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Do you really know what you want?

Do you really know what you want-

As we are closing out the first month of 2016 and heading into month two, I want to ask you a question, do you know what you want?

Yes it’s a simple but loaded question.

Do you REALLY know what you want?

Better yet let me ask you this, what does God want from you?

These two questions are huge because I’d like to know what your goals were for 2016 and how are you coming along in making those goals happen.

I know tons of people who went out and got planners, journals, highlighters, colored pens, post its, made these audacious goals and then went and took a nap. ūüôā

Nothing happened.

Or something small happened, but nothing major.

Why, because it was overwhelming.

Now I will say this, maybe you were one of the many who got off to a good start. You created your goals and you started making things happen.

But I would go a little further to say that those who didn’t, weren’t really clear on what they wanted and didn’t really have a plan in place to make it happen.

I’m apart of an online women’s professional group and each Friday we host a weekly prayer call with a monthly theme. This month’s theme was “No More Excuses.” It was powerful!¬†As I’m thinking about the excuses that get in the way of our goals, I started thinking about how we plan and decide what we want to accomplish.

In addition to being a speaker and coach/strategist for women, I teach a Student Success¬†Strategies Class in an Adult Education Program and the first module is Goal Management. I teach the students to identify goals they’d like to accomplish and then we go through a series of lessons in the module. One of which is mapping our goals out long and short term.

So real quick… let me ask you a question.

Are you pursuing something that sounds good or are you working towards something that really moves you to action?

Many of us create goals that sound good. But that’s the problem. Once we create the goal, we aren’t really sure why we are doing it and we have no solid plan or strategy for making it happen.

As we launch into February, the second month of 2016, I want you to spend some time thinking about what you really want. I mean really want. This year I’ve purposed to get my finances in order. Not just my money, but my overall financial health i.e. creating a will, confirming another life insurance policy, creating an emergency fund & 6 months of savings… you get the gist.

There are a few other things I’m working toward like my physical health and growing even closer the God. You see, 2016 is all about loving me and loving me enough to do what’s best for me this year and no one else. It’s about filling my cup in overflow. Doing the work God has called me to do and being whole.

If you didn’t know, 16 in¬†biblical numbers represents love.

So my question to you is what areas of your life do you need to love on?

As a somewhat recovering workaholic in training who works hard not to work when I want to work all the time, I’m working to create more balance in my life which means not just having work that I enjoy but also a life that enjoy. It’s means making time for honey and me as well as creating family time for my husband & my son and in order to spend together and create memories. My son is four and growing so fast that I don’t want to look up and it’s a blur.

So in focusing on all areas of my life, this encompasses what I call the¬†7 Facets of You‚ĄĘ¬†(Spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, relational, professional/educational, & financial). 2016 is the year that I love on every area. I’ve written out how I want to grow in these areas this year and I’m committed to doing the work.

So as for you, again, my question is…¬†What do you really want?

When you think about your life and what you desire over the long run,¬†what do you want from your life and in your life and for your life?¬†My next question is¬†are you willing to do the work that’s necessary to get what you want?¬†Lastly, is what you want in alignment with what God wants from you?

One thing I’m sure of is that if what you want isn’t in alignment with what God wants for you, you can be sure it isn’t going to work out or at least not to the magnitude that it could if His hand was on it.

Since January is done and February is basically here, I want you to take some time to realistically think about what you want.

  • What do you want for yourself spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, relationally, professionally/educationally, & financially?

Then create 1-2 things you know you can work on this year. Don’t make them too big, but big enough to where they stretch you. Think about your why.

  • Why do want what you want? What drives you? ¬†What or who are your motivators?
  • How does that enhance your life and the lives of those connected to you?

I also want you to put it somewhere visible as a constant reminder and then be open to God changing it if He sees fit.

Lastly I want you to break your goals down into quarterly (90 days), monthly (30 days) weekly (7 days), & daily goals.

  • What will be accomplished every quarter to accomplish your goal?
  • What needs to be done every month to accomplish the quarterly goal?
  • What needs to happen every week to accomplish the monthly goal?
  • What needs to happen every day to accomplish the weekly goal?

Now depending on your focus, you may not have to do something everyday.¬†For example, hubby and I are doing the 52 week money challenge. But since we can never remember to do it chronologically, we are just saving $26 every week and putting it in an account. You see we aren’t doing anything daily, this is more of a weekly goal.¬†The important thing is to¬†get clear on what you want, why you want it, what making it happen actually looks like. Then do the work to make it happen.

I hope this helps you off to a better start for your year and if you’ve been hiding under the covers in overwhelm, you can come out now. ūüôā

*|FNAME|*, these are the very questions I ask my clients and students. So you have a head start on getting clear on what you really want.

You’ve got your marching orders, now get to work!

Tell me in the comment section below what you want and why you want it? Or hope over to the #iSpeakLife Society to share your comments.

Need help … No worries!

Schedule a¬†45-Minute Pick My Brain Strategy Session¬†to flush out all of your thoughts and ask me as many questions as needed to get clear and get started. Learn more here –>¬†bit.ly/pickmybrain45

Until next time…

Hugs + Love + Prayers

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Move in spite of how you feel

Move in spite of how you feel

I had a friend call me one day and she was feeling some kinda way. She was working in a project and she just couldn’t get past how she was feeling. She was feeling blah, out of it, not motivated and just in a funk.

Have you ever felt that way…

I know I have…

Ever have a big project or task to tackle but you just did not ‘feel’ like it? Well me too. There have been tons of days where I didn’t feel like it but I did it anyway.

This conversation I was having with my friend is similar to many conversations I have had with clients on moving past how you feel so you can get to where you desire to be.

When you have a goal in front of you, you can let feelings get the best of you. And as women, we tend to rest in our feelings when making decisions.

STOP IT!

Now I’m not telling you to ignore your gut feelings or your intuition but I am saying that those feelings of ‘doubt, insecurity, I’m not enough, I don’t feel it, etc‘. — suck it up and get moving. Same thing I had to say to my girlfriend. Heck it’s the same thing I have to say to myself sometimes. ¬†Depending on where you are in this journey, you don’t have time to be whining about how you feel.

Some days it’s do or don’t.

Either you make it happen or it doesn’t happen.

Sometimes you have to make the sacrifice now and sow the seeds now so you can reap a harvest later. Many of us want a good life, good health, good wealth, a good marriage or a great job, career or business but we don’t want to put the work in.

As a believer of Christ, the bible is clear that we walk by faith and not by sight. Walking by what you see is essentially walking by what you feel. This race we are called to run was never promised to be easy. Trust that whatever God has ordained and put you here to do, you have the strength, power and ability to do in Him.

Moving in spite of how you feel (& what you see) is all about trusting a power that is greater than you. When it gets hard, holdfast to the vision, dream, goal or aspiration. If you don’t have any, then that may be why you are tossed ‘to and fro.’ You have nothing to stand on. When your feelings are trying to overtake you, you have to also remember all of the ‘other’ stuff you’ve come through. ¬†You also have to remember WHY you are doing what you are doing.

As you go higher, your faith will be tested and you have to make the decision that you will move in spite of how you feel. You move in what you know. You move not in what you see with your sight but in what you see with your vision.

  • Feeling like giving up…
  • Feeling like you can’t go any further…
  • Feeling like this situation is about to over take you…

Well keep going… Put one step in front of the other and don’t let how you feel abort what’s ahead of you.

Until next time…

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Use it or Lose it

use it or lose it

As I’m getting older I’m learning that knowledge means nothing without application. In this day and age, knowledge comes a dime a dozen. There are so many places to gain new insight that there is really no way for someone to say ‘I didn’t know.’

With the Internet alone, you just about find information on any topic. The key however is what you do with that information once you acquire it.

The only way to master what you know is to use it.

There is a saying that says the key the getting ahead is getting started. I agree but once you get started you have to apply what you’ve learned. Information is one thing but when you add application and implementation, you’ve added a whole different dimension.

Let me share with you an example, my son knows his letters and some of numbers up to 20. However he now has to learn how to apply and implement what he has learned. After he masters learning them he has to use his letters to make words to write, to spell and read words. After learning his numbers he has to use them to add, subtract, multiply and divide.

What knowledge do you have that you need to master?

What information do you have in your arsenal that you have yet to sit down long enough to really master?

Once you’ve mastered it on that level how can you use it. We are so information hungry that we’ve become application and implementation lazy. We want all of this information but we don’t take the time to really apply what we’ve learned.

I know I’ve been guilty. Signing up for programs, reading books and or watching videos with great information but I have yet to use it. What about you? What do you now have yet to use or apply or implement?

Heck this can apply to your life… What lessons have you learned but have yet to apply in your life?

Remember we repeat tests we never learn from.

Your turn…

  • Take some to really think about what you know and ask yourself what have you learned?
  • Then ask yourself if you are actually applying what you’ve learned. No sense is trying to learn something new if what you already have isn’t being put to use, right!?!?!

Until next time…

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Now is YOUR time!

Have you thought about working with me?

$97 PushMe SPECIAL

Well in an effort to support you, I wanted to make working with me a bit more accessible for those of you who believe that now is your time AND you are READY NOW to take action.

I know that many of you are feeling overwhelmed, stuck, stagnant and extremely stressed in certain areas of your life and as God began speaking to me about you during my prayer time, I decided that I wanted to meet you right where you are to be sure I was doing everything I know to do to support you.

So, FOR 24 HOURS ONLY, I am opening up my calendar for my 90 Minute One on One Push Me Strategy Session to more than just 4 people this month and I am offering it for a special reduced investment of $97 (regularly $397) to 10 (YES 10!!) people!

BOOK YOUR PUSH ME STRATEGY SESSION TODAY for $97!

If you have ever wanted to pick my brain and get my support, suggestions and strategy in the following areas of lifestyle management, spiritual guidance/development, getting out of your own way, showing up authentically in your life, putting yourself first, overcoming overwhelm, moving in spite of your fears, or just taking the first step to getting started, this offer is for you. –> bit.ly/pushme97

Working with me at this level is usually a personal investment of $397, and just so you know, you will not find this link on my website. If you make the investment on my website, you will be charged $397. Unfortunately, I can not hold spots because it is first come first serve and there are only a limited number of spaces (10 to be exact).

If you have ever been in my space and you know like I know, you will find a way to jump on this NOW!

BOOK YOUR PUSH ME STRATEGY SESSION TODAY for $97!

Once payment is received to secure your spot, you will receive an email from me to schedule the date and time of your session. All coaching sessions take place via Skype or Google Hangout. –> bit.ly/pushme97

Let me help you get clarity on the next best step to take in your life.

I look forward to hearing from you…

Detra

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Motivational Minute 308

Today’s Motivational Minute …

Sometimes you have to tune out ALL of the distractions around you and FOCUS only on that which is priority at this very moment.  When we allow those distractions to take precedence in our lives, it takes away from what we were put on this earth to do.  Before it gets into your psyche, reject it, regroup, and remain focused.

What distractions in your life do you need to tune out? ¬†Share in the comments below. ¬†I’d love to see what they are and how you tune them how.

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart,
Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 163

Today’s Motivational Minute…

Ever feel like giving up? Me too! ¬†But guess what? ¬†You can’t! ¬†That’s right, you can’t. ¬†Why, you ask? ¬†Because, it’s one thing to feel like giving up and another thing to actually do it. ¬†So feel it, embrace it, then snap out of it, get back up and get moving!

~TrueheartSpeaks

Please take a moment and share your thoughts and comments in the comment section below… 

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 158

Today’s Motivational Minute…

When is the last time you took time out to take care of you? ¬†As a Mental Health Clinician, one thing we learned during graduate school is that self-care is of the utmost importance. ¬†It was stressed that when working with people you want to make sure you aren’t working your issues out on them. ¬†When an issue arises you should have someone who you can go to for counsel. ¬†You can’t give what you don’t have and when you feel yourself getting low on what you give out, you need to take time out to refresh, reassess, reflect, and sometimes release to do what’s best for you.

~TrueheartSpeaks

Please take a moment and share your thoughts and comments in the comment section below… what is one thing you have been saying you need to do? Write in the comment section.

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Reflections…

As I ponder on 2010 and think about what I have done, what
I attempted to and what I just didn’t make time to do, I am still
thankful to still be alive and take in every learning experience
that life brought my way. I came across an email dated May
2008 with me reaching out to someone regarding the pursuit of my
speaking business and realized that I am not where I thought I
would be at this time of my life. Have you ever looked at your life
and your current situation and said “I thought I would be so much
farther along?” Did you think of yourself as a failure or a slacker
or just not good enough? Did you just shun it off and not
take any thought as to what it would take in order to make it
happen? Did you make excuses for yourself and say you didn’t have
the time or resources or right connections to make it work?
Well I am here to tell you that all of those thoughts came to
mind when I thought about how I had all of these goals and some of
them came to fruition but there were other goals and aspirations
that I made excuses for. I let other people distract me from
my goals and my ultimate purpose and destiny. You see I have
been speaking for some time but had been given specific
instructions on what I needed to do to expand my business and for
lack of a better phrase, I ‘punked out.’ Why? I don’t know.
Maybe it was fear, maybe laziness, maybe listening to other
people or a combination of all of the above plus a number of other
factors. Well I woke up this morning with a FOCUS in my mind and
heart to do what I needed to do to accomplish those goals that I
made excuses for. You see every situation you go through is
what you make it. Life, your marriage, school, your job, your
mental state, whatever it is, IS what YOU make it. Do you
make it out to be bigger than it really is or do you make it to be
something you can and will overcome? I decided this morning
that I wasn’t going to let anything, not even myself get in the way
of what I know I have been put on this earth to do. That is,
SPEAK LIFE into the lives of youth and those who are connected with
them. Many times the experience of life knocks us down and
we think we aren’t supposed to get back up. I challenge you
to fall down, get back up and re-position yourself so that when you
get knocked again (and you will) it’s not from that angle.
There is a saying that says it’s okay to make mistakes so
long as you don’t keep making the same mistakes over again.
Therefore, make mistakes and have mishaps but learn from them
and build yourself from those experiences. As you learn,
share your experiences with others who may be able to learn
something from you. So as I move forward into 2011, my life will be
extremely different a year from now. I am walking into 2011
with purpose, passion and the power to change not only my situation
but my life for the better. Don’t get me wrong, my life isn’t
horrible and I do understand there are others in worse off
situations, but I know that there is still work for me to do.
I plan to live the best life that God has prepared for me….
how about you? If you are with me, here are a few suggestions
to help you get started…

  1. Take some time to
    reflect on your year. That’s it….JUST REFLECT. Take
    it in and think about what you were able to get done, what didn’t
    get done, and what you may want to change in 2011. Think
    about the people you have in your life. Are they for you or
    against you? It is said that birds of a feather flock
    together. If you are an eagle you can’t hang around with
    chickens and turkeys. If you know you need to change the
    people around you, then you will need to starting building a new
    network in the new year. Those who will cheer you on,
    challenge you to be your best self and push you into your next
    level.
  2. After reflecting on your year, write
    down 3-5 major goals you want to accomplish in 2011. Then
    write down what it will take from YOU to make it happen. What
    role will you play in making your goals happen? What
    obstacles might you encounter during your journey and how you will
    address them as well as get through them. Other than
    yourself, who else’s buy-in will you need to make it happen? For
    example if you are married or have children, what type of
    sacrifices will you need to make that may affect your spouse and/or
    children? How will communicate your goals with them and get them
    involved to help you stay on track?
  3. You can
    then make a vision board to put your goals on and keep in a place
    that you can see everyday to keep you motivated and excited about
    your goals. Take pictures from magazines, clip art, or just
    create words that signify where you desire to be at the end of
    2011. You can purchase poster board or a bulletin board.
    Either way, just get started and add to it as more goals and
    aspirations come to you.
  4. Lastly, how will you
    track your progress? Will do weekly, monthly, bi-monthly,
    etc. assessments to make sure you are on track with accomplishing
    your goals as scheduled? Will you have an accountability
    partner or mentor/coach holding you accountable?

I hope these suggestions help and I look forward to
helping you live life IN purpose and ON purpose in 2011! Until next
time… BE TRUE and SPEAK LIFE!

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