Speak Life Tele-Class – Early Bird Registration ENDS TODAY!

Hey TrueheartSpeaks family,

You may or may not know but I will be hosting a LIVE Tele-Class next Tuesday, April 29th from 6:30pm-8:30pm.  It’s entitled Speak Life: Creating the Life YOU Love with the Words YOU Speak.

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I want to share part of the message I shared with my TrueheartSpeaks mailing list family yesterday.  BTW, if you have yet to subscribe to the TrueheartSpeaks E-Zine & Free Monthly Life Purpose Coaching Calls, CLICK HERE to sign up now.

If you follow me at all, whether here on my blog, via my website, or on any of my social media pages, you know that I am very adamant about using the power of our words to create what we desire.  I’ve written a few bog posts on it and it is even included as a key component in many of my coaching programs, products and services.  Well over the past couple of months,  I really started noticing a pattern when having conversations with clients.

  • They were stuck, stagnant and feeling very stalled in life.
  • They weren’t happy with the way things were going in their lives personally and/or professionally.
  • Actually some were happy but things still seemed to stay the same in spite of efforts to go the the next level.
  • They comfortable and complacent.

You want to know what that pattern was that I noticed?  I figured you would want to know.

Well it was in their language.  

  • It was a self-defeated type of talk.  
  • It was a I want more and I want better but I don’t want to say anything just in case it doesn’t happen type of talk.  
  • It was a things are going really good but I’ve seemed to plateau and I’m not sure how to break through this ‘glass ceiling’ type of talk.  

You see how you speak about yourself tells me tons about how you see your life and your future.  

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Some of you say you believe it but your words don’t line up.  If you know anything about me you know that the things that have manifested in my life have not only been because of the vision that God has given me but also because I lined up my words with where I desired to be rather than where I was.  When I started my girls not for profit, the Young Miss Buffalo Pageant: Scholarship & Enrichment Program, Inc., 14 years ago, people will tell you that they remember me talking about what I was doing, how it looked, the layout of the program, etc. Even back then I understood the power of words and speaking things into existence.

Ok so, let me ask you this…

Are you talking ‘this‘ level talk when you should be talking ‘next‘ level talk?

Maybe you aren’t speaking death but maybe you are speaking comfort and complacency.  It is said that indecision is still making a decision, so since we are talking about speaking…. not saying anything is just as bad as speaking negative things over you, those around you and your circumstances.

I have so much to share with you and I believe that there are so many people who need to know that what you say is just as important as what you think. What you think and SAY determines what you do.  That’s why I’m inviting you to join me next Tuesday.  Listen, if anything I’ve said resonates with you, do not wait another minute overthinking yourself out of something that could change your life.  

REGISTER NOW!  

You have until next week to register however, you do not have until next week to get in at the Early Bird Rate of $27.00.  After TODAY it goes up to $47.00.  Yes…. for two hours and $27.00 you get me pouring into you and from tomorrow until next Tuesday, it goes up to the regular registration rate of $47.00.

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Now maybe you are saying Detra, I really want to be there and I know this message is for me, but I can’t make it.  I have another commitment… well guess what!  If you can’t make it, NO WORRIES!! — Register Now… and once it’s done, the mp3 recording and the worksheets will be emailed to you afterwards so you can listen and do the work at your leisure.  But TRUST ME… you do not want to miss this.

Life is short… don’t wake up this Wednesday or next, saying woulda, coulda, shoulda… It’s time to do something you’ve never done in order to have what you’ve never had.  If what you are doing isn’t working, try something else.

I can’t wait to ‘see’ you on the SPEAK LIFE Tele Class call next week!

PS… look out for this week’s blog post!

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

Hugs…

Detra
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Learn from FAILURE Don’t Run from It.

I was thinking of what to post this week and I happened to com across a coaching assignment that went out today for my Go Hard or Go Home 30 Day Jumpstart E-Program and decided I wanted to share it with you.  Be sure to do the assignment and share you comments with me below or on facebook or twitter.

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Learn from FAILURE Don’t Run from It.


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As we close out our last full week of our 30 day journey together, I want to close this week with today’s lesson, which is Learn from Failure DON’T Run from It.  Many times we are so afraid to fail and so afraid to try anything new, that we never do anything.  We run from failure instead of running towards it.  We hide behind bushes when we think failure is lurking and maybe it is lurking.  But let me tell you this, you will learn so much more from your failures than you will ever learn from your successes.  It is in your failures that your greatness is created, defined and some times refined.  Don’t let the possibility of what could ‘never’ happen keep you from trying and making it happen.  You have to learn how to confidently look the prospect of failure in the eye and move forward anyway.


You see the question isn’t if you will have problems, but how you are going to deal with your problems. We will all have things that come into our lives to shake us and make us but NEVER to break us.  What the devil meant for bad in your life, God can most assuredly turn it around for your good.  Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that ALL things work together for the good of those who love God and are the called according to His purpose.”  ALL things are working together for your good.  Trust and know that God has your best interest at heart when he allows obstacles to come your way.  Everything you are experiencing is preparing you for where you are going.  Let God shake some things up in your life.  There may be some ingredients that have settled down at the bottom that are needed to spice up your life, your purpose and your destiny. Shake them up so you can experience the FULL essence of all of the flavors you possess.

Will you fail backward or will you lean in and fail forward?  Don’t run from it… run to it and learn everything you can.  Life is all about solving problems.  You have to change your perspective when pursuing greatness.  You have to look at yourself as a problem solver.  Don’t focus on the problem, focus on the solution.  If it didn’t or doesn’t work, how can you tweak it to make it better that next go-round?  Or do you just scrap it and move it on.  Remember that learning to move on is just as important as staying around to try to fix it.  It takes wisdom to make that decision. Lastly, don’t forget to keep God in the mix.  Some things aren’t meant for you to touch, but just to experience.  If this is one of those instances, give the problem to God and keep it moving.

As the quote above implies (I’m paraphrasing), if you try, you stand a chance of losing, but if you don’t, you’ve already lost.  Stop running from it and run to it.  The very thing you are running from could be the very thing that makes all the difference in how you achieve your goals.  No you won’t know until you get knee-deep in it, but you will never know unless you try. 

Below is a little inspiration.  I have listed a few very successful people and how they failed (some tremendously) before becoming who we know them as today.  

  • Henry Ford: While Ford is today known for his innovative assembly line and American-made cars, he wasn’t an instant success. In fact, his early businesses failed and left him broke five times before he founded the successful Ford Motor Company.
  • R.H. Macy: Most people are familiar with this large department store chain, but Macy didn’t always have it easy. Macy started seven failed business before finally hitting big with his store in New York City.
  • Akio Morita: You may not have heard of Morita but you’ve undoubtedly heard of his company, Sony. Sony’s first product was a rice cooker that unfortunately didn’t cook rice so much as burn it, selling less than 100 units. This first setback didn’t stop Morita and his partners as they pushed forward to create a multi-billion dollar company.
  • Bill Gates: Gates didn’t seem like a shoe-in for success after dropping out of Harvard and starting a failed first business with Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen called Traf-O-Data. While this early idea didn’t work, Gates’ later work did, creating the global empire that is Microsoft.
  • Walt Disney: Today Disney rakes in billions from merchandise, movies and theme parks around the world, but Walt Disney himself had a bit of a rough start. He was fired by a newspaper editor because, “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” After that, Disney started a number of businesses that didn’t last too long and ended with bankruptcy and failure. He kept plugging along, however, and eventually found a recipe for success that worked.
  • Albert Einstein: Most of us take Einstein’s name as synonymous with genius, but he didn’t always show such promise. Einstein did not speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven, causing his teachers and parents to think he was mentally handicapped, slow and anti-social. Eventually, he was expelled from school and was refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School. It might have taken him a bit longer, but most people would agree that he caught on pretty well in the end, winning the Nobel Prize and changing the face of modern physics.
  • Thomas Edison: In his early years, teachers told Edison he was “too stupid to learn anything.” Work was no better, as he was fired from his first two jobs for not being productive enough. Even as an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. Of course, all those unsuccessful attempts finally resulted in the design that worked.
  • Oprah Winfrey: Most people know Oprah as one of the most iconic faces on TV as well as one of the richest and most successful women in the world. Oprah faced a hard road to get to that position, however, enduring a rough and often abusive childhood as well as numerous career setbacks including being fired from her job as a television reporter because she was “unfit for tv.”
  • Fred Astaire: In his first screen test, the testing director of MGM noted that Astaire, “Can’t act. Can’t sing. Slightly bald. Can dance a little.” Astaire went on to become an incredibly successful actor, singer and dancer and kept that note in his Beverly Hills home to remind him of where he came from.
  • J. K. Rowling: Rowling may be rolling in a lot of Harry Potter dough today, but before she published the series of novels she was nearly penniless, severely depressed, divorced, trying to raise a child on her own while attending school and writing a novel. Rowling went from depending on welfare to survive to being one of the richest women in the world in a span of only five years through her hard work and determination.
  • Michael Jordan: Most people wouldn’t believe that a man often lauded as the best basketball player of all time was actually cut from his high school basketball team. Luckily, Jordan didn’t let this setback stop him from playing the game and he has stated, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
  • Babe Ruth: You probably know Babe Ruth because of his home run record (714 during his career), but along with all those home runs came a pretty hefty amount of strikeouts as well (1,330 in all). In fact, for decades he held the record for strikeouts. When asked about this he simply said, “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”
  • Steven Spielberg: While today Spielberg’s name is synonymous with big budget, he was rejected from the University of Southern California School of Theater, Film and Television three times. He eventually attended school at another location, only to drop out to become a director before finishing. Thirty-five years after starting his degree, Spielberg returned to school in 2002 to finally complete his work and earn his BA.

The people I listed above aren’t any different from you or me.  The only thing that makes them different is their decision to never let no’s and rejection keep them from their dreams, goals, aspirations and purpose.  

My question is will you?

Your Daily Coaching Assignment:
Today’s Assignment is … Since failure is inevitable, if your perception of and response to failure were changed, what would you attempt to achieve?  I mean really think about.  I am sure that there are still some things you haven’t tried or won’t try because you are afraid of failing.  What if you were still afraid of failing but knew you needed to lean into it in order to achieve the success you desire?  Take some time today and think about recent setbacks you’ve experienced.  How did you respond?  Did you let it keep you down or did you get back up?  I hope you got back up :)  If not, then now is the time to run toward your failures, lean into them and learn from every single one of them?  Is it scary… ABSOLUTELY but it is so worth it!
I hope you enjoyed today’s lesson..

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

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Detra
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Iron Sharpens Iron

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This past week I had the opportunity to attend the Speak for Pay Conference hosted by Marshawn Evans.  Can I tell you I had time of my life!!!  As I look back, I realize that I was on assignment.  In addition to attending as a participant, my assignment included attending as someone who will be hosting her own live events and getting a clear vision of what life and business could be like for me one day.  I was expanding my vision and up leveling my current life and business.

You see the way God reveals visions and dreams to me is through experiences most times.  Some people see visions via dreams, I get mine through actual experiences.  I might show up at someone’s house and see something and the Lord will speak to me and say this is it… this is what I was referring to the other day.  Crazy right… I know …. but at any rate, from beginning to end of the event, God was showing me what is possible when I allow myself to be shifted and pushed out of my comfort zone and when I am in a space where I am with like-minded individuals.

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When we are with those who understand our struggle, our desires, and our passions, it somewhat takes the stress off of trying to explain greatness to people who just don’t ‘get’ it.  Well that’s how I felt.  I don’t know about you but when I can feel myself transitioning to the next level, I sometimes feel isolated or out of place.  However, that was not the case in Atlanta, where the event was held.  I was with a group of like-minded individuals being poured into by a mentor/coach who understood us.  Have you felt that way?  Where others didn’t really ‘get you’ or ‘get’ something you were going through or ‘get’ that dream you were pursuing?

Well sometimes you have to take the initiative the PUT yourself in environments where iron sharpens iron and birds of feather can flock together.  And not just any bird, but EAGLES.  You need someone who has been where you are going or who has experienced similar feelings and emotions in order for you to have the breakthrough you desire.  There were so many things that were confirmed while on this trip, so I knew I was in the right place.  When shifting and transitioning to that ‘next level,’ you need people in your circle, on your row and leading you who ‘get’ you.  You need iron to sharpen your iron.  Not plastic or glass, but iron.  You need people around you who are ‘like’ you.

If you are feeling a little isolated or estranged.  If you are feeling like no one ‘gets’ you. If you are in need of a coach or mentor who can really meet you where you are, you need an ‘iron sharpens iron’ experience like I had this past weekend.  If you don’t already have this in your life, you need to change it up.  Ask God to show you what changes you need to make.  Whether it’s changing your inner circle and the people on your row, do it.  Start aligning yourself with like-minded, purpose-driven, go-getters who are willing to do whatever it takes to pursue and live God’s best life.  If you need to invest in yourself by getting a coach or mentor or attending an event that will expose you to iron sharpeners, then DO IT.

  • You can’t keep waiting for them to get it; they won’t.  
  • You can’t keep waiting for the right time; it’s NOW.  
  • You can’t keep waiting for things to be perfect… NOT gonna happen.

It’s time for you to invest in yourself by surrounding yourself with WHATEVER is necessary to help provoke you into your life’s purpose.  I challenge you to make a list of things you know you need to do to start making that shift and DO one this week.  Go to an event where go getters are hanging out.  Sign up for a new training.  Be the iron that you are seeking and start sharpening those around you. If you are stuck and need help strategizing how to make the first move or take the first step, schedule a Strategy Coaching Session with me.

P.S … This month’s monthly coaching call takes place TOMORROW at 6pm.  If you are on my mailing list, no worries you are covered, but if not, then REGISTER NOW to get access to the call in details.  Tomorrow’s topic is all about getting rid of excuses.

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

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Detra
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Are you taking it all in???

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As I think back to a year ago when I launched my monthly motivational coaching calls, I am taking a moment to take it all in and relish in all that I have learned and experienced over the past year. Since I am out of town at a professional development conference, this month’s coaching call will take place on Tuesday, April 8 instead of today. I hope you enjoy today’s blast from the past. Remember that you can now also listen to my blog posts in addition to reading them. Until Next Time….

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On September 1st, we celebrated my son’s first Birthday. I am still in sheer amazement that this year has flown by so quickly. Some days I feel like it was just yesterday that I was bringing him home from the hospital. During my pregnancy, lots of people would tell me to ‘take it all in because it goes by so fast.’ To be honest, I still have family, friends and even strangers share the same sentiments as Dallas grows and gets older each day. So as I sat and watched Dallas sleeping the night before his birthday, I thought to myself, am I really taking it all in and have I done a good job of enjoying ‘the moment‘ in spite of still rushing through many of my days.

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Are you too accessible?

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Most people who know me, know that I am funny about my time.  I don’t like people trying to monopolize my time.  I also don’t like my time to be wasted.  I like to enjoy my time the way I want to.  Through client coaching conversations and random conversations with family and friends, I’ve learned that more and more people feel the need to answer every call, every text and respond to every email every time the phone chimes.  This need to be accessible has caused many people, myself included, to miss out on opportunities or become so distracted that we waste time helping people put out fires that have nothing to do with us.

Over the years I’ve become better at saying no, but that was very hard for at one time in my life.  I felt the need to say yes to every little thing someone asked me to do or be apart of.  Then in 2003, the Lord released me from every obligation by sending me to New York, New York as a National Urban Fellow to pursue my first Masters Degree at Baruch College.  I initially thought this degree was my ticket up the career path but it was far from it.  I learned so much about myself, who I was and who I was called to be, that getting the degree was miniscule.  The degree was just the catalyst used to get me away.

During that time I resigned from all committees, groups and organizations I was apart of and you know what …. it felt great to be in a place where I didn’t have any obligation to anyone or anything but to God and myself. Well school of course… but you know what I mean.  It was at that point that God began to show me that it was okay to resign and that the world wouldn’t fall apart of I decided to resign, withdraw or just say no.  I always thought I just HAD to be apart of ‘it.’  If it was something of interest, even a small interest, I most assuredly had to be involved.  NOT SO!  God began showing me that I was too accessible to others which limited my accessibility to Him.  I was saying yes to everything and everyone but I had forgotten my first love…. HIM.  I’m not sure who this is for but you have become too accessible.  You answer every call, you say yes to every request, you interrupt whatever it is that you have going on for someone else thus messing up your flow.  My question to you is… are you too accessible?

  • Is your phone always on?
  • Do you ever just not answer the phone without feeling guilty that you missed an important phone call?
  • Do you have to respond to every text EVERY TIME it comes through?
  • Do you say yes to every opportunity that is presented to you?
  • Do you say yes to every offer to serve on a committee at your church, your child’s school, sorority, etc?
  • Do you drop what you are doing at the drop a hat to appease, tend to and fix everyone else’s issues while leaving yours behind?
  • Do you put off those things that are of the utmost importance to you for things that are of less importance?

As you know I could go on… but listen here… if you said YES to any or most of these questions… you just might be TOO ACCESSIBLE.

As technology as gotten more savvy, I have had to get more intentional about not answering every call, not checking my email all day everyday, not checking every text or not liking every post on Facebook or intstagram.  I will be the first to tell you that as a workaholic I am a work in progress.  My hubby will tell you.  I could work tons of hours if he let me.  But I have an obligation to my husband to be a wife and to my son to be a mommy so I can’t be accessible to everyone else more than I am accessible to them as well as to myself.  Again… it’s a work in progress.  Sometimes I purposely leave my phone in another room just so I don’t have to hear the notifications or vibrating of the phone ringing and to be honest… it took some getting used to but now I like it.

So let me make some suggestions on how you can be less accessible.

  • cut off your phone
  • stop responding to every text that comes in
  • limit your time on Facebook, twitter, instagram, google plus, etc.
  • limit your time on email… check your email 2-3 times a day (I am currently working on this myself)
  • limit your business phone calls. Stop taking business calls after a certain time. (something else I too am working on)
  • limit your personal calls.  Spend some time with your family and yourself.  You cannot give what you do not have.
  • learn to say no.  I’ve said this a number of times in a number of my previous posts.  You can not be all things to all people.  Learn how to let people know that now is not the best time for you to commit to anything else.  Or just say you aren’t interested. Be honest.
  • turn off the notifications on your phone and computer so that you are not tempted to take a peek at who sent you what.

Now only you know if you are too accessible.  Only you know if you need to cut some things and some people back so that you can really focus on those things that are of the utmost importance to you.  I have shared a few tools with you; the question is will you use them.  As a LifeStyle Management Strategist, my job is give you simple and clear strategies on how to manage your life so you can live it in purpose everyday.

Your turn… tell me how accessible you are?  Do you have some work to do or have you mastered this skill?  As a work in progress, even I would like to know.  I’m still trying to find the perfect fit for how to make life as a mommy-wife-preneur work for me.  Some days are easier than others so your feedback could just be what our readers need to limit their accessibility and live more for themselves instead of others.

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

Hugs…

Detra
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Let Yourself Off The Hook

9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. ~2 Corinthians 12:9

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As I look over my life and all of the awesome things I have accomplished, I am reminded that while so many people look at those ‘things’ or those ‘accomplishments’ and think that life is perfect for me, it isn’t all roses and berries.  It really isn’t and I imagine the same goes for you. Where people see you as this great person and sometimes forget that in all of the great things you do, you are still human.  WE are still human.  We make mistakes, we have shortcomings, we want to quit, we want to just put our heads under the covers and not come out for about a week.

I know … me too.

But as I was thinking about what to share with you this week, I was running a recent conversation hubby and I had through my mind and thought about the many people who have similar feelings of feeling like sometimes you can’t really let your hair down because of all of the expectations that others have on you.  It gets stressful trying to live up to certain standards when sometimes you just want to scream and run and hide.  Believe me I’ve been there.  Part of who I am now has evolved from being who and what others wanted me to be to focusing on who God has called me to be and trusting that in spite of all of my mishaps, mistakes and shortcomings, He has called me anyway.  The same goes for you too!

Now maybe this isn’t your story, maybe you don’t have a lot going on and you just feel like where you are and who you are isn’t enough.  You feel like you need to be stronger, you need to have more accomplishments, more notches on your belt or whatever.  Well I am here to tell you that whether you have lots going on or not enough… to let yourself off the hook.  As the scripture above says, God’s power is sufficient for you. For HIS power is made perfect in your weakness.  How awesome is that to know that when the world and society, and tv and magazines say you have to be perfect, God says it is in your weaknesses that His power is made perfect.

It is in your inabilities that God’s abilities can shine through. (you can tweet this)

Let yourself off the hook.  Stop trying to be someone or something you are not.  Stop trying to compete with and keep up with the Joneses. As one of my fav financial gurus, Dave Ramsey, says, stop buying things that you can’t afford to impress people you don’t even like. :) Heck stop buying things you can’t afford to impress people you do like.  If people only like and associate with you because of the car you drive, the position or title you hold, the size of your house and all of the name brand ‘this’ and ‘that’ you have, than it’s a superficial relationship and you need to let it go.  You need people in your life who can love you when your poor and love you when your rich, who love you when you have and when you don’t have.  Those are the essential relationships you need in your life.  People who won’t lie to you but will tell you the truth about yourself when you need to hear it.

Let yourself off of the hook. It’s ok that you haven’t always lived a perfect life. We have ALL done things we are not proud of which is why God’s word is clear that ALL have sinned and fallen short of the glory.  We have all made mistakes that we wish we could take back.  Ask for God’s forgiveness and then forgive yourself.

Let yourself off the hook. We all have moments when what we see in the mirror isn’t as fit, beautiful, smart, wise, fabulous, prayerful, health-conscious, outgoing, motivated, confident, brave, daring and fearless person we know we can be or would like to be.  So here’s your reality, you were made just right. You were fearfully and wonderfully made.  You were made in the image of a God who created you to be perfect through weakness in HIS strength and power.  All you need is in HIM.  It is in him we live, move and have our being.  Stop downing yourself. Stop self-sabotaging everything you do.  Stop letting people speak negative instead of positive into you.  Start speaking life over yourself and most importantly…

LET YOURSELF OFF THE HOOK…

  • you will make mistakes
  • you will fall short
  • you will disappoint yourself every now and then
  • you will have loss
  • you will have days when you second guess yourself
  • you will have days when it all seems to be falling apart
  • you will have days when you know in your heart of hearts you didn’t give it your all
  • you will sin
  • you will feel sucky and yucky

I could go on but I won’t…. you get the point…

BUT guess what… it doesn’t have to stay that way.  As you know I teach you to have your moment… so have the moment. But don’t stay in the moment.  Learn from the moment. Deal with it don’t run from it.  But also know that it will be in your weakness, your ability to be transparent with yourself and all that is good and bad, and your humanness where God will be able to show up and show his strength in your weakness.  So whoever told you that weak people are suckas… doesn’t really know God and never really let their weakness be what God uses to show His purpose.  Don’t let your pride keep you from allowing God to be who and what he is … GOD!

Let yourself off the hook, if God isn’t expecting you to be perfect, neither am I.

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

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Detra
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Speak Life

I know it has been a minute since I’ve posted.  Most of you know I run a girls enrichment program and we are full steam ahead with planning and prepping for this year’s participants.  We held interviews over the weekend and we had the opportunity to welcome 24 girls into program.  I’m pretty excited about that.

On another note, if you follow me on any of my social media sites: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, GooglePlus, you have seen my Morning Declarations that I post each morning.  However, if we aren’t connected, you may have missed them so I figured I would share some of my declarations with you.  As you know I am a huge proponent of speaking life and not death into you, your family, your situation.  When all hell seems to be breaking loose around you, what you speak and what you think determine what you do and how you respond.

Remember, self talk is HUGE… what you say to and about yourself speaks so much louder than what others say to and about you.  So if you are like me and some days you wake up not feeling your best — YES… even I have those days more than you can imagine, you need something that will give you a little kick in the butt.  I have my affirmations/declarations on my iPhone in my notes so I can carry them around with me everywhere I go.  Some people write them in a notebook, others make signs and tape them in different places in their homes.  It doesn’t really matter where they are so long as you are saying them daily and sometimes multiple times daily.

For the daily posts I make, I encourage my readers to say it 7 times.  No rhyme or reason other than it’s my favorite number and God’s number of perfection and completion.  So after reading this post, you may want to print these out and post them somewhere so you can say them 7 times DAILY throughout the day.  In order to transform your mind and your mouth, you must renew it daily and repetitiously.

So here are a few of the favorites…. Feel free share them and tag me on any of my social media pages.

I will not let fear paralyze me. I will take ACTION! iMove

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I will accept the perfection o my imperfections. I don’t have to be Perfect! iAccept.

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I am WORTHY & I am WORTH IT!

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I will try something new TODAY. iTry

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Purpose is in the PRESS, therefore I PUSH into purpose. iPush

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Do something different…

Do something different to have something different

Have you ever gotten to the point where things have gotten a little mundane in your life?

It’s not bad but it’s not juicy.

It’s just a little stale. You know?

Well this morning I started thinking that I wanted do something different for my honey.  He works crazy hours a few days a week so he doesn’t get to have dinner with us on those days.  I normally work in the morning while my son and hubby are sleeping, but I decided I would make dinner this morning so he would have dinner before going to work.  Now listen, I know for some of you out there, this is the norm for you but it’s not for me.  Plus my hubby isn’t too picky and he normally eats lunch or dinner at work on his long days.  But I wanted to do something different.  Not because he said anything but because I just decided that some times we need to do things different if we want to see something different in our lives.

My hubby knows I love him and he knows I would do anything for him, but doing this one gesture changed his mannerism this morning… he thought I was cooking dinner so that I could take lunch to work with me.  So when I said no I cooked dinner early so he could have something to take when he leaves, he was surprised somewhat taken aback.  You see I’m normally not home when he leaves during the day.  So after hearing me say I cooked for hime, at first he said… “what’d you do”  then he said “what do you want”  WE both laughed.  But seriously, I didn’t want anything and I didn’t do anything.  I just decided to do something different and I believe it make difference in how special I made him feel.

Now I don’t share this because I want congrats or kudos on what I did.  I share this to ask you … what small yet significant changes can you make in your life that could enhance or make your life better?  It made me feel good knowing that I did a little something ‘extra’ for my boo.  Some times it’s the little things that make a big difference.  I challenge you to think about what small yet significant things you can do in for yourself or for someone special in your life to make it a little bit juicier?

Remember if nothing changes, nothing changes.  In order for things to change in your life and those around you, you need to make some changes, first within yourself and for others.  Take some time to write down what those changes could be and don’t think about it too much, just TAKE ACTION.  Then come back and let me know how it worked out for you.  You know never, it could be the one thing you need to get that jolt or get your mojo back.

OH… don’t forget to join me next Tuesday for my free Monthly Motivational Coaching Call at 6pm.  It’s going to be juicy (that’s my new word-lol). It’s called “March Madness… 7 ways to minimize the madness in your life.” Check out the details below.

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

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Take the first step — TODAY!

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Here we are at the last and third of the three points I shared on the New Year New You 2014 Tele-Event.  Just as a recap,  the first point I shared with the women to help them live in and on purpose was to Do it Afraid.  At some point in our lives, we get to a place were we can no longer let fear get in the way of purpose and destiny.  Then I encouraged you to ‘Stop living for them and start living for YOU!’ You can not and will not be who and what God has called you to be if you continue to be what and who ‘they’ want you to be.  When you finally come to that fork in the road where you know that it’s time to walk in your uniqueness and  ‘differentness’ you need to make sure the path you take is the path designed for you by God NOT by others.

Now as we transition to the last step I gave, in order for you to do it afraid, and start living for you, you MUST take the first step TODAY!  YES… do something.  Most times we are waiting for the right time but that day will never come if you don’t take the first step.  I saw a sign that said ‘you can’t wait for all of the lights to turn green because they never will.’  I’m not sure who said it but it’s true.  Waiting for the perfect time to start means you will be waiting forever.  In his book, “In a pit with a lion on a snowy day,” Mark Batterson says,

‘that taking no risks is the greatest risk of all.’

He later goes on to say,

‘What sets lion chasers apart isn’t the outcome.  It’s the courage to chase God-sized dreams.  Lion chasers don’t let their fear or doubts keep them from doing what God has called them to do…. I’m absolutely convinced that our greatest regrets in life will be missed opportunities.’

You see the reason you haven’t taken the first step may not be because you are waiting for things to be perfect (or maybe it is) but that’s just the excuse that you use.  Things will never be perfect even when you get a rhythm going once you get started.  Things happen and life happens.  So expecting this to be perfect just sets you up for even more disappointment.  So let that go!  However let’s get back to what you are really covering up and deal with why you haven’t started.

Could it be that you are afraid… YES.. AFRAID…

  • afraid of failing
  • afraid of what ‘they’ might have to say about you venturing out to do something they ‘dream’ about doing but won’t attempt
  • afraid of disappointing people and yourself
  • afraid it won’t work
  • afraid it may work
  • afraid that if you quit your job and it doesn’t work, you don’t have anything to fall back on
  • afraid that the voice you hear and the tug you feel really isn’t from God

Believe me I’ve been there and once I told myself (well actually it was God) that if I didn’t try I would never know.  That’s right… in order to find out if will or won’t work, you have to take the first step and you have to take it TODAY!

You will not become an expert overnight.  It takes time but it will never happen until you take the first step.  Think about it about it this way…

“The expert in anything was once a novice or a beginner.”

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The more risks and steps you take, the easier it becomes.  Moving in spite of how you feel is called faith and faith is what drives fear right out of the way.  With each step you take, each day you build your faith and minimize your fear.  The only reason fear has so much power is because it’s what you are giving the most attention.  You’ve heard me say this (or read it it previous blog posts) what you feed grows.  If you feed fear… it will continue to paralyze and assassinate your dreams, purpose, goals and aspirations.  But when you feed faith… My GOD!  That’s when things start to happen.

Just put one foot in front of the other and take it one day, one step, one minute and one second at a time.  It’s the exact way you would eat an elephant… one bit at a time.  Maybe you’ve never heard of that before but when my coaching clients are having a hard time accomplishing BIG GOD-sized dreams and goals I ask them… how do you eat an elephant?  Either I get this strange silence on the other end of the phone or I get strange looks… because at first they aren’t sure how you would tackle something so huge. But then when I share that the answer is one bite at a time… they all say… ooooohhhhhh it makes sense now.

So here’s your assignment, think about that one goal, dream or vision (just one for now because I don’t want to overwhelm you) and ask yourself what one thing can I do today.  Then I want you to write it down and then I want you to GET YOUR BUTT MOVING!  It’s just that simple, I don’t want you to overthink it.  What one thing can you do today?  Once you’ve figured it out– DO IT!  Then share it with me below in the comments section. I want to be able to help cheer you on as you push into purpose!

Don’t wait another day. Take the first step… TODAY!

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

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Success is slow… It’s OK.

So as you now I normally post once a week or once every other week.  But there are times that I come across things that I want to share immediately with you.  So today I decided to share something that really resonated with me and I figured I’d share with.  I think we all want things to happen TOMORROW… but like the blog post below from Jon Acuff states… everything happens in its timing.

It’s sort of like Ecclesiastes 3:1 says,

“To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven:”  

I am still a work in progress as it relates to blogging. I like writing to you once a week but I can feel an evolution happening with me so it may be more than that.  I’d like to post on more than life purpose because even though that’s the essence of who I am and what I teach, I’d also like to talk about my role as a wife, a mom, a helper to my parents in raising my twin teenage nieces, and my passion for youth…  To be honest, I think my life purpose encompasses all of those things in addition to empowering women to live free, confident and fulfilled lives.

So what that said, here’s today’s post. Let me know what you think about my blog expansion… What would like me share with you?

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Success is slow. That’s OK.

by Jon Acuff

Sometimes people tell me, “I want to do what you do.”

That’s a nice compliment because it means they think I am successful at something. But when I tell them I’ve been writing professionally for 16 years they don’t like that timeline.

I wish success was faster. I do. It’d be a lot easier and more people could enjoy it. But the truth is, success is slow.

Case in point, here are the first 90 days of blog traffic I got.

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Go ahead and soak that in.

I averaged 34 unique visitors a day for the first. Baller!

The first year I was able to get that number up to 81 readers a day. I was killing it!

For an entire year I posted and posted and posted. And barely anyone read, but that didn’t matter in the end. Why? Because I knew success was slow.

If you’re writing a book, writing a blog or starting a business, don’t get discouraged. Keep going. Don’t give up!

Take your time. We all want success tomorrow, but that’s not how it works.

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Do you ever feel impatient with your dream, that success is taking too long?

- See more at: http://acuff.me/2014/02/success-slow-thats-ok/#sthash.VlezbV1a.dpuf

Answer Jon’s question in my comments below… “Do you ever feel impatient with your dream, that success is taking too long?” If so, how do you handle it?  What suggestions can you share to help others who may be feeling this way today?

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

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