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Wise Wednesday – Motivational Minute 382

It’s Wise Wednesday!

Today’s Motivational Minute is …

Learn from your mistakes. It’s okay to make mistakes, however don’t keep making the same mistakes over and over again. Use wisdom and pay attention to lesson in every mistake you make. There is always something to learn. If you miss the lesson you might end up right back where you started. It’s time for you to stop making excuses and start taking responsibility for the things in your life that you could have avoided but chose not to.

YOUR TURN… on this Wise Wednesday, are there some mistakes that feel you keep making that you need to learn from? Take some time to revisit the incident or the issue and them write down what you were supposed to learn from it.

Share your thoughts in the comments section. I would love to hear from you. There may be someone who just might be blessed by what you share!

Here’s to you living life IN & On Purpose…

Detra

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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New Year.. New You… or is it?

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It’s 2013!!! We made it to a NEW YEAR…

Can you believe it? I can’t. It seems as though 2012 FLEW by WAYYYYY too fast. But I am not complaining because I now have another chance to make some things right this year that I procrastinated on last year. This year will not only be a New Year for me but a NEW ME too!

Can you say the same? Will there be a NEW YOU in 2013?

Although it is a New Year… are you really a NEW YOU??? The one thing God has been dealing with me about is my thinking and my discipline in the activities that bring me closer to my goals. If you ask those who know me, I am not one to bask in negativity. I am pretty proactive in keeping my inner circle clear of naysayers, critics, haters, pessimists… you get my point. However over the last few months God began showing me that it wasn’t those on the outside I needed to be worried about. It was that voice on the inside I needed silence some days and tell it to SHUT UP! There were days were I was listening more to what my inner voice was telling me I couldn’t do than what God had already spoken and showed me I could do.

Can you relate???

Well if so, as you begin this New Year, don’t forget to inspect the current YOU to make sure you aren’t bringing any of your ‘old ways‘ in to 2013.

It’s time to dump those old habits, which could include that old way of thinking, speaking and doing. It could also include old people, places, and things in your life. You can’t bring the same stinking thinkin into 2013. If you have, then we need to talk. You see, many of us deceive ourselves into thinking the New Year, new day, or new month changes everything but it doesn’t. Just because it’s a New Year doesn’t change the fact that there are some major and or minor changes you need to make to be the person God created you to be. Remember we are all works in progress.

It is time for you to get out of your own way and embrace your fears and anything else standing in the way of you walking boldly in purpose. (You may also need to get out of God’s way too! – that’s another conversation)

Why? Because 2013 is the year to go from feeling stuck to growing in the place you’ve been planted. You thought you were stuck but God had you right where He wanted you. Just know that chaos and crisis always precede purpose and promise.

For the past 3 or 4 years I couldn’t understand why what I wanted never manifested how I wanted it to. But after noticing a pattern, God had me right where he wanted me.

Think about your life.

It may not have made sense then and heck it may not make sense now but you know that God has been up to something. I can’t say that I’ve always enjoyed how God goes about teaching me a lesson but what I can say is that I’m so much better afterwards. So on this new day in this New Year, if you haven’t already done so, take some time to think about the changes in your life you KNOW without a shadow of a doubt you need to make but have been resisting.

Think about how God has been pushing you to be bold, be different and be intentional. Think about how he has been pushing you to challenge the status quo. Think about how he has separated and isolated you from some people, places, and things and then I want you to say THANK YOU!

It’s time we started saying thank you for EVERYTHING. In ALL things give thanks. No matter what, you still have something to be thankful for. Once you’ve taken stock of those changes that you rejected, ran from, or just acted like didn’t exist, acknowledge them. Write them down and then ask God to show what you need to learn from those changes. There is purpose in everything God does. All you have to do seek him and in time what you are seeking will be revealed. Once you’ve done that, you are on your way to becoming an even better or NEW YOU. Remember there’s no point in celebrating a New Year with new goals if you are going to approach it with the same old mind, same old thinking, and same ole perspective. Heck, you may even need to think about changing certain people, places, and any other things that shouldn’t have come with you into 2013. LET THEM GO! Your NEW YOU or the YOU you’ve always know you could be is waiting for you to take the first step.

Assignment:

Acknowledge your current place in life. Assess the damage. Assess the successes. Assess where you are, how you got there and be content with the progress you’ve made. What progress have you made? What daily changes do you need to make? What’s the first step to making those changes? Take the first step… no matter how small. Your NEW YOU or the YOU you’ve always know you could be is waiting for you to take that first step.

Be Bold. Be Different. Be intentional.

Challenge the Status Quo by Living Life IN & ON Purpose.

If you are stuck on how to make the most of where you are now or are having issues really identifying why you are ‘there‘, let’s schedule your complimentary get acquainted coaching session.

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart,

Your Life Empowerment Coach

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Spit It Out

Lately, God has been speaking to me in the most odd ways. Well I guess if you think about it, He speaks to us all the time, it’s just a matter of if we are willing to ‘see’ or hear what He is trying to tell us. The other day I was feeding my son who is now 13 months (WOW how times flies) and I put something in his mouth that he didn’t like and he IMMEDIATELY spit it out. There was no thought about it whatsoever. The interesting thing is that he has always done this. If what I give him to eat is something he’s not excited about, he spits it out. The other thing he does is if he has something in his mouth (that he actually may like) and I give him something new or something better, he spits out what is currently in his mouth. My husband and I get such a kick out of it. How awesome, but interesting, is it that a person who has only been on this earth 13 months knows what he likes and doesn’t like and without question? How is it that when he sees something he wants he spits out what he doesn’t want with no thought at all about what might happen if what he wants doesn’t taste as good as what he had? As I watched him one day, God began to speak to me and I began to think about why we can’t be as simple but aggressive in our adult lives. Why do we go through life eating and accepting things that we know we don’t like and we know don’t work for us, BUT yet we still keep doing it. It is somewhat INSANE… doing that SAME thing over again and expecting DIFFERENT results.

My answer to you is …

SPIT IT OUT

Try something different. Stop thinking the same way you’ve always thought. Stop saying the same things you’ve always said. Lastly, stop DOING the same things you’ve always done. At some point you have to do what my son does and SPIT IT OUT if you don’t like it. SPIT OUT those thoughts that aren’t helping you get to that place of purpose you desire. SPIT OUT those negative words you tell and believe about yourself. Negativity begets negativity. SPIT OUT those negative actions and behaviors that result in negative results and consequences. Just like my son immediately knows that he likes and doesn’t like. You know what you should be allowing into your life. Now if you don’t, that is where I come in as our coach to help you identify those thoughts, words, actions and behaviors that are keeping you from living your best life. Being authentic to who you are and who you were created to be has to start being a priority for you. If you don’t put you first, WHO will? Some times you have to SPIT OUT those people, places and things that keep you from living the life of purpose you were created to live.

My Challenge to you:

Take some time to assess your thoughts, words, actions and behaviors. Are they leading you toward living life IN and ON purpose. If not, then you need to SPIT THEM OUT NOW and start taking in those things that will push you toward that goal. Furthermore, you may also need to SPIT OUT some people (you hang with), places (you currently go), and things (you do or don’t do) in order for you to get on the path of purpose.

Once you’ve had some time to think about it, share your answers in the comment below. TELL ME…What (or who) do you need to spit out and when are you going to do it?

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Are you taking it all in???

On September 1st, we celebrated my son’s first Birthday. I am still in sheer amazement that this year has flown by so quickly. Some days I feel like it was just yesterday that I was bringing him home from the hospital. During my pregnancy, lots of people would tell me to ‘take it all in because it goes by so fast.’ To be honest, I still have family, friends and even strangers share the same sentiments as Dallas grows and gets older each day. So as I sat and watched Dallas sleeping the night before his birthday, I thought to myself, am I really taking it all in and have I done a good job of enjoying ‘the moment‘ in spite of still rushing through many of my days.

Well it depends on the day, and what is happening. There are some days that I am on point with spending quality time with my son, taking lots of pictures and just being in the moment with him. However there are other days that the day flies by and I wonder where it went, why am I so tired, and how did bed time arrive so abruptly.

You probably have those moments too where you are…

  • …living life so nonchalant that you wake up some days wondering where the time and days have gone.
  • …thinking how did I get here and why haven’t I stopped to smell the roses.
  • …wondering how do I get back on track to taking it all in and paying attention to the things that really matter in my life.

Well just in case this is you and you are wondering how to get back on track or how to stay on track, here are a few suggestions that I’ve learned to implement.

  1. pause… take some time to just pause and really take in where you are, what’s going on, how it makes you feel, etc. Many times we are so engrossed with where we are trying to ‘be’ instead of focusing on where we are right now. STOP IT… tomorrow will take care of itself. Enjoy TODAY.
  2. document… journal, take pictures, talk about it and celebrate it with others (family, friends, etc.). Some times the best way to enjoy the moment is to create memories of that moment so that you have it beyond that day.
  3. celebrate… no matter how small a goal is or how small the moment, take it all in and CELEBRATE yourself and how far you’ve come. Think back to where you were a year ago and get excited about the fact that you made into another year and that you are in a better place.

BE INTENTIONAL about your life, your goals and your future and THIS MOMENT of time in your life. Be in the moment, Be present, and Be attentive. This moment may never come again and when it passes you will not be able to get it back, so do everything you can, even as tired and warn out as you may be feeling, to ENJOY EVERY MOMENT of your life.

WHY… because YOU are worth it.

As a matter of fact, say this….

Today I will take in every moment of my life because I AM WORTH IT! I may never get another chance to embrace all that life is giving me as this very moment, therefore I AM TAKING IT ALL IN!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life Empowerment Coach

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Get up after falling…

This is an exciting time for my family!  My son is starting to learn how to walk and as I watch him take one step, then two steps, then stumble and fall and then get back up,  I am reminded that this is how life is for just about all of us when we feel ourselves moving to the next level, if we are willing to admit it.  In pursuit of purpose, we start on one level and then as we feel the pull to transition to the next level, we take one step forward, fall, then take another step and stumble, take two steps and then fall again.  At some point, we get tired and resort to what’s SAFE …crawling again (going back to what’s comfortable or easy for us).

That is exactly what my son is doing.  He takes a few steps, falls down, gets back up out of excitement and falls immediately back down due to his inability to maintain his balance (I will deal with the issue of balance on another day).  After falling a few times, he gives up on trying to walk and then goes back to crawling again.  I know some of you reading this know exactly what I am talking about because you have children and have seen this happen with them.  However there are those of you who know exactly what I am talking about because you are the one who is being pulled to a new level and/or in a new direction and you aren’t quite sure how to get there.  But as you take those small steps you find it getting easier to move toward that place that you know purpose resides.  Now some of you, who immediately after falling, resort back to what’s easy and comfortable, daring to never take another step out of fear of falling again.   It is easier for you to rest in what you already know rather than the unknown of what is up ahead waiting for you.  Let me say this to you… PLEASE DO NOT GET DISCOURAGED and PLEASE DO NOT STOP WHERE YOU ARE!

Just as my son may take one step here then five steps there, falls in between, then gets back up when he thinks he is ready to take a few more steps, you too should not worry about falling but about getting back up and getting yourself moving forward toward your life of purpose and significance.  What you are not realizing is that falling gives you small doses of confidence, so that when you take that next step, you have the assurance of knowing that if you took the previous one, you can take another.  It may seem scary and it may seem impossible, but trust that as you take more steps, like my son, you will get the hang of ‘walking.’

To help you find comfort in falling, here are a few things that I learned while watching my son:

  1. When you fall don’t get upset, it’s part of the process.  In fact instead of getting discouraged, give yourself credit for taking that first step.  He gets so excited when he realizes he has taken a few steps on his own.  That excitement propels him to want to take more steps.
  2. Surround yourself with people who will be just as excited about your small accomplishments as your large ones.  It is extremely important to have supportive people around you when in the infancy stages of life transitions.  One of the reasons, my son loses his balance is because we get so excited that he has taken steps that our screams and claps get him all worked up as well.   Sometimes not even knowing how big of deal his one, two or five steps were, he looks back at us wondering what all of the excitement is about.
  3. Even if you only take one step, know that it is getting you one step closer to that place you desire to be.  REMEMBER… it all starts with that first step.  You can’t get ahead if you don’t get started.
  4. Take on the innocence and naiveté of an infant.  My son takes his steps not based on the fear of falling but with the confidence that he can do it. Take the risk anyway.  You will never know unless you try.  Sometimes you have stop thinking so much and like Nike says, ‘Just Do It.’  Thinking too much will cause you to develop what is called ‘analysis paralysis,’ where you think about something so much that you think yourself out taking any action.
  5. Get back up.  Don’t stay down there for long.  Although that is where you may feel most comfortable, know that ‘crawling’ is not your ultimate destination.  You were meant to not only walk but to run.  So keep moving.

Don’t let fear of falling keep you from the pursuit of living life in and on purpose. Get out there, get up after each fall and take at least one step today!  Don’t wait until tomorrow start NOW!

Here’s to YOU living life in and on purpose… Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 330

Today’s Motivational Minute …

There are some things you will have to let go of in order to receive what’s coming next in your life. Identify what they are, if you don’t already know, and begin the purging process slowly, if need be, but surely.

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Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 312

Today’s Motivational Minute …

Trust that no matter what happens in your life, it is all working out for your good.

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 311

Today’s Motivational Minute …

Sometimes where you are is where you are supposed to be at this seadsn in your life.  Accpet it for what it is, and then learn, glean and get all that you can from this time, so that when it passes as it will, you will be ready for the next phase or season in your life.

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Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 255

Today’s Motivational Minute…

It is outside of your comfort zone that your purpose and destiny lies.  You will realize that it’s not so bad after taking the first step.

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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Motivational Minute 248

Today’s Motivational Minute…

If you don’t like the way things are going in your life, the only thing that stands between you and change, is a DECISION.  Make a decision to do something TODAY!

Remember to thine own self be TRUE, for out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS… speak life and be true!

Until next time…

Detra M. Trueheart, Your Personal Life and Empowerment Coach

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