When they don’t get you…

Hey Truehearts…

I’m back with another Life Purpose video…

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Until next time….
To thine own self be TRUE.  For out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS.
Choose to live in and on purpose!
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Detra
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You are invited…

Happy Independence Month!!!

Praying your fourth of July weekend and holiday was fabulous.  Mine was an awesome time spent with family and loved ones.  There were also a few quiet moments as well.

As you know, I host a monthly life purpose coaching call and You, my dear trueheart, are cordially invited to join me for this month’s Life Purpose Coaching Call:

Reclaim Your Independence:

7 strategies to reclaiming your personal freedom for the next 6 months.

On this call you will learn:

  • How to put you first
  • The most important thing you have to do to begin to take back your life.
  • How to take back the second half of the year if you are feeling like the first six months were
  • How to move forward with less guilt
  • The 7 strategies, tips and tools that you will be able to immediately use after the call

We are heading into the second half of 2014 and if the first half hasn’t gone exactly as you planned, that’s okay, you have six more months to claim your personal freedom and get it together.

  • Isn’t it time you started doing what gives you joy and fuels your sweet spot?
  • Isn’t it time you started putting you first?
  • Isn’t it time you took matters into your own hands instead of waiting for everyone else to do what you can do for you?

If you answered YES to any of these I challenge you to take 30 minutes out of your day to put YOU first and join me on this month’s call.

If you have been on any of my free monthly coaching calls, you are already registered. If not, no worries, you can get signed up at www.trueheartspeaks.com.

Can’t make the call? Have a prior commitment? No worries, Join my Catalyst Club Inner Circle to get access to the recording. Click here to get more information.

I sure hope you can join me this Tuesday!

Until next time….
To thine own self be TRUE.  For out of the abundance of the HEART, the mouth SPEAKS.
Choose to live in and on purpose!
Hugs…
Detra
Life Purpose Generator – Speaker | Coach | Consultant | Mentor
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You will be misunderstood

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And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not. (John 1:5 KJV)

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You will be put in places and around people who don’t get you. That’s okay. They’re not supposed, initially. As light in darkness, people who live in darkness or who live beneath their purpose don’t really know what it’s like to live in and on purpose. They have to be taught. They have to be shown. You have to be the example. People need to see what an intentional and unapologetic life looks like. They need to see someone who is happy on their job, who is happy in their marriage, who lives God and walks in the light that was given by Jesus.

If you have been wondering why no one gets it, it is because your light is unfamiliar to those in darkness. Your light is so bright that they have to squint their eyes and marvel at the who you are. It’s been so dark for so long that they aren’t even sure what light is anymore.
Be that light.
Be the salt.
Brighten up someone’s life and add some seasoning to it. It’s your mandate. It’s everyone’s mandate. Remember that to whom much is given much is required. You are required to use your gifts and double them. Make good on them. Don’t bury them and don’t let others dim your light because they don’t have the confidence to let theirs shine.
They may not understand now but they will in due time. Just keep shining your light in the dark places of your job, your marriage, your children, your family, your community & anywhere else God places you.
Keep shining your light!
Until next time….
Choose to live in and on purpose!
Hugs…
Detra
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Are you mentally sabotaging what you say verbally?

Check out this week’s Life Purpose Video Blog.

Is what you think, say and do in alignment?  If not, check out this week’s video.

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Choose to live in and on purpose!

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Get Started

Ok so I know I have been MIA for a minute…

I have been in transition and things have been a bit crazy (but in a good way).  I will fill you in at a later date.  However, I have been working to create more video blogs in addition to writing to make sure I am reaching my Trueheart family in a myriad of ways.  So with that said a few weeks ago, I started recording Life Purpose videos with short but powerful messages to help push, propel and provoke you into your life’s purpose.

I’m really tired of people walking around unhappy and unfulfilled when of the power to change your situation and circumstances lies in your hands.  My first video was about getting started and as you will see I am still trying to master posting videos online.  But in spite of the challenges, I’m committed to sharing and doing what God tells me to do.  What about you?  Will you get out of your own way and just do it.  No matter what the outcome, just take the first step.  Sometimes it’s not about the outcome but more about if you have the courage to just launch out into the deep (or even the shallow) end of purpose and do what you know in your heart of heart you should be doing.

Remember you don’t have to be great to get started but you do need to get started to be great.  So check out the video and be sure to leave me a comment to let me know what you think as well as share it with those you think would be blessed by watching the video.

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Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

Hugs…

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Speak Life Tele-Class – Early Bird Registration ENDS TODAY!

Hey TrueheartSpeaks family,

You may or may not know but I will be hosting a LIVE Tele-Class next Tuesday, April 29th from 6:30pm-8:30pm.  It’s entitled Speak Life: Creating the Life YOU Love with the Words YOU Speak.

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I want to share part of the message I shared with my TrueheartSpeaks mailing list family yesterday.  BTW, if you have yet to subscribe to the TrueheartSpeaks E-Zine & Free Monthly Life Purpose Coaching Calls, CLICK HERE to sign up now.

If you follow me at all, whether here on my blog, via my website, or on any of my social media pages, you know that I am very adamant about using the power of our words to create what we desire.  I’ve written a few bog posts on it and it is even included as a key component in many of my coaching programs, products and services.  Well over the past couple of months,  I really started noticing a pattern when having conversations with clients.

  • They were stuck, stagnant and feeling very stalled in life.
  • They weren’t happy with the way things were going in their lives personally and/or professionally.
  • Actually some were happy but things still seemed to stay the same in spite of efforts to go the the next level.
  • They comfortable and complacent.

You want to know what that pattern was that I noticed?  I figured you would want to know.

Well it was in their language.  

  • It was a self-defeated type of talk.  
  • It was a I want more and I want better but I don’t want to say anything just in case it doesn’t happen type of talk.  
  • It was a things are going really good but I’ve seemed to plateau and I’m not sure how to break through this ‘glass ceiling’ type of talk.  

You see how you speak about yourself tells me tons about how you see your life and your future.  

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Some of you say you believe it but your words don’t line up.  If you know anything about me you know that the things that have manifested in my life have not only been because of the vision that God has given me but also because I lined up my words with where I desired to be rather than where I was.  When I started my girls not for profit, the Young Miss Buffalo Pageant: Scholarship & Enrichment Program, Inc., 14 years ago, people will tell you that they remember me talking about what I was doing, how it looked, the layout of the program, etc. Even back then I understood the power of words and speaking things into existence.

Ok so, let me ask you this…

Are you talking ‘this‘ level talk when you should be talking ‘next‘ level talk?

Maybe you aren’t speaking death but maybe you are speaking comfort and complacency.  It is said that indecision is still making a decision, so since we are talking about speaking…. not saying anything is just as bad as speaking negative things over you, those around you and your circumstances.

I have so much to share with you and I believe that there are so many people who need to know that what you say is just as important as what you think. What you think and SAY determines what you do.  That’s why I’m inviting you to join me next Tuesday.  Listen, if anything I’ve said resonates with you, do not wait another minute overthinking yourself out of something that could change your life.  

REGISTER NOW!  

You have until next week to register however, you do not have until next week to get in at the Early Bird Rate of $27.00.  After TODAY it goes up to $47.00.  Yes…. for two hours and $27.00 you get me pouring into you and from tomorrow until next Tuesday, it goes up to the regular registration rate of $47.00.

REGISTER NOW!

Now maybe you are saying Detra, I really want to be there and I know this message is for me, but I can’t make it.  I have another commitment… well guess what!  If you can’t make it, NO WORRIES!! — Register Now… and once it’s done, the mp3 recording and the worksheets will be emailed to you afterwards so you can listen and do the work at your leisure.  But TRUST ME… you do not want to miss this.

Life is short… don’t wake up this Wednesday or next, saying woulda, coulda, shoulda… It’s time to do something you’ve never done in order to have what you’ve never had.  If what you are doing isn’t working, try something else.

I can’t wait to ‘see’ you on the SPEAK LIFE Tele Class call next week!

PS… look out for this week’s blog post!

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

Hugs…

Detra
Life Purpose Generator – Speaker | Coach | Consultant | Mentor
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Learn from FAILURE Don’t Run from It.

I was thinking of what to post this week and I happened to com across a coaching assignment that went out today for my Go Hard or Go Home 30 Day Jumpstart E-Program and decided I wanted to share it with you.  Be sure to do the assignment and share you comments with me below or on facebook or twitter.

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Learn from FAILURE Don’t Run from It.


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As we close out our last full week of our 30 day journey together, I want to close this week with today’s lesson, which is Learn from Failure DON’T Run from It.  Many times we are so afraid to fail and so afraid to try anything new, that we never do anything.  We run from failure instead of running towards it.  We hide behind bushes when we think failure is lurking and maybe it is lurking.  But let me tell you this, you will learn so much more from your failures than you will ever learn from your successes.  It is in your failures that your greatness is created, defined and some times refined.  Don’t let the possibility of what could ‘never’ happen keep you from trying and making it happen.  You have to learn how to confidently look the prospect of failure in the eye and move forward anyway.


You see the question isn’t if you will have problems, but how you are going to deal with your problems. We will all have things that come into our lives to shake us and make us but NEVER to break us.  What the devil meant for bad in your life, God can most assuredly turn it around for your good.  Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that ALL things work together for the good of those who love God and are the called according to His purpose.”  ALL things are working together for your good.  Trust and know that God has your best interest at heart when he allows obstacles to come your way.  Everything you are experiencing is preparing you for where you are going.  Let God shake some things up in your life.  There may be some ingredients that have settled down at the bottom that are needed to spice up your life, your purpose and your destiny. Shake them up so you can experience the FULL essence of all of the flavors you possess.

Will you fail backward or will you lean in and fail forward?  Don’t run from it… run to it and learn everything you can.  Life is all about solving problems.  You have to change your perspective when pursuing greatness.  You have to look at yourself as a problem solver.  Don’t focus on the problem, focus on the solution.  If it didn’t or doesn’t work, how can you tweak it to make it better that next go-round?  Or do you just scrap it and move it on.  Remember that learning to move on is just as important as staying around to try to fix it.  It takes wisdom to make that decision. Lastly, don’t forget to keep God in the mix.  Some things aren’t meant for you to touch, but just to experience.  If this is one of those instances, give the problem to God and keep it moving.

As the quote above implies (I’m paraphrasing), if you try, you stand a chance of losing, but if you don’t, you’ve already lost.  Stop running from it and run to it.  The very thing you are running from could be the very thing that makes all the difference in how you achieve your goals.  No you won’t know until you get knee-deep in it, but you will never know unless you try. 

Below is a little inspiration.  I have listed a few very successful people and how they failed (some tremendously) before becoming who we know them as today.  

  • Henry Ford: While Ford is today known for his innovative assembly line and American-made cars, he wasn’t an instant success. In fact, his early businesses failed and left him broke five times before he founded the successful Ford Motor Company.
  • R.H. Macy: Most people are familiar with this large department store chain, but Macy didn’t always have it easy. Macy started seven failed business before finally hitting big with his store in New York City.
  • Akio Morita: You may not have heard of Morita but you’ve undoubtedly heard of his company, Sony. Sony’s first product was a rice cooker that unfortunately didn’t cook rice so much as burn it, selling less than 100 units. This first setback didn’t stop Morita and his partners as they pushed forward to create a multi-billion dollar company.
  • Bill Gates: Gates didn’t seem like a shoe-in for success after dropping out of Harvard and starting a failed first business with Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen called Traf-O-Data. While this early idea didn’t work, Gates’ later work did, creating the global empire that is Microsoft.
  • Walt Disney: Today Disney rakes in billions from merchandise, movies and theme parks around the world, but Walt Disney himself had a bit of a rough start. He was fired by a newspaper editor because, “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” After that, Disney started a number of businesses that didn’t last too long and ended with bankruptcy and failure. He kept plugging along, however, and eventually found a recipe for success that worked.
  • Albert Einstein: Most of us take Einstein’s name as synonymous with genius, but he didn’t always show such promise. Einstein did not speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven, causing his teachers and parents to think he was mentally handicapped, slow and anti-social. Eventually, he was expelled from school and was refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School. It might have taken him a bit longer, but most people would agree that he caught on pretty well in the end, winning the Nobel Prize and changing the face of modern physics.
  • Thomas Edison: In his early years, teachers told Edison he was “too stupid to learn anything.” Work was no better, as he was fired from his first two jobs for not being productive enough. Even as an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. Of course, all those unsuccessful attempts finally resulted in the design that worked.
  • Oprah Winfrey: Most people know Oprah as one of the most iconic faces on TV as well as one of the richest and most successful women in the world. Oprah faced a hard road to get to that position, however, enduring a rough and often abusive childhood as well as numerous career setbacks including being fired from her job as a television reporter because she was “unfit for tv.”
  • Fred Astaire: In his first screen test, the testing director of MGM noted that Astaire, “Can’t act. Can’t sing. Slightly bald. Can dance a little.” Astaire went on to become an incredibly successful actor, singer and dancer and kept that note in his Beverly Hills home to remind him of where he came from.
  • J. K. Rowling: Rowling may be rolling in a lot of Harry Potter dough today, but before she published the series of novels she was nearly penniless, severely depressed, divorced, trying to raise a child on her own while attending school and writing a novel. Rowling went from depending on welfare to survive to being one of the richest women in the world in a span of only five years through her hard work and determination.
  • Michael Jordan: Most people wouldn’t believe that a man often lauded as the best basketball player of all time was actually cut from his high school basketball team. Luckily, Jordan didn’t let this setback stop him from playing the game and he has stated, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
  • Babe Ruth: You probably know Babe Ruth because of his home run record (714 during his career), but along with all those home runs came a pretty hefty amount of strikeouts as well (1,330 in all). In fact, for decades he held the record for strikeouts. When asked about this he simply said, “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”
  • Steven Spielberg: While today Spielberg’s name is synonymous with big budget, he was rejected from the University of Southern California School of Theater, Film and Television three times. He eventually attended school at another location, only to drop out to become a director before finishing. Thirty-five years after starting his degree, Spielberg returned to school in 2002 to finally complete his work and earn his BA.

The people I listed above aren’t any different from you or me.  The only thing that makes them different is their decision to never let no’s and rejection keep them from their dreams, goals, aspirations and purpose.  

My question is will you?

Your Daily Coaching Assignment:
Today’s Assignment is … Since failure is inevitable, if your perception of and response to failure were changed, what would you attempt to achieve?  I mean really think about.  I am sure that there are still some things you haven’t tried or won’t try because you are afraid of failing.  What if you were still afraid of failing but knew you needed to lean into it in order to achieve the success you desire?  Take some time today and think about recent setbacks you’ve experienced.  How did you respond?  Did you let it keep you down or did you get back up?  I hope you got back up :)  If not, then now is the time to run toward your failures, lean into them and learn from every single one of them?  Is it scary… ABSOLUTELY but it is so worth it!
I hope you enjoyed today’s lesson..

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

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Detra
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Iron Sharpens Iron

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This past week I had the opportunity to attend the Speak for Pay Conference hosted by Marshawn Evans.  Can I tell you I had time of my life!!!  As I look back, I realize that I was on assignment.  In addition to attending as a participant, my assignment included attending as someone who will be hosting her own live events and getting a clear vision of what life and business could be like for me one day.  I was expanding my vision and up leveling my current life and business.

You see the way God reveals visions and dreams to me is through experiences most times.  Some people see visions via dreams, I get mine through actual experiences.  I might show up at someone’s house and see something and the Lord will speak to me and say this is it… this is what I was referring to the other day.  Crazy right… I know …. but at any rate, from beginning to end of the event, God was showing me what is possible when I allow myself to be shifted and pushed out of my comfort zone and when I am in a space where I am with like-minded individuals.

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When we are with those who understand our struggle, our desires, and our passions, it somewhat takes the stress off of trying to explain greatness to people who just don’t ‘get’ it.  Well that’s how I felt.  I don’t know about you but when I can feel myself transitioning to the next level, I sometimes feel isolated or out of place.  However, that was not the case in Atlanta, where the event was held.  I was with a group of like-minded individuals being poured into by a mentor/coach who understood us.  Have you felt that way?  Where others didn’t really ‘get you’ or ‘get’ something you were going through or ‘get’ that dream you were pursuing?

Well sometimes you have to take the initiative the PUT yourself in environments where iron sharpens iron and birds of feather can flock together.  And not just any bird, but EAGLES.  You need someone who has been where you are going or who has experienced similar feelings and emotions in order for you to have the breakthrough you desire.  There were so many things that were confirmed while on this trip, so I knew I was in the right place.  When shifting and transitioning to that ‘next level,’ you need people in your circle, on your row and leading you who ‘get’ you.  You need iron to sharpen your iron.  Not plastic or glass, but iron.  You need people around you who are ‘like’ you.

If you are feeling a little isolated or estranged.  If you are feeling like no one ‘gets’ you. If you are in need of a coach or mentor who can really meet you where you are, you need an ‘iron sharpens iron’ experience like I had this past weekend.  If you don’t already have this in your life, you need to change it up.  Ask God to show you what changes you need to make.  Whether it’s changing your inner circle and the people on your row, do it.  Start aligning yourself with like-minded, purpose-driven, go-getters who are willing to do whatever it takes to pursue and live God’s best life.  If you need to invest in yourself by getting a coach or mentor or attending an event that will expose you to iron sharpeners, then DO IT.

  • You can’t keep waiting for them to get it; they won’t.  
  • You can’t keep waiting for the right time; it’s NOW.  
  • You can’t keep waiting for things to be perfect… NOT gonna happen.

It’s time for you to invest in yourself by surrounding yourself with WHATEVER is necessary to help provoke you into your life’s purpose.  I challenge you to make a list of things you know you need to do to start making that shift and DO one this week.  Go to an event where go getters are hanging out.  Sign up for a new training.  Be the iron that you are seeking and start sharpening those around you. If you are stuck and need help strategizing how to make the first move or take the first step, schedule a Strategy Coaching Session with me.

P.S … This month’s monthly coaching call takes place TOMORROW at 6pm.  If you are on my mailing list, no worries you are covered, but if not, then REGISTER NOW to get access to the call in details.  Tomorrow’s topic is all about getting rid of excuses.

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

Hugs…

Detra
Life Purpose Generator – Speaker | Coach | Consultant | Mentor
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Are you taking it all in???

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As I think back to a year ago when I launched my monthly motivational coaching calls, I am taking a moment to take it all in and relish in all that I have learned and experienced over the past year. Since I am out of town at a professional development conference, this month’s coaching call will take place on Tuesday, April 8 instead of today. I hope you enjoy today’s blast from the past. Remember that you can now also listen to my blog posts in addition to reading them. Until Next Time….

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On September 1st, we celebrated my son’s first Birthday. I am still in sheer amazement that this year has flown by so quickly. Some days I feel like it was just yesterday that I was bringing him home from the hospital. During my pregnancy, lots of people would tell me to ‘take it all in because it goes by so fast.’ To be honest, I still have family, friends and even strangers share the same sentiments as Dallas grows and gets older each day. So as I sat and watched Dallas sleeping the night before his birthday, I thought to myself, am I really taking it all in and have I done a good job of enjoying ‘the moment‘ in spite of still rushing through many of my days.

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Are you too accessible?

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Most people who know me, know that I am funny about my time.  I don’t like people trying to monopolize my time.  I also don’t like my time to be wasted.  I like to enjoy my time the way I want to.  Through client coaching conversations and random conversations with family and friends, I’ve learned that more and more people feel the need to answer every call, every text and respond to every email every time the phone chimes.  This need to be accessible has caused many people, myself included, to miss out on opportunities or become so distracted that we waste time helping people put out fires that have nothing to do with us.

Over the years I’ve become better at saying no, but that was very hard for at one time in my life.  I felt the need to say yes to every little thing someone asked me to do or be apart of.  Then in 2003, the Lord released me from every obligation by sending me to New York, New York as a National Urban Fellow to pursue my first Masters Degree at Baruch College.  I initially thought this degree was my ticket up the career path but it was far from it.  I learned so much about myself, who I was and who I was called to be, that getting the degree was miniscule.  The degree was just the catalyst used to get me away.

During that time I resigned from all committees, groups and organizations I was apart of and you know what …. it felt great to be in a place where I didn’t have any obligation to anyone or anything but to God and myself. Well school of course… but you know what I mean.  It was at that point that God began to show me that it was okay to resign and that the world wouldn’t fall apart of I decided to resign, withdraw or just say no.  I always thought I just HAD to be apart of ‘it.’  If it was something of interest, even a small interest, I most assuredly had to be involved.  NOT SO!  God began showing me that I was too accessible to others which limited my accessibility to Him.  I was saying yes to everything and everyone but I had forgotten my first love…. HIM.  I’m not sure who this is for but you have become too accessible.  You answer every call, you say yes to every request, you interrupt whatever it is that you have going on for someone else thus messing up your flow.  My question to you is… are you too accessible?

  • Is your phone always on?
  • Do you ever just not answer the phone without feeling guilty that you missed an important phone call?
  • Do you have to respond to every text EVERY TIME it comes through?
  • Do you say yes to every opportunity that is presented to you?
  • Do you say yes to every offer to serve on a committee at your church, your child’s school, sorority, etc?
  • Do you drop what you are doing at the drop a hat to appease, tend to and fix everyone else’s issues while leaving yours behind?
  • Do you put off those things that are of the utmost importance to you for things that are of less importance?

As you know I could go on… but listen here… if you said YES to any or most of these questions… you just might be TOO ACCESSIBLE.

As technology as gotten more savvy, I have had to get more intentional about not answering every call, not checking my email all day everyday, not checking every text or not liking every post on Facebook or intstagram.  I will be the first to tell you that as a workaholic I am a work in progress.  My hubby will tell you.  I could work tons of hours if he let me.  But I have an obligation to my husband to be a wife and to my son to be a mommy so I can’t be accessible to everyone else more than I am accessible to them as well as to myself.  Again… it’s a work in progress.  Sometimes I purposely leave my phone in another room just so I don’t have to hear the notifications or vibrating of the phone ringing and to be honest… it took some getting used to but now I like it.

So let me make some suggestions on how you can be less accessible.

  • cut off your phone
  • stop responding to every text that comes in
  • limit your time on Facebook, twitter, instagram, google plus, etc.
  • limit your time on email… check your email 2-3 times a day (I am currently working on this myself)
  • limit your business phone calls. Stop taking business calls after a certain time. (something else I too am working on)
  • limit your personal calls.  Spend some time with your family and yourself.  You cannot give what you do not have.
  • learn to say no.  I’ve said this a number of times in a number of my previous posts.  You can not be all things to all people.  Learn how to let people know that now is not the best time for you to commit to anything else.  Or just say you aren’t interested. Be honest.
  • turn off the notifications on your phone and computer so that you are not tempted to take a peek at who sent you what.

Now only you know if you are too accessible.  Only you know if you need to cut some things and some people back so that you can really focus on those things that are of the utmost importance to you.  I have shared a few tools with you; the question is will you use them.  As a LifeStyle Management Strategist, my job is give you simple and clear strategies on how to manage your life so you can live it in purpose everyday.

Your turn… tell me how accessible you are?  Do you have some work to do or have you mastered this skill?  As a work in progress, even I would like to know.  I’m still trying to find the perfect fit for how to make life as a mommy-wife-preneur work for me.  Some days are easier than others so your feedback could just be what our readers need to limit their accessibility and live more for themselves instead of others.

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!

Hugs…

Detra
Life Purpose Generator – Speaker | Coach | Consultant | Mentor
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