster child for his Kingdom purpose?

I will tell you I’ve been there and yes I have been mad about it.  But with time I get over myself because knowing God like I know him, when certain things happen, I know HE is always up to something, even if I don’t like it.  So once I feel my flesh/ego rise up, I begin to say, ‘Lord I don’t know what you are doing, and I most certainly don’t like it, but as long you get the glory, I will go along for the ride.”  You see sometimes giving thanks isn’t always about doing it when you WANT to do it.  Sometimes it’s about doing it when you NEED to do it because it’s what NEEDS to be done in order for GOD’s purpose to be fulfilled in your life.

“11for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:11-13)
Journal Assignment: 
So with that said, take some time to think, ponder and meditate on those passages of scripture.  Remember that in order to build your faith, you must know the word.  But not only do you need to know it, you need to know how to put it to use at the appropriate time.  Once you have meditated on those passages, write about how things would be different for you if you didn’t have food, clothing or shelter.  If you have already been there, go back to that place and really think about what was going at that time, how were you feeling, did you know God was strategically positioning you for something at a later date.  Think about how you would feel if you came home and your house was destroyed or better yet, not there?  Think about how you may overindulge on food, clothing and maybe even shelter.  You buy more than you use.  You aren’t being a good steward of what you have been blessed with. Now keep in mind we are only focusing on the basics.  Are you buying food and wasting it by not eating it before it spoils.  Are you not taking care of your home?  Are you getting slack in your home maintenance?  Are you hoarding clothes just for the sake of it.  Get rid of EVERYTHING that you are no longer using or have too much of and give it to someone who could actually put it to use.  If you are in a position to be a blessing, then DO IT.
Prayer: 
Lord on this 5th day of thanks we just want to say thank you for the basics.  Thank for you supplying and providing us with food to eat, clothes to wear and shelter to keep us safe and warm.  Lord forgive us for taking these great but small things for granted.  We wake up every morning with no thought that at some point they could be gone in the blink of an eye.  We thank you for supplying our need according to your riches in glory.  Thank you for blessing us with more than enough.  Thank you that during our dry season, you ‘kept’ us. You provided and not only did you provide, you allowed our clothes and shoes not to be worn out just like you did for the children of Israel.  We may not have realized it then but we realize now that our setback was a set up for our comeback and for you to show out.  Lord bless the families that were affected by Hurricanes Sandy who no longer even have the basics anymore.  Bless those families and individuals who are homeless, who have no food or who only have the clothes on their bodies.  We speak a supernatural blessing to them TODAY.  Because we know that nothing is too hard for you, we pray not only for ourselves but for them that you would open a door for a job, for transportation, for groceries, for a check in the mail, anything else that they may need and lastly for insight, wisdom and understanding to recognize the blessing, utilize it properly and then immediately GIVE THANKS. We know you can do anything but fail. Now unto you who is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that can ask or think.  Amen.
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Tenacious Tuesday – Motivational Minute 440

It’s Tenacious Tuesday!

Today’s Motivational Minute is… Keep Going!

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Some days things get so overwhelming that we want to quit and just give up.  But you can’t.  God has given you power, love and sound mind.  He has given you his strength for your weakness.  When you are weak, He is strong.  Know that no weapon formed against you shall prosper.  Just because it’s been formed and launched against you doesn’t mean it will take you out.  It may hurt, it may sting, it may even wear you out, but don’t give up and keep going.  You can and you WILL make it.

YOUR TURN… on this Tenacious Tuesday, tell me, how did you keep going when you wanted to give up and throw in the towel?  Do you feel like giving up now?  What would you need in your life to keep giving?

Here’s to you living life IN & ON Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Speaker | Life Coach

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Happy Birthday to me!

YES…. today is my birthday and today I am laying low.  I’m resting, thinking, thanking and just enjoying time with ME.  For the most part of the day, I’ve spent lots of time thinking about this past year and things I have encountered.  Things weren’t always roses and sunshine but I am blessed that I was given the opportunity to see another day.  I just learned yesterday that a young lady who has young children will never get the chance to see her children grow up because she was murdered in her own home.  So on this special day of mine, if nothing else, I am glad that the Lord saw fit to allow me to see another day.  THANK YOU LORD!

I read the post of a good sista-friend of mine (Tiffany Jones Keaton) and I was inspired to share a few my random and pondering thoughts

  1. I need to have more fun
  2. I need to learn to play as much as I work
  3. I love being a mom and could spend allll day with him if I didn’t have to work. He is such a joy to me.
  4. As hard as it is, I love being married.
  5. I love the husband I am married to even though we drive each other crazy every so often. (lol).
  6. I will own a boat with jet skis
  7. I will one day be in a position to take a full month off for vacation.
  8. I love and am in love with Jesus. My life has never been the same since that encounter on April 20, 1997.
  9. I have the best parents
  10. Some people annoy me for no reason.
  11. I love LOVE
  12. If I had my choice I choose a BAD pant suit over a skirt suit.  Pant suits make me feel sexy
  13. I don’t always say what I think… it’s safer that way.
  14. Looking forward to my countdown to the BIG 40.  For those of you wondering… its closer than you think. 😉
  15. As confident as I may seem there are days where I need to swift kick in the butt to get me going.  We all need someone and something in our lives to keep us motivated.
  16. I think about having another baby but hubby and I have decided that our little is enough.  However if my financial circumstances were different, I might be pregnant right now. 😉
  17. I love Bishop TD Jakes! I could sit up under his teaching all day, all month, all year!
  18. My original favorite movie is “The Last Dragon.”  Leroy, Shonuff…. the glow…. love it!
  19. I love food…. really good food, which is probably why I can’t get rid of this post-baby muffin top.
  20. Some days I find myself staring and gazing at my son amazed that God would use me to bring such an amazing being into this world! Love being a mom!
  21. I love being by myself.
  22.  I have a brother who is 15 years my senior.
  23. I love silence… noise annoys me. Silence helps me think.
  24. I love Cranberry Wine but only get it when my mom and I go on our annual wine tour to niagara landing to get a bottle.
  25. I love Rottweliers.  My last three dogs have been rotties.  They are so big and lovable!

Ok so that’s it for now….

I may be back later with more about me….

It’s my birthday and this is how I’m celebrating…

Cheers!

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Tenacious Tuesday – Motivational Minute 381

It’s Tenacious Tuesday!

Today’s Motivational Minute is …

Keep going no matter how you feel.  You don’t operate according to your feelings, they operate according to you!  Get them under control and get to work!  You might be tired, you might be frustrated and you might even want to quit, but DON’T.  Just keep moving with one foot right in front of the other and soon you will see that it was all worth it! Everything worth having is worth working hard for.

YOUR TURN… on this Tenacious-Tuesday, are you almost ready to quit?  Tell me how you plan to keep going and persevere past your feelings.

Share your thoughts in the comments section. I would love to hear from you. There may be someone who just might be blessed by what you share!

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Spirit-Filled Sunday – Motivational Minute 379

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It’s Spirit-Filled Sunday!

Today’s Motivational Minute is …

Take your worries to The Lord!

The Lord said ‘come unto me all you who are weary.’ Stop carrying a load you were never meant to bear. Give it to God and let him comfort you. THERE IS NOTHING TOO BIG OR TOO SMALL! .

Put your pride aside and lay in the arms of a God who waiting for you to rest in Him.

YOUR TURN… on this Spirit-Filled Sunday, rest in the peaceful and secure arms of our Almighty and All-Powerful Creator.

Share your thoughts in the comments section. I would love to hear from you. There may be someone who just might be blessed by what you share!

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Serenity Saturday – Motivational Minute 378

It’s Serenity Saturday!

Today’s Motivational Minute is …

Do Something for YOU!

In everything you do for others, you sometimes tend to be on the bottom of the totem pole.  NOT TODAY!  Make time on this Serenity Saturday to do something for yourself.

YOUR TURN… on this Serenity Saturday, tell me what you plan on doing for yourself today?

Share your thoughts in the comments section. I would love to hear from you. There may be someone who just might be blessed by what you share!

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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What you put in you get out…

So first before I get started, I wanted to say HIIIIII!!

I know it has been a minute since I have posted anything but things have been a bit hectic on the home front so I felt I needed to take a break for a minute.  I needed to refocus and take some time to get some clarity on a few things.  In doing so, I have been increasing my reading and most of my books have focused on prayer but the most recent books I have decided to read are relative to priorities, time management and balance.  The first is John Maxwell’s “Today Matters” and the other is Joyce Meyer’s “100 ways to Simplify Your Life.”

I was feeling a little overwhelmed with everything going on and I needed to take some time to make some internal deposits to get back on track which leads me to this post.  I began to notice that as I was reading, I had been depleted.  I realized I was trying to give what I didn’t have.   I have been continuously pouring out and sowing into others but I wasn’t really taking the needed time to replenish myself.  As I was reading John Maxwell’s book today, I realized that I needed to be reading more, praying more and taking more time to replenish and refuel myself so that I could continue to give and share more.  As a speaker and a life coach, my life is about sharing and pouring into others and I have to continuously read and study resources that keep me sharp and on point.  But as with a bank account, if you continuously withdraw, at some point there isn’t anything left to take out and use if you aren’t replenishing the bank account.  As I was reading I realized that I really need to take more time for spiritual, personal and internal development.  I need to make sure I am intentional about taking care of ME or else I can’t help you take care of YOU.

I know I know I know … you are probably saying that this is something I should have paid attention to but to be honest I have been on auto pilot for some time that once I realized it I had to pull away and recharge.  However in the midst of recharging I still missed one aspect, pouring back into my gift and purpose.  Many times as people who sow into others, we work to take care of everything but the thing we are placed on this earth to do.  We get to a point where we somewhat take for granted that we don’t have to sharpen the saw as often as we should.  So on this day as I read TODAY MATTERS.  I am committed to not only making the most of my day, I am also making the most of being intentional with sowing into and refueling myself.  I intentionally take time to read those things that would help me be the best I can be so I can give my clients the best of me.  I intentionally take time to go off to quiet places to pray and seek God’s face regarding where He would desire me to be and what He would desire me to do.  I intentionally remove myself from those people, places and things that would keep me overwhelmed, distracted and unfocused.

REMEMBER… what you put in you get out.

What about you?  Now keep in mind that the focus is on making positive affirming deposits not negative pessimistic deposits because if you deposit that which is negative that is what will come out.

My Challenge you to: 

If you can relate and you know you need to spend more time filling your depleted cup, I encourage you to take inventory of what you need in order to make that happen.  Don’t ask for permission, just take the time needed to recharge.  If this makes it easier, schedule it into your appointment book or calendar.  Schedule an appointment with yourself.  Do you need to exercise?  Are there books, videos, seminars, etc. that you need to read, view or attend to get your MOJO back?  Well start with just one thing that you can start doing TODAY and then DO IT.  Don’t wait for things to be perfect because there will never be a perfect time.  Don’t wait for everything to fill in line because once one thing gets in place another may fall out of place. Be kind to yourself and cut yourself some slack for not making this a priority sooner but GET MOVING.  Start replenishing that which you give out on daily basis. If you don’t, no one else will do it for you!  I’ve shared that I am reading a few books to replenish myself, praying more and taking more time to be in a quiet place.

Share your comments below at least one thing you will do to replenish yourself.  It doesn’t have to start out as something HUGE, so long as you start.  Keep it small so you can get right to it.

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